Pregnant After Loss

[khaoskat]

I know there is a thread for this in the MC/Loss Board, but wonder who all recently got BFP's that are due in October.

Right now, there are two of us that just got BFP's in February.

I am guessing I am due w/in 10 days of the date of our Angels birth/death. Yep, full term still birth and new baby due same time as birth/death of our Angel.

Melissa S.

[mommy-X-2]

Well Im here. I will be due about 2 weeks before the date we lost our angel. I was only 6 weeks along so I cant imagine what you are going through. Thanks for starting this thread

[khaoskat]

I just found out Thursday I was pregnant, and so totally unsuspected. I went to the bathroom Monday, wiped and saw 3 small dots of blood and panic'ed because I didn't have any pads with me and I was at work. Well, needless to say, I had about 4-5 more wipes with spots of blood that day, about 3-4 Tuesday and 1 Wednesday (with a small clot). I never even thought I had O'd this past month. The three weeks before I spotted, I had signs each week of potential ovulation, but nothing ever came of them...guess I was wrong.

Everyone kept suggesting it was implantation spotting. I tried to hold out till 2/14 to find out, but couldn't. The line I got was so ghost like. I retested today, the same, so I went and purchased a digital test and it was clearly "pregnant"......no guessing, no faint lines...no worry about am I imagining this.

[mexicomommy]

What a thoughtful thread!

We too lost our baby girl. I was 32 weeks along and contracted Cholestasis of Pregnancy. We had a stillbirth.
We are so thrilled to be pregnant now, it has been almost 8 mo. since her death.
We have a chance of this reoccurring but now we know what to look for and are so much more prepared!!!
HUGS to all of you mama's who also lost babies!!!!
Charlsie

[minkl]

i'm pregnant again directly (as in conceived two weeks) after my miscarriage. it seemed like a good idea at the time....but now I am full of anxiety. my lines were not darkening much over the course of a week and I was in my ob's office in tears asking for a blood test (denied), so the real feelings about my m/c came flooding out and I wept and wept. I suppose it was a good thing in the end, although i am still slightly in denial about this one. I just won't believe it will work until proven otherwise, i am not being purposefully negative, just detached for another week or so. I have an u/s in 10 days which should help me know if it's real or doomed. this is obviously not going to be the blissfully naive pregnancy like my first. losing a baby changes everything!

[Brisen]

Thanks for starting this thread.

This pg is our 5th attempt, you could say, since our youngest was born. I found out I was pg in the first week of March last year, and miscarried in April, then again in July, October, and December. This baby was conceived right after the Dec miscarriage, after I started taking vitex -- : that it will make the difference my body needs! (I'm suspecting low progesterone, as I tend to have a short luteal phase.)

Melissa, I'm so sorry for your loss. I hadn't realized the due dates were close. That must be hard.

[mommy-X-2]

Originally Posted by minkl

I just won't believe it will work until proven otherwise, i am not being purposefully negative, just detached for another week or so.

I had this same exact feeling when I first found out that was pg again. Then I realized that all I was doing was not enjoying this one. And while Im still not 100% I cant help but be excited, and hopefull.

[crazycandigirl]

Hello everyone

I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks in August, and a second miscarriage at 9 weeks in December. I must have gotten pregnant sometime in January, but I am not sure how far along I am, as I wasn't expecting to get pregnant so soon. I think I am somewhere between 6-8 weeks right now. Thats means I am due the very beginning of October. I have an appointment on the 14th to check on everything and I guess we will find out whats going on at that point. I am so scared. I want everything to be alright this time.

It is wonderful to have my own little DDC with others who understand this balancing act between being excited and frightened. Thanks for starting this thread.

[ASusan]

Thanks for starting this thread. I am joining you. This is my third pregnancy. The first was a loss at 5 weeks. The second was a 'blighted ovum' which dragged on for months. (I elected to miscarry naturally, which took forever, then I had to have a D&C anyway.) The drama lasted from June to Nov. 1.

I am expectantly hopeful for this one. My beta levels were good at 18 & 22 DPO. I have a first ultrasound scheduled for March 1, which will be ~9 weeks.

