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post #21 of 66
i have not seen monsters inc., but i would hold off on the incredibles until age 8. it's fast-paced, as a good adventure movie should be, and fraught with tension between siblings, and has adult humor.

one movie that is good for big and little kids is cars.
post #22 of 66
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Originally Posted by 4evermom View Post
I think Monsters, Inc would be alright but I would hold off on the Incredibles.
That's funny - I think Monsters Inc is scarier than The Incredibles.

I took my dd1 (now 10, think she was around 5 when it came out?) to see Monsters Inc in the theater. Oh, that was one of my worst parenting mistakes. She was traumatized for years. She had (previous to that) slept in her room, lights off and door closed. After that movie, no more of that. She will now sleep with her door closed, but she still insists on a night light. I had friends that had seen it tell me not to take her, but I didn't listen. I thought that since the monsters were scared of the little girl, it would be alright. Nooooo.....

My kids all watch The Incredibles - they are 10, 6 and 3. We have it on dvd, though I personally don't think it is good enough to buy. Dh did, so we have it.

My dd2 and dd3 still haven't seen Monsters Inc as we had such a terrible experience when dd1 watched it!

None of my kids have seen any Harry Potter, though the first one is on my list of fave movies. Just love the "fondest heart's desire" part....

My kids have all been to Disneyland a couple of times, and understand "Mickey magic" in regards to the rides and shows. We talk about the movies that way too - it isn't real; it is like Mickey magic.

I think kids are different. If you think it might be a problem for your kid, wait. My dd1 is a much different kid than dd2 or dd3.
post #23 of 66
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Originally Posted by OakBerry View Post
Thanks everyone.
He is a bit sensitive, and tends to get overstimulated by lots of action and loudness. When a character on a show cries or is very angry or shows strong emotions, ds cringes or acts uncomfortable.
If your son is sensitive, DON'T. Our ds is 5 1/2. We saw Cars in the theater this summer. His first movie. He was OK, but found it fairly scary in certain spots. It's a very tame movie. It has ONE scene where the cars are being chased by a combine (yes it makes sense in the movie). He had a nightmare for several nights after the movie.

Most 'children's' movies have a structure that your average 4 year old won't understand. Kids under 6 or 7 do not understand the 'high point' narrative, where there is an intense climax, and then a resolution. They get freaked by the climax, and don't always link it to the resolution.

IMO, little kids don't belong at movies until they're 5 or 6. They definitely don't belong at R rated movies. It's up to mom and dad to determine whether they belong at other movies. Not all kids are as sensitive as our ds, I know, but I do believe kids are damaged by seeing movies that are beyond their ability to understand.

I'd rather err on the side of caution.
post #24 of 66
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Originally Posted by LynnS6 View Post

Most 'children's' movies have a structure that your average 4 year old won't understand. Kids under 6 or 7 do not understand the 'high point' narrative, where there is an intense climax, and then a resolution. They get freaked by the climax, and don't always link it to the resolution.

IMO, little kids don't belong at movies until they're 5 or 6. They definitely don't belong at R rated movies. It's up to mom and dad to determine whether they belong at other movies. Not all kids are as sensitive as our ds, I know, but I do believe kids are damaged by seeing movies that are beyond their ability to understand.

I'd rather err on the side of caution.
post #25 of 66
I am amazed at the movies my dd likes. When I was her age, most Disney movies scared me half to death. She LOVEs Harry Potter and Pirates and has since she was 2 yo. She has seen Monster's Inc and Incredibles with babysitters. Neither has fazed her. But I can see how both could be scary to a sensitive child. At 4 yo your child is probably old enough to deicde. Explain that there are some intense parts and maybe even give a little detail and let him decide. You can always turn it off is he says he is scared and wants to stop watching.
post #26 of 66
My DD has watched both (she is 4). I think they are both fine - but you have to trust your instincts. You could watch them both first - they are quite fun for adults too, and then judge.

Kathy
post #27 of 66
My 4 year old and I just watched Monsters, Inc this afternoon. He's a pretty scared little dude about most things, but he finds Monsters, Inc absolutely hilarious. He also loves the Incredibles, as well, and is head over heels for Cars, which I think has A LOT of adult humor in it.
post #28 of 66
The most shocking thing I've seen lately was the exodus of a family of four (grown woman and three kids, probably aged 7 through 12) about halfway through the movie Borat. Apparently the last straw for that mom was when Borat showed the pictures of his family . . . including his naked son with prominently featured penis. Which was almost ironic, because a naked penis was about the least offensive thing in that movie.

I was just glad I didn't know they were there until they were leaving. The distraction of viewing the movie through their little eyes would have completely killed it for me.

