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post #21 of 44
They're jealous
post #22 of 44
Serena - I've wondered, "Is it the hijab and niqab or the sling?" a few times myself when I got random dirty looks from strangers. I just shrug it off, though, because for all I know, they lost their glasses and have to give an evil squinty death glare. LOL. And I've gotten more positive comments on the sling from the older generation too.
post #23 of 44
I get stares a lot, but no dirty looks. When dh wears a sling he REALLY gets stares!! I think people just don't know what to think of it.
post #24 of 44
I'm sorry to hear of the mamas who get dirty looks. I try to look sneakily because I think seeing a mama (or dad!) with a baby strapped to them is so beautiful and precious!
post #25 of 44
If you ever see a petite, pregnant lady with a round face and brown hair sneek a peek, it's just me! Although, I'm not shy, so as soon as I knew you caught my look, I'd be over asking what type of sling it was, where you got it, etc. I'm trying to find out all I need to know about babywearing!
post #26 of 44
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
I stare at people with slings. Where there's a sling, there might be a cute baby! Plus, I'm trying to tell if the sling is homemade.

I stare at people in hajibs. Well, okay, only if I love the color, there's just something about silken fabric that makes things more beautiful. Plus, I do 12th century dress up (SCA) and it's cool to see how veils are worn modernly. (Same reason I stare at nuns.)

I don't mean to stare, it just happens because I get caught up in thinking about things and forget to move my eyes. As soon as I realize I'm staring I stop.
I find myself doing that too. I LOVE the wonderful fabrics patterns and lace trims I see on the scarves and wish I had a reason to wear them. I also try to figure out how they keep them on. I have a drawer full of scarves and feel I never have any reason to wear them. They are so lovely in the box, but I can never figure out how to wear them.

I also look at women who are baby wearing to see how they are doing it and to see if I can learn something new.

I hope they don't think I'm giving them a dirty look but I'm sure they may think I'm rather odd.

Sorry about the dirty looks. There is no excuse for that. I've been on the recieving end of these when out with DH in his uniform. Mostly people are very nice, but we had one koot go off about the Iraq war in the airport. It was really sad as I was so excited to show DH that DD had learned to nurse and he had been gone for some time. It put a bit of a damper on our reunion, and that was the first time I told someone to F-off in front of DD.
post #27 of 44
I'll bet I would have looked too long at you because you sound like an interesting person. A sling and a scarf? I'd be thinking, what a cool lady she must be! And I'd forget not to stare. Sorry. I'm kind of a hopeless people watcher. But I'd probably have my kid in a sutemi carrier so it would be obvious that I'm down.
post #28 of 44
I just can't comprehend anyone glaring at a sling wearer. It makes no sense to me. But I'm in Portland where "normal" is not the norm.
post #29 of 44
I am in a place where babywearing is not so unusual. What gets the people staring at me is when dd and I do our toddler/mama acrobatics to get her onto my back and into her Ergo (she's a pro)! I swear, if I had a dime for everytime I heard, "Need some help?"...I usually say, "No thanks, it might screw us up and cause dd to fall!"
post #30 of 44
People have stared at me too. I live in a very rural area, everybody knows everyone's business if ykim? I don't like it. Part of the reason why I want to move!!

Anyway be proud mama for doing the best for your child!! Truly maybe they are just curious?? Hopefully that is the case.
post #31 of 44
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Originally Posted by lmartinx1 View Post
I've just recently started wearing my newborn out in public. (either in a RS or a pouch) So far, I've had several people stop me to ask if I had a baby in there or a PUPPY!!! I had never heard of such a thing!! Anyone else??
ive seen dog slings in stores, and have actually seen a few in person as well.... its interesting, lol
post #32 of 44
We wear DS in a mei tai pretty much everywhere we go and we get a LOT of stares (mostly confused ones), but so far no dirty looks.
post #33 of 44
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Originally Posted by ashleyhaugh View Post
ive seen dog slings in stores, and have actually seen a few in person as well.... its interesting, lol
We flew with the kids when DD was only 5 months and I had her sleeping in a sling and the flight attendent asked me if I could come up and write down for her where to get one, etc, etc....then after 5 minutes of her asking/me telling her...she goes, "well, my dog is having hip surgery...."
post #34 of 44
I've gotten stares, but I think people are really just currious. Ocasionally people will come up to me and ask about my sling, where I got it, etc, they have been looking but can't find one.....
post #35 of 44
I get lots of stares. Most comments are very positive. I do get alot of questions. If I get dirty looks it tends to be because people think I have too many kids and not so much about the slings.
post #36 of 44
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Originally Posted by quietserena View Post
I went to Target with DD in a ring sling, facing out.

