It's not a normal situation. I hadn't talked to her since Oct 1996 and hadn't seen her for probably 3 years before that. She hated me since I was a small child, probably since birth. She has always loved my brother and has never lost contact with him for more than a month or so. I talked to him and he is hurting. She has never done anything positive for him, she abused him in every way possible, she has hurt him time and again, and yet he stuck with her, helping her, giving her money, visiting her in jail. I feel so bad for him. It's for him that I grieve. I know part of him was hoping that if he held in there long enough, she would be the mother he wanted. 
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And my grandmother, grieving for the daughter she lost although the real loss happened many, many years ago when that daughter chose drugs, alcohol, and general antisocial behavior over family or even her own kids. She has grieved for years over the fact that her child could be so cruel and cause so much pain and suffering. But I think she always had a hope that she would redeem herself before she died. It didn't happen.
Even in death, she is leaving behind so much pain, so much anger. I wish I could help him but there isn't anything I can do.
:And my grandmother, grieving for the daughter she lost although the real loss happened many, many years ago when that daughter chose drugs, alcohol, and general antisocial behavior over family or even her own kids. She has grieved for years over the fact that her child could be so cruel and cause so much pain and suffering. But I think she always had a hope that she would redeem herself before she died. It didn't happen.
Even in death, she is leaving behind so much pain, so much anger. I wish I could help him but there isn't anything I can do.
s to you.
I'm sorry for your loss
