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[lena1984]

dd's 1st birthday is coming up(waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay sooner than i expected it ) she was born April 15th..but didin't come home from the NICU until July 3rd

her actual b-day isin't a day i like to think about..all i can remember that day is the doctors at my beside telling me my baby may not make it: .things are such a blur..its just not a day i would like to celebrate: .

i really want to have a blowout party for her,(in celberation of her life, and to honor her)..but not on her b-day,rather on the anniversery of her home-coming, as thats the day that i TRULY felt she began living life, when she came home. she is our first child. I knew she was our child, and she belonged to us..but honestly, until she was home it wasn't real.

so point is, i want to celebrate her "b-day" 3 months later, think people will have a problem with it? i know it shouldn't bother me,and i should do what "i/we" want..but i need opinions..wwyd mamas?

[lindberg99]

Why not have a party for both? For her actual birthday, you could just get a cupcake or tiny cake and just invite her Grandparents or other close family (if they live near you). Have dinner and then have a cake and open a few presents.

Then in July, throw the big "coming home" blow out party and invite everyone that you want to!

It just seems kind of sad to me to not do anything on her birthday. After all, she proved the doctor wrong and that in itself is really something to celebrate.

[Amys1st]

I am in the same boat but Maggie's bday is next week. I too wanted a big blowout bday but since its still RSV season no way Jose!

So I might do a anniversary of her coming home but that also is around the same time as DD1's bday which we overlooked last year since that is when MAggie came home.

So her bday is on the 15th. We are going to bring chocolate cakes to the nicu and the hospital she was born at and visit. Also one to my OB. Then the following Saturday we are having a family party. But yes that date was very hard for us but that is US not Maggie so its not fair to dread her actaul birthdate IMO. But I can totally relate. Since last year on Valentines' Day this whole thing started, I have already told DH we will not be celebrating Valentines Day. Besides we celebrate it everyday already.