So dd was invited to a 3rd birthday party. Dh and I took her and there were lots of kids from daycare. There were a total of 3 infants. (6m, 4m, 1m). I am very close with the mom of the youngest. She asked to borrow my hosp grade pump and I had it in my car to give to her. I thought she was totally committed to BF. She's not.
I was so disappointed to see all babies with bottles of formula, especially the youngest whose mom was there but just said she would rather give a bottle in public. She talked about the baby sleeping longer at night (6 h) and her refusing to catch up during the day (if baby wants to nurse before it's "time" she just gives formula). I tried to make comments about growth spurts and that my dd nursed every 2 hours because she slept well at night, etc. But it was just so sad for me to see the trend.
The oldest baby's mom was away for a week long business trip so the dad was walking around saying "my wife wouldn't give him bottles, women don't know how to feed babies". Then he saw me looking and added, "They only know how to BF". Dh replied, "no complaints here! I'm so glad my wife only BF our DD". I don't think the guy processed the comment. It was a lot to see, especially the one month old who was rooting and the mom was right there but didn't nurse.
: She also mentioned she thought she saw white patches in the baby's mouth and if it's thrush, that it may be her opportunity to transition to FF. Ugh!!!! We battled thrush for months. Poor baby!
When we were leaving I asked Dh what he would say if I told him I was not planning to nurse if we had another. He said he would take me to a lab to have me DNA tested because he wouldn't believe I was his wife.
I hope my pump is put to good use for that baby!
I was so disappointed to see all babies with bottles of formula, especially the youngest whose mom was there but just said she would rather give a bottle in public. She talked about the baby sleeping longer at night (6 h) and her refusing to catch up during the day (if baby wants to nurse before it's "time" she just gives formula). I tried to make comments about growth spurts and that my dd nursed every 2 hours because she slept well at night, etc. But it was just so sad for me to see the trend.
The oldest baby's mom was away for a week long business trip so the dad was walking around saying "my wife wouldn't give him bottles, women don't know how to feed babies". Then he saw me looking and added, "They only know how to BF". Dh replied, "no complaints here! I'm so glad my wife only BF our DD". I don't think the guy processed the comment. It was a lot to see, especially the one month old who was rooting and the mom was right there but didn't nurse.
: She also mentioned she thought she saw white patches in the baby's mouth and if it's thrush, that it may be her opportunity to transition to FF. Ugh!!!! We battled thrush for months. Poor baby!When we were leaving I asked Dh what he would say if I told him I was not planning to nurse if we had another. He said he would take me to a lab to have me DNA tested because he wouldn't believe I was his wife.
I hope my pump is put to good use for that baby!
: I can't imagine wih all the hype surrounding bfing that a woman cannot make it rhough her pg without knowing the benefits....13 yrs ago maybe - today? no way. no excuse.
and who were not very supportive of her breastfeeding so I was trying to help her she asked for advice and she was having latch on problems which a nipple shield helped with, but she did not like nip and would give the baby a bottle with pumped milk when she was out I was trying to help her with getting rid of the nipple shield when the baby was able to nurse better so she did not feel like it was to hard to nip and did not need to use a bottle. Come to find out she still won't nip she doesn't feel comfortable and now apparently she think I am judging her and looking down on her for using a bottle. (this is what her MIL told me) I never said anything I was just trying to encourage her so she did not ended up loosing her milk by using a bottle to much. I am so frustrated I do not evan know if the baby is still nursing and she won't even talk to me. The only thing I can think of was i would ocasionaly look at her with the bottle and wonder if there was anything I could do to help her not need it. Apparently she took that as me giving her the evil eye. It seems like there are so many women that have a hard time and automaticly use the bottle and then they resent when they get incouraged to not use it unless absolutly necessary so they do not loose their milk especially in the first few weeks.