I got *the* dirtiest looks from two moms with kiddos in strollers. I just smiled at them and smiled at the kiddos. I mean, what do I know, maybe they've got back problems and can't babywear. I don't care that their kiddos are in strollers! My DD and I are happy with a sling, for our reasons.

Maybe it was my scarf. I've gotten a few dirty looks about it since 9/11. Maybe the combination of my scarf and the sling makes me look too foreign, and in these xenophobic times that justifies a dirty look.

I did get really sweet smiles from two elder couples though. That makes me feel better but it doesn't erase those other looks.

</vent> Thanks for listening.
This is why I love babywearing here, in hillbiehell!! I can educate so many people about it. WHat shocks me is the people who wnat one ( dads and grandmas) It is the main reason why I started my own business making them.
post #37 of 44
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Originally Posted by intorainbowz View Post
I find myself doing that too. I LOVE the wonderful fabrics patterns and lace trims I see on the scarves and wish I had a reason to wear them. I also try to figure out how they keep them on. I have a drawer full of scarves and feel I never have any reason to wear them. They are so lovely in the box, but I can never figure out how to wear them.

I also look at women who are baby wearing to see how they are doing it and to see if I can learn something new.

I hope they don't think I'm giving them a dirty look but I'm sure they may think I'm rather odd.

Sorry about the dirty looks. There is no excuse for that. I've been on the recieving end of these when out with DH in his uniform. Mostly people are very nice, but we had one koot go off about the Iraq war in the airport. It was really sad as I was so excited to show DH that DD had learned to nurse and he had been gone for some time. It put a bit of a damper on our reunion, and that was the first time I told someone to F-off in front of DD.
I also have found myself staring at hajibs... because they are ALWAYS gorgeous. We have quite a few Muslim ladies in my area, and I am almost infatuated with them, because they always look so lovely. The scarves are always such beautifully patterened and colored silk fabrics, and on the ladies with darker skin tones, the rich fabric sets off the rich tones in their skin, which I totally envy. Plus, I think scarves really do draw the attention toward someone's eyes.

But usually, when I'm staring, I'm making this "Gosh how pretty" almost wistful drool-y face that's hard to confuse with glaring. I always get smiles in return, at least!


I've gotten a few dirty looks when I, or ESPECIALLY DH slings. In the home of the SUV stroller, and especially because during fairs or carnivals in the summer I go barefoot or in "slave sandals", I get all sorts of dirty looks. I just grin real big at people, and usually they at least back off.
post #38 of 44
I mostly get a lot of smiles and even the occassional "oh what a lucky baby". The only time I ever got grief over it was at a "friends" house. They were having a birthday party for my brother in law and some of my in laws were there as well as some pre-baby friends. People thought my wrap was just so weird, and they laughed and made jokes about it. aaahhh, family and "friends" they are just so supportive aren't they. Can't wait till they start having kids.
post #39 of 44
First off, think that hijabs are beautiful too. I live in the UK but I'm an American and it really disgusts me that since 9/11 people would give people wearing them dirty looks.....

I think people are partly facinated by it, and partly confused.

I find I either get "wow how cool" looks or "what the???" looks.

I always hate it when I'm happily babywearing and suddenly DD decides she wants to cry and kick off...I think fear people giving me judgemental looks and thinking i'm making my baby unhappy.
post #40 of 44
For me, I've always thought it was curiosity. I can't say I've gotten 'dirty' looks. We had my dd's birthday party at a huge park last weekend and I had my ds in my Ergo on my back. I was so busy I sort of forgot he was there. Then this woman was smiling at me and laughing a little and I found myself getting upset, wondering why is she smiling at me like that! Than I realized she wasn't smiling at me but the cutie on my back .
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