In labor! But this is weird..UPD Sejer is here.. - Page 2

[palamala]

Welcome, baby Sejer!
Mama, I hope you are healing well.
Congratulations!

[augustacherri]

Congratulations on your new baby! Hang in there....even though things didn't go the way you envisioned them, it sounds like you made the decisions that were right for you and your family.

Wishing you the very best!!

[Emilie]

Welcome Baby!
It sounds like you made the right decisions. I am sorry it had to end up this way. I hope with time you process it and feel confident you did all the right things.
Peace.

[ledzepplon]

Congratulations! I hope you have a speedy recovery, and I'm so blown away by your amazing mama instincts.

[mrskennedy]

As others have said, you did the right thing, especially since you know you did the best you could! That means a lot. Enjoy your baby, and let yourself go through the healing/grieving process about your birth experience when you're ready. Keep loving this new life you brought into the world, and know you did what was best for both of you!

Peace and strength to you, baby Sejer, and DH!

[christyc]

I'm so sorry you didn't get the birth you had wanted. My last birth (my 3rd, as well) was a planned homebirth turned transport and cesarean, so my heart goes out to you! It can be scary, and disappointing, and frustrating, while at the same time so joyful to have that little one in your arms!

Congratulations on the birth of that beautiful baby, though! Please allow yourself to enjoy him, and to take heart in knowing that you did everything you could.

[2much2luv]

I'm so sorry things didn't work out like you had hoped. Take the time and space to greive that.

Congratulations on the new boy!

[Spark]

Welcome, Little One!

Beautiful job birthing your baby. i'm so sorry it wasn't as planned.

[Kidzaplenty]

Congratulations on your lovely baby!

That is the beauty of UC. If you know there is something wrong, you can seek help. I am glad it all worked out, and you have a healthy baby.

[Seie]

Thanks everyone for your thoughtful comments I have been getting a whole lot of "But the most important thing is a healthy baby"-comments in the past week.. Ofcourse a healthy baby is important but I am so fed up with people acting like it doesnt matter where or how our children are born. Someone even told me "luckily you will soon forget everything" It is so sad that this is how many women think about birth - something they will rather forget.
My c-section may not have been my ideal birth but I sure dont want to forget a single second of my babys birth if I can help it..

Planning a UC has been a great journey for me. It has been extremely empowering and even now that things turned out so different from our hopes and expectations then the thorough planning was what enabled me to stay on top through and after birth. It is what enables me to get through this still feeling empowered. It is the reason that I can now look in the mirror and smile back at myself knowing I made the right choices all the way through.

So thanks everyone for allowing me to come here and ask silly questions in the past months. I will probably not be around as much from now on considering we wont be TTC for at least the next year or so. But rest assured that in a few years from now I will be planning an UC HBAC - and then I will be back

I have posted the detailed birthstory here if anyone is interested.

[QuietTempest]

Originally Posted by Inca

Thanks everyone for your thoughtful comments I have been getting a whole lot of "But the most important thing is a healthy baby"-comments in the past week.. Ofcourse a healthy baby is important but I am so fed up with people acting like it doesnt matter where or how our children are born. Someone even told me "luckily you will soon forget everything" It is so sad that this is how many women think about birth - something they will rather forget.
My c-section may not have been my ideal birth but I sure dont want to forget a single second of my babys birth if I can help it..

Planning a UC has been a great journey for me. It has been extremely empowering and even now that things turned out so different from our hopes and expectations then the thorough planning was what enabled me to stay on top through and after birth. It is what enables me to get through this still feeling empowered. It is the reason that I can now look in the mirror and smile back at myself knowing I made the right choices all the way through.

So thanks everyone for allowing me to come here and ask silly questions in the past months. I will probably not be around as much from now on considering we wont be TTC for at least the next year or so. But rest assured that in a few years from now I will be planning an UC HBAC - and then I will be back

I have posted the detailed birthstory here if anyone is interested.

It's late, but congratulations on your beautiful new baby boy.

I know exactly where you're coming from with the "well, at least you got a healthy baby" commentary because I dealt with that after my baby joined us via cesarean. I was planning for a birth center waterbirth, but it just didn't happen that way. Of course we're happy and elated to have a happy, healthy little bundle of joy to fawn over, but in having a surgical birth it feels like a part of the birthing miracle is stripped away and it feels so unfair. In my case, I blamed myself for a long time convincing myself there was something more I could've done to change the outcome.. The reality is that I did everything I could, just as you did everything you could. The baby calls the majority of shots in a pregnancy, it seems. I will say this, though. It gets better with time, but you won't forget it, and it's probably best that you don't because it was a life-changing event in your life and will make you stronger having endured and experienced it.

[Rockies5]

Welcome little one, and congratulations to the whole family.

I'll simply echo the sentiment that it was a UC as fully as any, you followed your instincts even though it was difficult to greive the birth you wanted at home, alone.