Horrible experience with my cousin yesterday!!! - Page 2

[Kundalini-Mama]

Originally Posted by iamthesmilingone

I'm left feeling for your cousin's baby. Can you imagine what it will be like for me? He's going to have a mom who does not understand him. He's probably going to be brow-beat into submission with no idea what he did wrong or why it is. And the second she turns her back...

[lovingmommyhood]

Oh wow, you poor thing! Honestly, try not to let them get to you. I have to deal with my families disapproval sometimes, thankfully it's mostly extended family. You know your son is a good kid and you know that they don't know what they're talking about.

Hugs!

[Ann-Marita]

Originally Posted by Jokerama

So in her opinion I should be able to take a firetruck away, tell him no and he should be ok with that and when her child is 3 that's how he'll be. He'll always listen to "no" the first time and she wont have to use spanking or yelling to get him to be that way.

: laughup

Wait just a sec while I recover my composure...

I was crying the whole way home because she upset me so much. She kept saying things like "I feel really sorry for your son. You're really doing him a disservice. He's going to have problems in life because he can't listen, etc etc etc" I really don't want to see her again.

DON'T. Don't see her again. Don't subject yourself to that kind of negativity. :

I'm sorry this happened.

[Jmo780]

*Hugs* That is terrible that they treated you that way. Being family especially!

Yea, don't let your 3 year old wake the baby because that would mean she'd have to get up and take care of him/her!:

[GooeyRN]

I don't know many 3 year olds at all who can be quiet for extended periods. I only know of one child that was/is the perfect 3 year old, and she has an AP mama. However, her sibling was an absolute terror at that age! 3 year olds have so much energy. Its not their fault! They are naturally inquisitive. If you don't want a 3 year old to tough something, it shouldn't be in view. Its part of being a 3 year old. I don't think you can really expect a child to "control" themselves until somewhere around 4 years old. She is in for a huge suprise when her little baby turns into a toddler. I will be laughing! (I know, thats really mean!)

[marybethorama]

I feel sorry for her baby too :(

her expectations are so out of line. In order for him to "behave" she'll have to browbeat him, exactly as someone else posted.

Or if he is a typical three-year old she may have forgot what she said to you.

Your ds sounds like a VERY well-behaved three year old. I'm sorry you had to deal with such awful people. Is it possible to limit your time with them?

Our contacts with family were limited because we live far away and it was a good thing. Our families were still horrible but at least we didn't have to hear it all the time.

I just want to repeat that your ds sounds like a true sweetheart and I'm sorry that you had to hear such negative things. You are doing a great job parenting him.

[wife&mommy]

You will have the last laugh on this one. Just please don't let her get to you, she will eat her words in a couple of years.

[saraann]

keeping things out of reach of a curious toddler is a really good method of discipline. It allows the toddler to explore their surroundings, and keeps things that are off limits, off limits without you having to constantly tell your toddler "no". You're doing an awesome job as a parent. Asking your cousin if you can move the CD's and swing was absolutely a good thing. She'll see someday.

[Cassandra M.]

I'm really sorry you had to deal with her! She sounds really hateful and catty.

[Terabith]

Originally Posted by Canadianmommax3

yes i would invite her and your aunt over when her baby is a toddler. Put lots of shiny things out so her child will be so interested in touching everything.
Make sure you have a babyswing handy to put in the middle of the room.
And when child touches everything, remind her that you don't want those things touched, and she isn't allowed to move anything out of childs reach!

ya that would be a fun payback:

and than when toddler has a screaming sh*t fit, ask her can't she "control" her child better?

:

[FoxintheSnow]

Thank you so much for all the support!!!Im so glad I posted on here because I was actually starting to doubt myself and my son for a second there. It really sucks because I have ALWAYS been supportive of her despite some of the regretable choices she's made.

Thanks for the kind words pajamamama! Don't worry about the dr appt. Ill figure something out, it's not urgent. And thanks for the bday wishes!