Movie question? - Page 3

[UUMom]

Originally Posted by Diane in Corvallis

Wow. Just....wow.

I took my 6 week old newborn to Schindler's List. He slept/nursed through the whole thing. Would it be better to leave the infant home with a babysitter and bottle?

Why do people think those of us with infants should not go out?

[OakBerry]

See, I didn't mean that people with kids or infants shouldn't go out to see movies.
My reason for being concerned was that it was late at night, the 3 year old seemed tired, overstimulated (and was whacking me and all the seats around him with said light saber). So yes, having children there at that particular movie did lessen my enjoyment of it, quite a bit in fact. I was out without mine, for once, and had to deal with somebody elses.
Plus the movie was loud. Very loud. My ears were bothered by it, I thought it must be bothering the baby too.

[oyemicanto]

Originally Posted by Jessy1019

I don't find that offensive, and I am (obviously) very liberal about what my kids see .. . my four year old has been to multiple r-rated movies and is not only unfazed but is able to talk about them afterwards, so we know she is understanding what she needs to.

I hope you don't mind that I bolded part of your post - what can't understand is what is it that she needs to understand? What is the purpose in bringing a 4 year old to a rated R movie?

[Jessy1019]

Originally Posted by cgmom

I hope you don't mind that I bolded part of your post - what can't understand is what is it that she needs to understand? What is the purpose in bringing a 4 year old to a rated R movie?

She's understanding the story enough to follow it, so she's not sitting there clueless the whole time.

And the purpose? We go to the movies as a family, a lot. And we all like different things . . . my partner likes action, I like teen comedies, and so far, Rylie seems to enjoy all of it. She actually likes a lot of the stuff I don't (horror for instance). Anyway, I would rather bring her with us -- and she almost always chooses to come. The movies we've seen have brought up good topics of conversation, and I'm not a fan of sheltering my kids from much of anything. Anything she doesn't understand, we can talk about. I really don't see the harm, though I know other people think we're absolutely insane.

[OakBerry]

Ok, another one. What about "Over The Hedge". And isn't there another one that is similar? I guess dh and I will be previewing lots of kids movies in the near future..

[BellaLuv]

For those looking for some good kids' movies, I have found an option in letting my dd see old movies. Her faves are The Sound of Music and Singin' in the Rain. She loves the songs, dances around with them (exercise, right?), and those old musicals rarely have any violence or disturbing parts. I will tell you that my dd definitely has more problems with the violence in The Little Mermaid than in The Sound of Music. The cartoons just seem to be so intense sometimes, kwim?

To the poster who takes her kids to R-rated movies, I'm just curious, how do you deal with the foul language they hear? You're one lucky mom if your kids don't try out every new word or phrase they hear.

[hipumpkins]

Bella luv, I'm wiht you!
My DD loves the sound of music and has since she was 3. She Loves to pretend she is von trap kid or sometimes Maria.
Right now she is really loving The Wizard of OZ. We read the book a coupke of times and I told her that the movie version was a bit scrier b/c the witch was MUCH meaner. A few months later she came to me and said she wanted to see the movie..I remeinded her about the scary parts and she said she was redy. She LOVED it but we waited until she told us she was ready for that type of thing.
We used to fast forward throught the begining of Monster's Inc and she loved the rest but only very recently she has decided to watch the whole thing. she didn't understand The incredibles at all.

she loves the veggie tales!

[Jessy1019]

Originally Posted by BellaLuv

To the poster who takes her kids to R-rated movies, I'm just curious, how do you deal with the foul language they hear? You're one lucky mom if your kids don't try out every new word or phrase they hear.

We don't mind our kids using what others may think of as "bad words," so language in movies (as well as IRL) is not an issue for us. They probably hear me using it way more often than they hear it in movies, anyway, though I am surprised at how infrequently dd cusses.

[Elyra]

totally depends on the kiddo. Monsters Inc. for instance my ds1 did great with, but the first few times he wanted to sit on my lap in the beginning scare scene. Ds2 likes it a lot as well he was never scared or anything I would try to cuddle him and he'd push me off. My littlest Ds3 it scared the bejeebes out of and if he sees the dvd case he cries. He is very very sensitive to images and sounds and cartoons and such often frighten him.

Three kids raise in the same home having very different reactions to the same movie. Only you know your kiddo and what they can handle and what their sensitives are when it comes to what movie content is appropriate.

If we are going to see a movie in the theater and I don't already know what is going to happen, I have had good luck so far reading the Movie Mom reviews. It's pretty detailed in things that may or may not upset children.

ETA: All three of my kiddos loved the Incredibles. Actually for my youngest I went out one evening after they were in bed leaving the kids with my parents. I was delayed in getting home and he woke up and was very upset I was not there to nurse him, My parents were trying every thing to calm him, but it was about a 20 minute trip for me to make back and in the end they were able to put on the Increibles and he calmed right down until I got home.

