Tonight my daughter said.......

[Leatherette]

"I don't want to come out of V's (birthmom's) tummy. I want to come out of your tummy."

She is three.

Today she saw a friend's newborn nursing (she hasn't seen a lot of newborns). She also said tonight, for the first time, that she wanted milk from mommy.

I think I gave adequate responses to these remarks, but I'd love to hear what some of your eloquent responses might be.

L.

[BCFD]

Your post actually brought tears to my eyes. I tell my daughters that they "grew in L's tummy" and "grew in A's tummy" and they are only 26 and 15 months, so I'm not sure how much they understand yet. It will be interesting when my 2 year old is 3 next year and starts to comprehend this. My 2 year old also has seen me nurse my 1 year old (with formula and a lact-aid when I tried to induce), so she always tries to nurse and wants to see my "boobies" all the time. She loves baby dolls and has bottles, so she understands that you can "feed your baby milk with a bottle or with a booby". She has actually put her dolls to her chest to try to feed them which just makes me smile and laugh. But she also likes to play with bottles, too.

I'd love to hear what your responses were.

[bartleby]

I'm interested to hear good responses on this one too. My daughter is 27 months, and has already communicated something like this to me. Though, with her language ability at the moment, it was more like, "No, no. Out Mommy's tummy!" when I explained she'd grown in Birthmom's tummy. Thing is, with a two-year-old, she was on to another, completely unrelated topic so quickly that I didn't feel a need at that moment to get into a big chat about it. But I know it's coming...Hope you get some good replies.

[Buddhamom]

I did nurse my daughter for 9 mo. (she weaned herself )so she still sometimes will say "nurse" and I let her try to if she wants to. I guess I would just let her nurse, even if it is just comfort nursing.

[Leatherette]

Yeah, I should have posted my replies. To be honest, I was worried they'd be the "wrong" ones. To the comment about coming out of my tummy, I said, "You didn't come out of my tummy, but I am so glad you are here with me now." To the milk comment, I quite honestly answered, "Mommy's breasts don't have any milk in them." She seemed to accept these answers and didn't say any more about it.....but I am sure she will develop a little more persistence as she gets older.

[Emilie]

I would ask her why?
Keep her talking about it.
I wonder if I ever said anything like that.
You don't have to have all the right answers. Its okay.
Hugs mama.