I'm in NY State and considering adoption, maybe, in the way future (my two young bio kids are keeping me quite busy at present!). We spoke briefly to a lawyer, since I was concerned about adoption issues regarding our AP parenting and non-vax and she suggested considering private adoption, since an agency wouldn't have custody during the waiting period and therefore there would be no one to require us to vax.
This is very very preliminary, and we actually have no idea if we'd pursue foreign or domestic, or ages, or anything really...but I am trying to get a sense of what private adoption is like. I have this picture of either getting a reference through friends or posting your dear birthmother letter on the Internet and talking to birthmothers...are those the ways it works? And if you did the Internet route, were you concerned about your private information out there on the Internet? In general, are the children being privately adopted as "in need" as other children, or are there many more choices already for the birthmothers to choose from in private adoption, and the agency children are more "in need"? (Obviously this is not the only reason we would make a decision of where to adopt from, etc., but still something to think about).
I'd also be concerned about how to make sure to offer the birthmother high quality counseling, etc. during and after the process.
If we adopt domestically, the child or infant would most likely be biracial or African American. If we use an agency domestically, WACAP's African American program would be a strong option.
TIA for any answers and/or direction in terms of books, websites, etc. to look at.
This is very very preliminary, and we actually have no idea if we'd pursue foreign or domestic, or ages, or anything really...but I am trying to get a sense of what private adoption is like. I have this picture of either getting a reference through friends or posting your dear birthmother letter on the Internet and talking to birthmothers...are those the ways it works? And if you did the Internet route, were you concerned about your private information out there on the Internet? In general, are the children being privately adopted as "in need" as other children, or are there many more choices already for the birthmothers to choose from in private adoption, and the agency children are more "in need"? (Obviously this is not the only reason we would make a decision of where to adopt from, etc., but still something to think about).
I'd also be concerned about how to make sure to offer the birthmother high quality counseling, etc. during and after the process.
If we adopt domestically, the child or infant would most likely be biracial or African American. If we use an agency domestically, WACAP's African American program would be a strong option.
TIA for any answers and/or direction in terms of books, websites, etc. to look at.