[glendora]

Yeah, m/c at 11 weeks in August. And, one before that in Dec. 05. I'm trying my best to be positive.

[khaoskat]

I have had two losses.

May 5, 2004 miscarriage at 9 1/2 weeks. Miscarried naturally.

Oct 12, 2006 was an unexpected full term stillbirth. Went into the hospital in labor just to find out our daughter had just passed away. They beleive she passed away about 2 hours before I went in.

Melisa S.

[Salihah]

I won't be reading this thread, but I wanted to tell you all I'm with you in heart and PM me anytime.

I had my second miscarriage in December and was pregnant again (this baby) within a month. So I'm nervous.

Keeping you all in thought and prayer. :

[MrsAngelic]

M/C in feb. 2003 at 2 months. This baby is due in the same month. Didn't realize how much that affected the way I feel about this pregnancy until reading this thread. Went on to have 2 healthy babies afterwards and I took care of myself, but this time around I'm drinking a pregnancy brew, bought my own prenatal vitamin and a supply of chlorophyll, have only told 1 friend and no family (excpt DH ofcourse), saying special prayers for a healthy baby and easy birth daily, and just being extra cautious - and it's only the 5th week!. Maybe it's because my birthday is october 10th and I'm hoping an october child will be the most like me. I don't know, just know I'm acting differently, more protective. A little scared this birth month is jinxed for me - which is unwarranted paranoia.
Wishing all of us happy, healthy pregnancies!

[Boston Tara]

Originally Posted by minkl

i'm pregnant again directly (as in conceived two weeks) after my miscarriage. it seemed like a good idea at the time....but now I am full of anxiety. I suppose it was a good thing in the end, although i am still slightly in denial about this one

I send welcoming thoughts to your little one. You know my sister wrote me a card when I told her we were pregnant and yet scared to lose this one (we m/c at 16 weeks last July) and my sister wrote "Celebrate what you have today. Wishing you a happy healthy pregnancy". I cherish this card and i wanted to share this with you! Tara.

[knowerofnada]

Pregnant again after a m/c in November at 5 1/2 weeks. I just can't even fathom what it must be like to be even further along than that and m/c or have stillborn baby. My heart pours for you all. Sticky vibes to all of us!!

[pottermama]

Hey everyone! It is so exciting to see so many friendly faces over here. I have had three losses. 2 at 9weeks and 1 at 5 weeks. I am now past one of the stages and getting close to the loss of the other two. I am glad we have eachother to hold eachothers hands through this.

[keeuum]

Hey, guys! I just found last week that I'm pregnant again after 6 losses (between 10-16 wks), 2 of them last year. I'm both excited and scared to friggin death! I would absolutely love to have an October baby. Thanks, Melissa, for starting this thread, and congratulations to everyone!

[knowerofnada]

Originally Posted by keeuum

Hey, guys! I just found last week that I'm pregnant again after 6 losses (between 10-16 wks), 2 of them last year. I'm both excited and scared to friggin death! I would absolutely love to have an October baby. Thanks, Melissa, for starting this thread, and congratulations to everyone!

Oh, bless your heart!!

Sticky, sticky vibes to you!!!

[minkl]

Great to see so many faces that can understand the nerves and sorrow that sometimes go with a pregnancy after a loss.

I am feeling pretty peaceful at the moment, just a week away from my u/s when i will know if things are okay (no blighted ovum like last time, should see a baby and heartbeat, etc.) no pregnancy symptoms at all though, so i am still trying not to get too attached. I know I should enjoy every moment of pregnancy, but I got my hopes up so high last time, planning and thinking of names that I was far too crushed when things went wrong. I would rather be pleasantly surprised if things are actually okay.

Maybe it's because my birthday is october 10th and I'm hoping an october child will be the most like me

i couldn't agree more!! I was born October 7 and LOVE having an october birthday. My little one is due October 9 and hope that this one will be more like me too. My DS is a carbon copy of DH, not just in looks, but also in how he learns, how he thinks, his temperment, instincts, etc. I would like a child, preferably a daughter, that is more like me and reflects my talents and qualities. It sounds kind of silly, but it's important to me.

hope everyone is doing well!

[zak]

Me too. We lost a babe in September.

Praying for all of us.