Would you go on vacation without your family?

[sesa70]

My SIL just invited me to Mexico for a four day weekend I am so super excited to go, but I cant help but feel guilty about leaving my family.

My dh is slightly jealous that he doesnt get a vacation but this sort of getaway is not his thing and he would not want to go anywhere beachy and tropical but would much rather go somewhere with mountains and hiking. He is very supportive and encouraging for me to go and have some 'me' time.

Dh is very capable of caring for our two girls. He plans to take the two weekdays off of work and his dad may come stay for a night to make it a fun experience for everyone. So why do I feel like I am doing something wrong?

Would you other moms go? Would you feel guilty about it? I should be happy about finally getting a vacation, but I am feeling sorta like a butt.

[cinnamonamon]

If I thought my kids were old enough & would be happy/fine w/o me -- absolutely!!

[raleigh_mom]

I have gone on vacation with my kids, minus DH, due to his needing to be at work. And DH takes one trip with his friends each year - usually 3 days.

And we take trips together, of course.

[moonshine]

Originally Posted by cinnamonamon

If I thought my kids were old enough & would be happy/fine w/o me -- absolutely!!

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[alisonsage]

Originally Posted by cinnamonamon

If I thought my kids were old enough & would be happy/fine w/o me -- absolutely!!

ditto!!! you've gotta take care of yourself mama, and having fun and relaxing (not to mention feeling like an adult!) is super important for your mental health!

[sesa70]

Originally Posted by alisonsage

ditto!!! you've gotta take care of yourself mama, and having fun and relaxing (not to mention feeling like an adult!) is super important for your mental health!

Thankyou, I know your right, but why do I feel so guilty? LOL~! My older daughter is 7.5 and she loves daddy time. My youngest is 15 months, but I know that my dh is fully capable and will take wonderful care of her while I am gone. I just cant get over the thought that I am not supposed to go and I feel like I am doing something bad!

[chinaKat]

Hell yeah. I've done it before and I'll do it again.

Love my family to death, but I need time with my girlfriends sometimes too.

It doesn't make me a bad mom at all, not even close.

[Jennisee]

It would depend on the child's ages and how they dealt with separations from me. If my children were school-aged (at least 5) and dealt with separations ok, then I absolutely would do it.

[mama ganoush]

hells yes.

[momto l&a]

I would if i thought our kids would be fine without me.

Being that none of them require being bf though my youngest ( 27 months ) still like to nurse she doesn't need or require it for sleep.

So yes I would go, I think it would be great for me to recharge and get good nights of sleep.

[Storm Bride]

Nope - it doesn't interest me. But, I don't see a problem with it, if the kids don't need you there. Going to Mexico makes more sense for you than it does for me to be attending the ICAN conference in April, and leaving ds2 at home with his dad...

[TinkerBelle]

Yes. Why not?

[AngieB]

I would feel very guilty. Not that I'm telling you to stay home, you should go! I'm just saying I understand the guilt. I think I would feel bad that DH wasn't getting to go. Maybe he could go away for the weekend after you get back. I would also feel bad about spending the money on myself, which is also not a good reason to stay home.

Go have a good time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[whateverdidiwants]

I've done it twice, for 3 days each time, and had a blast!

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

If my ds was older and not still nursing and dh was capable of watching the kids I would go so fast it would make your head spin

I would feel a guilty but chances are nothing like that will ever happen to me.

[marybethorama]

Yes, Yes, Yes

If I only could

I don't have a nursing baby or toddler and dh is as much a parent as I am.

I'd go in a heartbeat but it's not in the cards right now.

[Still_Learning]

Honestly, I wouldn't. I would miss DS too much. e would proabbly be fine without me, but I'd have major seperation anxiety. Does that make me weird??

[BlueStateMama]

My mom and I went out to a spa in Arizona every year from my senior yr in HS through the year I was pg with DS - about 12 consecutive years. I loved, LOVED those trips and they were such special times together. We haven't gone since because I've had two DC back-to-back and someone has always been nursing. I'm hoping to go to a similar place with her for 3 or 4 days (it's w/in driving distance) in the fall. DD will be 2 1/2 and hopefully she'll be OK with Daddy and her favorite Aunties (who are very involved in her life) over a long weekend. She's nursing a good deal now, so we're going to have to see what happens over the summer and where she is with that. DS is in preschool and a complete Daddy's boy, so I think he'd LOVE the one on one time w/ DH and his cousins.

My mom's in her 70s and I don't want to miss out on my special travel time with her too much longer, but I'm torn about it. On the other hand, I've never been away from the kids, so I don't know if *I'd* be OK!

[limabean]

Yep -- in fact, I'm catching a flight in a few hours to go spend the weekend with my girlfriend and give my DH and DS a boys' weekend together!

[newmommy]

No, I would not. And DH is Another Mama to DS. But, *I* have Separation Anxiety issues from my family.

I don't know when I will ever be at that point.