my dh says he is embarrassed by my Nip - Page 2

[BelgianSheepDog]

I agree with those who said just do it and let him deal with his issues on his own. If it helps to be able to tell him "all these other women have husbands who don't see a problem with nursing in public" then add my spouse to the list as well. He's just waiting for the day when someone gives us flack about it so he can read them the lactivist riot act.

[rambunctiouscurls]

Originally Posted by velcromom

Send him a link to www.007b.com lol

I showed him that link. Thank you! because it helped. I also told him that it hurt my feelings because there's nothing perverted about what I'm doing and no reason to get embarrased about. He was surprised my feelings were hurt about it (cuz he thought his reaction was so normal, which I agree it's basically the norm to shun breastfeeding outside the home, right?)
and admitted it was his problem to get over. YAY!

that's huge.

[Demeter9]

Can I suggest that you become obviously embarrassed for your husband's ridiculous behaviour?

[orangefoot]

Good for you for telling him you felt hurt. Good for him for accepting that and moving past his reaction and best of all good for your dd who will be fed when she is hungry. Yay!

[ApprenticeMomma]

I'm so glad he is coming round!
My DH was pretty uncomfrtable about the whole thing to begin with, but now, 3 years on, he is very laid back about it, I simply did not let his atitude deter me one little bit, and he soon got used to the fact that i was going to feed my baby anywhere, anytime.

[velcromom]

That's great! Glad the site helped.

I just thought, I wonder if my dh was ever embarrassed when I NIP but he never said anything and I just did it, never asked (it wouldn't change anything). The only time I ever saw him react was when there was a camera pointed at us and he noticed my shirt was gaping open, he reached over and placed a hand on ds in a strategic location.

[Yoshua]

I am having similar issues with my guy friends. I am pre warning them that my DP may whip it out at any point in time to feed the baby and if they have issues with it I will just hang with them in 2 or so years when the baby is done eating lol.


That being said I think it is an american hang up that is ingrained in some people that breasts aren't for feeding babies. I have no problems with it and I am actually hoping someone is 'uninformed' enough to confront my DP while I am within ears reach.


I would stop accepting the side rooms (unless you are doing it to keep the peace and don't really mind the alone bonding time, that is up to you) and I would let the DP know that if he wants to walk a mile ahead that is his perogative. I wouldn't make excuses for it, but I doubt he will get comfortable with it unless you just don't make a deal about it and keep acting as though it is natural.


It may be so ingrained that he doesn't get over his hang ups, but if you wanna get snarky you could ask him to eat in another room after you make a 'fabulous' steak dinner because the way he eats his steak offends you. And repeat the process every time he makes a comment.

I don't 'really' recommend that, it's just something i'd do if I was the one breastfeeding.





I only have 1 friend so far that has said anything about the upcoming breast feeding events. And it happens to be my best friend, but if he thinks that I am going to make my DP go to another room (unless she wants to) he is sorely mistaken and it will be him, the uncomfortable one who will wind up vacating.

Love him to death, but I beleive that the lactivists have it right in just acting natural about it.

[Yoshua]

ah, read the rest of the posts!

glad he is coming to the light side of the force (so to speak) :0)


that's awesome