Has anyone seen the film: "Three of Hearts: A Postmodern Family"?

[lexbeach]

It's a documentary. We just got it this week from Netflix. I found it fascinating. It follows a family for several years that is made up of two dads and one mom (the two men were orginally a couple, they decided they wanted to add a woman to their relationship and eventually they all got married). After 9 years in their "trinogomous" (their term) relationship, they decide to add a baby to the family. It's a very well-made film that really made me think. I highly recommend it if you haven't seen it, and if you have, what did YOU think?

Lex

[paquerette]

Nope, but I've just added it to my queue.

[osker]

Have seen it

I have seen the movie (thanks Netflix!) and strangely enough was just thinking about it this morning. I enjoyed the movie, but the end kind of made me sad. I would love to know more about what happened to this family after the movie. It was a great example of how love and personal growth and changes in relationships can't ever be known ahead of time.

[lexbeach]

I thought it was really sad too. I made dw watch the beginning part over again with me so that we could end our night on a happy note. I also predicted the ending right from the start, because it really seemed to me like the men were gay, not bi. But, I tried to keep an open mind, and was really inspired by how well the relationship seemed to be working for a good chunk of time. Dw and I have, from time to time, "joked" (i.e. sorta joking, sorta serious) about finding a husband to add to our relationship (she is bi, I'm not really, but could see the benefits of a husband regardless), so the subject matter of this movie was truly fascinating to us. At the end, we both felt like, "I guess we don't want to find a husband . . . "

I mostly felt really bad for the woman, especially when she said, "I just want to have a relationship with ONE man. One STRAIGHT man." I can't imagine being 9 months pregnant and having everything fall apart like that.

Lex

[MorgnsGrl]

I have. It was so sad. I was hopeful at the beginning but seeing their relationship fall apart was disappointing.

A happy-ending similar documentary that I just saw is called "Paternal Instinct." It's about a gay couple who hires a surrogate to have a baby for them. And everything works out well in the end.

[lexbeach]

Originally Posted by MorgnsGrl

A happy-ending similar documentary that I just saw is called "Paternal Instinct." It's about a gay couple who hires a surrogate to have a baby for them. And everything works out well in the end.

Adding it to my Queue!

I really wish we knew more gay dads IRL. We live in an area that is *rich* in lesbian moms, but kinda lacking in gay dads. We only know one gay dad family, and we don't know them well.

Lex

[MamaRhi]

I saw this movie and thought it was very sad too but I was really impressed that the movie was even out there. I think it hit on a few issues that have come up in my poly life and gave my DPP and I a lot to think about. I'd love to see more films like it.