What the hell was she thinking?
post #29 of 66
We have both movies Incredibles and Monsters Inc and DS has seen both.
post #30 of 66
I think it depends on how sensitive he is my dd is into Strawberry Shortcake and gets a little scared with a few of the movies even though she has seen them a lot and wants to watch them again. I tried to watch Monsters Inc. with dd and she hated it and was very scared so we quit almost immediately, a few months later she watched it with her class mates on movie day and her teacher said she was fine with it but she still woke with nightmares and said she didn't like it at all.
If your son isn't used to scary I would be cautious about introducing it and have a back up movie on hand that he will really enjoy.
post #31 of 66
I'm glad to have run into this thread. My ds1 (4 years old) is sensitive to scary and tense situations in movies. My mom is a nanny for another four year old that has a ton of movies. We've been borrowing one every once in a while for my ds. Last week was Finding Nemo and we had to skip through a lot of it. He did okay with Toy Story recently, but we had to turn it off after a few mintutes the first time he tried to watch it. There were also parts in Charlotte's Web (the old version) that he didn't want to watch. He really likes Curious George and Cars. He borrowed a book and read about Monsters Inc. and I had considered borrowing it, but now I don't think I will. My mom is more into showing him movies than I am. Occassionally it is okay, but if something scares him, I don't hesitate to skip it or turn it off if he wants me to.
post #32 of 66
For my son, it's more about his body language than what he says. He'll say, "I like scary movies," or,"but it's not scary," then get really close to me or hide his face during a part that is scary. We defintiely screen movies first, now. He doesn't watch a lot, so we want to make sure what he does see won't get inot his head and cause him any distress.

My ds has seen The Incredibles once. We wish he hadn't, but we hadn't seen it and didn't know it was so intense. It has a lot of fighting, guns, fire, etc. Pretty fast-paced, too. Not a good fit for ds. He is pretty sensitive. My mom showed him Riki Tiki Tavi yesterday and he was really concerned for the small animals when the cobras came. He didn't want any animals to be hurt. So, my mom turned it off, and ds was actually glad she did.

I know it can be easy to let them sit in front of a movie and assume they're okay cause it's rated G, but I would recommend screening movies first, or at least really paying attention to the movie's content, and definitely watch with your kiddo.
post #33 of 66
my ds's favorite movie is "monsters, inc" (and mine too!). He is almost 4 but has LOVED monsters, inc as well as sharkboy and lava girl and robots since he was about 3. Great movies!
post #34 of 66
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Originally Posted by fw221 View Post
DD has been watching Monsters, Inc. since she was 2. Of course, her favorite movie when she was 2 was also Pirates of the Caribbean, so she wasn't your typical 2 year old. She's just over 5 now and has been watching the Incredibles for the last couple of days. She also still enjoys Little Bear, Maggie & the Ferocious Beast and the Upside Down Show. IME watching more "mature" movies doesn't decrease interest in gentler shows. Depends on the child, though. I wouldn't recommend PotC for everyone's 2 year old.
Sounds like my DS.
post #35 of 66
My DD is almost 5. She is pretty sensitive, and I know both those movies would be too much for her. Of all the kids movies described, I think Cars is the best for little kids. There is the combine-chasing-the-cars part (actually twice, once "IRL" and once in a dream sequence), which we skipped over the first few times we watched the movie. Depending on how tense my DD gets when we are watching that part now, sometimes I will still talk with her about it and how it makes her feel.

To the OP, you might be interested in searching out a thread I started a few months ago. I asked if people thought 4 years old was too young for Star Wars. I definitely do...but apparently I am in the minority. Most of the folks replying thougth Star Wars was just fine for little children. I gotta say, I was surprised. But, each family makes their own choices and maybe if I had a DC with a different temperament I might think differently. (but I doubt it)

Our video store has Arthur, Caillou and a few other TV series on DVD. A lot of times we get one of those for our DD's "movie".

~Diane
post #36 of 66
I'll be in the minority and say it's okay - but I agree with the PPs that it's up to each child and what YOU feel he's ready for.
post #37 of 66
I don't know if this has been mentioned already but watching the "making of" and other "extras" on the dvd before watching the movie itself is often a really good way of putting it all into perpective. The kids get to see how it's all fake. It's especially good if you have more than one kid and think it may be a bit scary for the youngest one.
post #38 of 66
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone.
I typed out a huge response last night and the server was busy, so I lost it. Grr..
I have seen Monsters Inc (adorable) and The Incredibles myself and loved them both. I do think I'll be waiting to show them to ds though at this point. I really do think they are too intense for him now.
We took ds to see "Cars" when it came out, it was his first movie in the theater. He absolutely loved it! That and "Curious George" are about his speed.

Diane in Corvallis, lol I remember that thread. I think I posted about going on a date night with my dh to " Star Wars Revenge of the Sith" and ending up next to a couple with a light saber wielding 3 year old and a tiny baby in a car seat carrier. I was shocked because it was very loud, violent and intense, and I thought it was very inappropriate for young children. I felt bad for the infant's eardrums too.
I hope this doesn't start an arguement, that's not my intention. It just seems that there is a huge variation in what parents seem appropriate for their kids.
post #39 of 66
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Diane in Corvallis, lol I remember that thread. I think I posted about going on a date night with my dh to " Star Wars Revenge of the Sith" and ending up next to a couple with a light saber wielding 3 year old and a tiny baby in a car seat carrier.
Wow. Just....wow.
post #40 of 66
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Originally Posted by OakBerry View Post
I hope this doesn't start an arguement, that's not my intention. It just seems that there is a huge variation in what parents seem appropriate for their kids.
I don't find that offensive, and I am (obviously) very liberal about what my kids see .. . my four year old has been to multiple r-rated movies and is not only unfazed but is able to talk about them afterwards, so we know she is understanding what she needs to.

I do think it's odd when people say they can't enjoy an "adult" movie because they see kids in the theatre . . . I think you (general you) need to understand that what works for one family may not work for another, and there's no need to judge. I think every mom is capable of making the best decision for her kids -- she knows them best.
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