when are you "announcing" your pregnancy

[Abylite]

Hello!

Just wondering when you are annoucing your pregnancy to friends/family. I feel like telling the world!! but I'm going to try to wait until closer to the 12the week due to my hx of m/c. I hope that's all behind us know, esp since we have DD!! And I started a new job a few months ago...so I'll wait for a bit. I"m thinking of just telling one friend from work who is in a different department!

[Aeress]

I try to wait and the longest I have made it is 6 1/2 weeks. I told my mom within four days of finding out.

[Liam's Mum]

We told my parents and sisters, but not DH's because his parents are both on vacation for a month and we feel like we should tell them in person (and they'll freak if we tell his sis/bro before them). We haven't told friends yet, not sure if we'll wait until 12 weeks or not. I won't tell work until 12 weeks, unless I have to (e.g. I pop). I won't tell anyone at work, even friends, because I think I should tell my manager first, and really, I trust no one here 100%

We waited until 12 weeks for everyone last time, and maybe should have this time. But I know I would turn to my mom for support regardless, so...I think she wants me to tell my grandmas too though, because she's having a hard time keeping it to herself, so perhaps we should have waited

[ASusan]

We will end up waiting as long as possible to tell work people and our local friends. (basically the two groups are the same - and if one finds out, they'll all find out)

We will wait until at least 8-9 weeks (first ultrasound) to tell any family, maybe even longer. Then, we'll be telling them either happy news, or that we're on the 3rd miscarriage.

I have told 2 "safe" friends, who don't have any interaction with any of our family or work friends.

[Brisen]

2nd trimester... though I have told a few people who know to keep it private.

[EENS]

My entire family and small circle of friends know. So does my beautician, the guy redoing the kids' room, the cashier at the market, my sister's in law sister, and the sweet nun that teaches my son's catechism class.

[Baby Makes 4]

We have told a few of our friends, our older son and my Mom.

My ILs will tell everyone they know as soon as they find out so we will wait a week or so longer before telling them.

I am somewhat estranged from my Dad, Step-mom and half-siblings so if any of them can ever be bothered to pick up a phone and call me then I will tell them then.

[MrsAngelic]

Jewish tradition in our area says you wait until the 5th month. I have told one friend, and I really want to tell my closest friend, but I got my good news the day after he and his fiance had a m/c. So I'm gonna wait. But how long should I wait?

Not looking forward to telling family. Last time they said things like "You need to practice abstinence" "You don't need anymore kids" "You're happy about that!?" Ugh, maybe I should say nothing and just next time we see them (they live out of state) I'll introduce the new bundle. So glad to be converting to a religion where many children aren't frowned upon. The Rabbi's wife just had their 6th child yesterday - a girl!

[mommy-X-2]

I told Dh and my sister right away. Then Dh and I each told 1 close friend and his sister in Germany. Im hoping to make it to my appointment on the 13th of next month (about 9 weeks) before I tell anyone else. The only problem is that my pants are all getting tight so I dont know that I will make it that long.

[EENS]

Originally Posted by MrsAngelic

. So glad to be converting to a religion where many children aren't frowned upon. The Rabbi's wife just had their 6th child yesterday - a girl!

As a 'traditional' Catholic, I know where you are coming from. No eyeball rolling or smart alecky comments about knowing where babies come is nice. I know a lot of people with more than 8 children, some with 1, and some with everything in between- it is just nice not to have constantly defend your beliefs among friends and family.

[stacey2061]

we were planning to wait a little longer, but i feel really bad already, like i'm lying every time i talk to my mom and she asks what's new or how am i doing...we're going to tell her tomorrow (valentine's day!) when she comes over to babysit DS. he's going to be wearing his "i'm going to be a big brother" tshirt that just arrived yesterday! we'll probably tell the inlaws the next day, but it's not as big a deal

[marlygf]

I'm hoping to make it to 20 weeks to tell family. We told them we would start trying next Decmber so either way it's a surprise for them I've told my internet friends and two irl friends. After I said that I told them not to tell anyone. there are only a few who even knew we were trying. I'd really like to know what we're haivng before I tell them so our wo boys don't know either If I don't make it to then I'd like to wait until at least 12 weeks. my friend got pregnant with her 3rd and announced it to everyone at 4 weeks. she then miscarried and I felt so bad for her (she did it at church) It was really hard for her to go through.

[IfMamaAintHappy]

weve told most family and friends.

[stacey2061]

i can't believe how long some of you are waiting! we didn't tell anyone until around 20 weeks with DS and everyone was SOOOO pissed at us for not telling sooner!

[MOMGOTSPUNK]

We are waiting until Week 12, which also falls on the week of my birthday.

[MommaCrystal]

We've told only very very close friends and our parents.

How can you guys hold out to 20 weeks? I was showing at 10 weeks with my first! Maybe because I'm so short!

[thorn]

I have told a few (okay 6) close friends, and my internet friends. DH does not want me to tell my local momma friends until we tell his family, which will be after our first u/s at 8 weeks.

[QuestionGal]

We've been slowly telling family & close friends since we found out. The last hold-outs are my mom's side of the family b/c we want to tell them in person (this weekend). We're going to the MW to hear the heartbeat Friday, once we hear that then we'll tell everyone.

the 12 week rule doesn't bother me, apparently once you hear the heartbeat you are 97% likely to NOT m/c (if you don't have a history of previous m/c).

[kdlizmama]

I admire your discipline!

I can't believe all of you are able to wait so long. We told family about a week after we found out. After that, word just kind of spreads. I totally respect and understand all the reasons for waiting, but I am just not that patient. I might wait longer to tell at work though.

[amberbella]

I told my mom almost instantly. I told the rest of my immediate family as soon as the Dr. confirmed it. I told some people who I had October comitments with a few days after Dr. confirmed.

Everyone else will have to wait till week 12.