[Yooper]

Originally Posted by BellaLuv

For those looking for some good kids' movies, I have found an option in letting my dd see old movies. Her faves are The Sound of Music and Singin' in the Rain. She loves the songs, dances around with them (exercise, right?), and those old musicals rarely have any violence or disturbing parts. I will tell you that my dd definitely has more problems with the violence in The Little Mermaid than in The Sound of Music. The cartoons just seem to be so intense sometimes, kwim?

To the poster who takes her kids to R-rated movies, I'm just curious, how do you deal with the foul language they hear? You're one lucky mom if your kids don't try out every new word or phrase they hear.

My dd loves old musicals too! Fiddler on the Roof is a good one. We just skip the dream scene at dd's request.

However, I also have let dd see rated R movies. We avoid violence in movies (for everyone's sake) but I am not worried about swear words or mild sexual content. Foul language? Dd hears it all over. I really do not care if she uses swear words. We discuss that some people do not like it and that it is probably best to avoid using them at Grandma's or at a friend's whose parents do not allow swearing. Shockingly, she figured out "appropriateness" right away and we have never had a problem. I have never figured out what the big deal is about words.

[SandraS]

Originally Posted by Yooper

I have never figured out what the big deal is about words.

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[UUMom]

Originally Posted by OakBerry

Ok, another one. What about "Over The Hedge". And isn't there another one that is similar? I guess dh and I will be previewing lots of kids movies in the near future..

We love OTH. It's not cutesy at all. There's a message there for sure. There is some bunny violence. And the Homeowner's Association prez gets walloped...as she should. "I measured. Your grass is 2.5 inches high, and the HOA guidelines clearly state it cannot be over 2" high.' (not an exact quote, but you get the drift.

I love the garbage and food scenes. Sadly, too true.

[UUMom]

Originally Posted by mom2bja

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Yeah. And the thing is, when kids know it doesn't matter, they don't bother using them.

None of my kids swear.

[RBinTEX]

You know, you can never tell what a kid will "see" when she watches a movie. My 2 yo's favorite is Monsters Inc. Finding Nemo scares the bejeebers out of her when the scuba diver comes up and catches the fish!

[Hatteras Gal]

My soon to be 5 yo has seen both of them. We think the Pixar movies are the best animated movies out there.

[cyncyn]

Dd saw both those movies at age 3 and was fine with them. She watches Monsters Inc. over and over, and is not scared at all. She liked the Incredibles, but doesn't ask for it over and over. She was a little scared about the verminator in Over the Hedge, but just from the picture on the box. In the actual movie she was fine with it. Also fine with Nemo, Ice Age, Cars, Charlotte's Web, etc.
She is not particularly brave, so I was a little surprised that she wasn't scared. I think she knows the movies aren't real life.

I would rent them if you aren't sure and that way you can return them if he doesn't like them.

[Houdini]

Originally Posted by BellaLuv

To the poster who takes her kids to R-rated movies, I'm just curious, how do you deal with the foul language they hear? You're one lucky mom if your kids don't try out every new word or phrase they hear.

My crew have always been told that there are some words that people use that we don't use in our house. They have heard movies with swearing and will sometimes call attention to them by saying the are words we don't use, but they typically just ignore them. We have been blessed enough that none of them persisted in saying them once we explained it was something other people use.

[allye]

Yup!
My daughter has watched both of those and she wasn't scared of either one! The only thing she's not allowed to watch is R rated movies, anything with too much violence, or swearing (or obviously sexual content) ...anything her older brother watches, she's not allowed to watch.
I never used to monitor what they watched, until my 13 yr old taught my four year old quite the vocabulary, so yeah I watch them now...

[hottmama]

I do let my 4 yr. old watch R-rated movies and adult shows (although nothing with a lot of gore or anything that I find really disturbing). I also use all sorts of colorful language myself. He rarely cusses because I have explained that such words are grown-up words. No problem. When he does, which only ever happens at home, it's under his breath and I actually think it's funny. In the name of propriety, I do ask "What did you say?" and he always says "Nothing!" with a sheepish little look.

[Heffernhyphen]

I think the only R rated thing I've let DS (age 3) see is one episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm, because he just would not go to sleep and I selfishly wanted to see the show before bed. :

It was very tame, maybe a potty word here or there, but certainly no violence or disturbing scenes. But the best part to me was when my DH asked, "Honey, do you think it's okay. I mean, do they have any scenes, er, you know, like on the Sopranos?" "You mean nudity, honey?" The man wouldn't even say the word in front of DS! Jeez.

And no, I don't mind if he sees a breast for 8 seconds on the screen. He's up my shirt half the day. :