post #61 of 149
5/22/03 at 4:33pm
|Originally posted by heartmama
Parents who believe children should CIO have plenty of support. All the reasons given here by parents who have used CIO would be understood and encouraged at almost any other website. The mainstream is on the side of CIO. That is the reality.
Shared sleep, or at least parenting a child to sleep (nighttime parenting) is at the very heart of ap. CIO is not part of ap. It is, obviously, the antithesis of ap. It is choosing not to respond to a child.
Ap parents have a wealth of anecdotal and scientific evidence, much of which has been made widespread through Mothering magazine, which supports nighttime parenting over CIO as the best way to fullfill the emotional and physical needs of babies and mothers.
We aren't debating whether CIO is an ap issue. CIO is not a part of ap, and I think (hope) we can all agree on that.
Which leaves me to wonder, what are parents who CIO going to prove in this thread? I understand the other thread used the term *abuse* to describe it, and parents who CIO wanted to defend themselves against that label.
This is a different thread. What is the point of a CIO debate at Mothering? [/B]
|Obviously the posts from the board "Nightwaking and the Family Bed" seem to correlate with the many, many sleep studies that I have read: Co-sleeping tends (not always though) to make worse sleepers. Now, that does not in any way mean that co-sleeping is not a valid and good choice. It was just not the right choice for My family.|
|Co-sleeping tends (not always though) to make worse sleepers.|
|I also think it's important to clarify that saying that CIO is absolutely not AP is not a judgement -- it's a fact. Saying that CIO is evil or abusive is a judgement.|
|if you don't raise your children exactly the way we tell you to do it you are doing it wrong and going to ruin your children for life."|
|the idea of AP is to listen to your children's cries, then who are we as outside observes to tell a mother that she didn't understand her child's cry|
|They have no other form of communication. Just because they communicate unhappiness doesn't mean they want or need a parent's intervention.|
|We did CIO with the carseat when DS went through a stage at 9 months of hating the carseat. Since I could not put my life on complete hold until he got over it or grew out of it he had to "suck it up." I would talk to him the whole time and reach back and pat his head and offer him toys.|