I understand the 10-20 second thing. I did a lot of relaxation practice while pg and nursing DD down for a nap- I figured the opportunity was there
They defintely pick up on asking to nurse as a way of getting mommy time- maybe that's what's happening. If it's any consolation ( or at least just comic relief), DD1 has also figured out that telling me she needs to poop gets her mommy time as well since she doesnt wipe herself
Engaging DD in other things was key to the nursing limits for us. It felt a little like bribery at first, but the reality was that we DID have more time to play, read books, etc if we didn't have several 30 minute long nursing sessions during the day.
I pretty much decided yesterday that naps are over for her- or at least me nursing her down for them. Ever since my milk came in, she sucks continuously for several minutes (the length of time it used to take her to go to sleep) and then doesn't fall asleep
: She's overjoyed at the yummy milk and can't settle to sleep and I'm thoroughly irritated at having ouchy nipples from her marathon sucking and still having her awake.
I get a little nostalgic about our great nursing relationship and how close it is to ending, then I remind myself that this is how it's supposed to happen. They're supposed to move onto other things- sometimes it just takes gentle encouragement from us. At least I hope I;m not just fooling myself.