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I'm so upset I could cry  

post #1 of 34
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TOday in one of my education classes we each were given (randomly) 3 news articles to read and then summarize outloud. One of the articles one student received was on extended breastfeeding and how a 5 yr old was taken from his mother becasue he was still nursing at 5. A few months previously he was taken becasue his babysitter said that the boy had told her that he wanted to stop.

The article was about how he was taken for the second time and placed in foster care but how he was returned to his motehr and that CPS commented on how intelligent and good natured the boy was.

The people in my class rolled their eyes and huffed about how a mother could nurse past infancy and how disgusting it was. I couldn't take it and blurted out that *I* was one of those mothers and to incinuate(sp?) that a mother who nurses past infancy has sexual feelings toward her child is perverse and plan wrong. I talked about CPS's lack of education on the matter and asked why they would take the word of a babysitter who may have coerced the child because of HER discomfort with child lead weaning(they used the term in the article).

When I was done I just shook and people stared at me like I had gone insane(they think I'm a nut for my feminist views anyway- and that homeschooled children test higher than publically schooled children).

I am still shaking and want to cry over the ignorance. The article said it is a rarity that women do "this" and I said, you don't hear about it because of the judgment mothers are placed under and the risk of losing your child.

Mamas, I NEEDED you!
post #2 of 34


Good for you for trying to educate those ignorant people, as tough as it was.
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post #4 of 34
I don't blame you for being so upset, but you did the right thing mama.
post #5 of 34
I'm proud of you for stating the truth even in such an adversarial situation. Sorry it was rough, I can't help but think that you might have planted a seed or two though - good for you!!
post #6 of 34

That's great that you were able to stand up for yourself in such a situation. I can imagine how difficult it might have been. Thanks mama, we need to people like you who are willing to go against the social norms and educate others!!!!
post #7 of 34
Good for you. I would not have been able to keep quiet either!
post #8 of 34
Good job!!!

I understand about that shaking after standing up for correct information. Even when you know you're right, it's hard to stand against an illinformed crowd, especially if you're the least bit shy.
post #9 of 34
*applause* It is wonderful that you were able to stand up for yourself despite facing hostility! Hopefully you have opened at least one or two minds with your important information!
post #10 of 34
Good job momma. You know, even though they looked at you funny you still might have planted some seeds. I thought nursing past 10-12 months was sick and tried like crazy to get my sister to wear her child. But little by little I learned. You really did plant some seeds hun. I bet you anything that someone in that class though. "hum...interesting" and somewhere down the line they will start to learn more and remember you. Then they will question when others say that you nurse only until 12 months. Then they themselves will be nursing their 12 month old and remember you again and when they have the nudging feeling like they really don't want to stop nursing their baby, they will listen, because years ago an outspoken momma had the nerve to jump up and say "hay...I am one of those mommas" And they will nurse their baby well beyond 12 months.


You did good momma.
post #11 of 34
Good job! I am in awe! We need more people like you!!
post #12 of 34
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Good job momma. You know, even though they looked at you funny you still might have planted some seeds.
I agree, you never know who was listening to you and nodding because they could see themselves doing it with their children
post #13 of 34
You are amazing, and brave, and I think you did a wonderful thing. Educating people in this area is very difficult!
post #14 of 34
I think it's great what you toldd them!

if these are your typical 18-22 year old college students, they probably don't have friends and family having babies yet, not are they parents yet. So you may well be one of the few among their peers who has had a baby and can help them see something other than what sitcoms show of parenting (bery little, and very mainstream).

It sounds like it was hard on you, but you probably did a WORLD of good!
post #15 of 34
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Originally Posted by BunchaCrunch View Post
*applause* It is wonderful that you were able to stand up for yourself despite facing hostility! Hopefully you have opened at least one or two minds with your important information!
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and we are all so proud of you.

post #16 of 34
Good for you, Teresa. That was very brave. You tell 'em you know lots of us, dammit.
post #17 of 34
You did a great thing by speaking out!
post #18 of 34
Thread Starter 
WOW! Thanks for the support mamas! And trust me I thought, gee I know a few hundred who EBF dammit!

The professor is very old and close-minded so he was no help. Oy!

It was funny though (not in a ha ha sense) the one girl that have tons in common with wasn't there! She is always so level-headed about things too!
post #19 of 34
Good job.
post #20 of 34
I remember that case, and the mom used to post on another bfing baord. She would be very proud of you-as are all of us! At least one woman in that class will remember that and educate herself, and that's great!
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