ideas needed dont know what to do?!?!

[littlemizflava]

I need ideas i have a dd 4.5 she is out of control 3/4 the time this is the way it has been for 2 years it is so bad that i am at the end i have run out of ideas i dont know what to do with her she use to be so well behaved now it is like a wild child i am well use to dealing with children i use to be a nanny/daycare/babysitter it is killing me that i cant get my own child to listen to me...
i have problems with her listening from small things to big, she ruff plays, breaks things her stuff and other peoples, yells, telling me what i have to do, jumps off/on everything and the list goes on it is a battle every minute of the day she is very smart and gifted and wants to do everything her way and never wants to listen to me or anyone else i have tried every thing i can think of to try to get positive actions from her i need ideas on what i can try to get her to listen to me and get better behavior from her

[thehappyhippo]

Do these things sound like your daughter?

Behavior:

Marked hyperactivity
Constant motion
Running instead of walking
Inability to sit still
Inappropriate wiggling of legs/hands

Impulsive Actions
Disruptive behavior / disturbs others
Unresponsiveness to discipline
Unkindness to pets
Poor self-control
Destructive behaviors: throws, breaks things
Little or no recognition of danger to self
Inappropriate noises
Excessive talking
Loud talking
Interrupts often
Abusive behavior
Unpredictable behavior

Compulsive Actions
Aggression
Perseveration/repeating of an activity
Touching things or people excessively
Workaholic habits
Chewing on clothing, other objects
Scratching, biting & picking at skin

Learning

Emotional Concerns
Low frustration tolerance
Depression
Frequent crying
Demands immediate attention
Irritability
Overreaction to touch, pain, sound, lights
Panics easily
Nervousness
Low self-esteem
Mood swings
Suicidal thoughts

Short Attention Span
Impatience
Distraction
Failure to complete projects
Inability to listen to whole story
Inability to follow directions

Neuro-Muscular Involvement
Accident prone
Poor muscle coordination
Difficulty writing, drawing
Dyslexia/reading problems
Speech difficulties/delays
Difficulty with playground activities, sports
Eye muscle disorder (nystagmus, strabismus)
Tics (unusual or uncontrollable movements)
Seizures

Cognitive and Perceptual Disturbances
Auditory memory deficits (difficulty remembering what is heard)
Visual memory deficits (difficulty remembering what is seen)
Difficulty in comprehension and short term memory
Disturbance in spatial orientation (up-down, right-left)
Difficulties in reasoning (simple math problems, meaning in words)

Health


Frequent Physical Complaints

Ear infections
Asthma
Bedwetting (enuresis)
Daytime wetting
Stomachaches
Headaches, migraines
Hives, rashes (urticaria)
Eczema
Leg aches
Constipation, diarrhea
Congestion
Seizures (especially if combined with migraine or hyperactivity)

Sleep Problems

Resistance to going to bed
Difficulty falling asleep
Restless / erratic sleep
Nightmares, bad dreams



If a lot of these things sound like your daughter I suggest you quickly go to www.feingold.org and check it out. There is an elimination diet that does wonders. All though we do not use the full feingold diet we found remarkable success in my daughter's behavior by eliminating artificial food dyes and flavors. We are working on elminating any corn syrup right now.

[mamaduck]

Does she go to preschool, daycare, or any other childcare providers? If so, how does she behave in that setting?

[littlemizflava]

Originally Posted by thehappyhippo

There is an elimination diet that does wonders. All though we do not use the full feingold diet we found remarkable success in my daughter's behavior by eliminating artificial food dyes and flavors. We are working on elminating any corn syrup right now.[/I]

i was thinking of doing the same thing i didnt read the end of the post saw the link and opened it and thought of doing the same you are doing do you have any additional info on eliminating artificial food dyes and flavors?? how long did it take to see a change in ur dd?

Originally Posted by mamaduck

Does she go to preschool, daycare, or any other childcare providers? If so, how does she behave in that setting?

she is is homeschooled and is with me everyday

[faerierose]

I didn't realize you knew my dd I really need to improve our diet...

Originally Posted by thehappyhippo

Do these things sound like your daughter?

Behavior:

Marked hyperactivity
Constant motion
Running instead of walking
Inability to sit still
Inappropriate wiggling of legs/hands

Impulsive Actions
Disruptive behavior / disturbs others
Unresponsiveness to discipline
Unkindness to pets
Poor self-control
Destructive behaviors: throws, breaks things
Little or no recognition of danger to self
Inappropriate noises
Excessive talking
Loud talking
Interrupts often
Abusive behavior
Unpredictable behavior

Compulsive Actions
Aggression
Perseveration/repeating of an activity
Touching things or people excessively
Workaholic habits
Chewing on clothing, other objects
Scratching, biting & picking at skin

Learning

Emotional Concerns
Low frustration tolerance
Depression
Frequent crying
Demands immediate attention
Irritability
Overreaction to touch, pain, sound, lights
Panics easily
Nervousness
Low self-esteem
Mood swings
Suicidal thoughts

Short Attention Span
Impatience
Distraction
Failure to complete projects
Inability to listen to whole story
Inability to follow directions

Neuro-Muscular Involvement
Accident prone
Poor muscle coordination
Difficulty writing, drawing
Dyslexia/reading problems
Speech difficulties/delays
Difficulty with playground activities, sports
Eye muscle disorder (nystagmus, strabismus)
Tics (unusual or uncontrollable movements)
Seizures

Cognitive and Perceptual Disturbances
Auditory memory deficits (difficulty remembering what is heard)
Visual memory deficits (difficulty remembering what is seen)
Difficulty in comprehension and short term memory
Disturbance in spatial orientation (up-down, right-left)
Difficulties in reasoning (simple math problems, meaning in words)

Health


Frequent Physical Complaints

Ear infections
Asthma
Bedwetting (enuresis)
Daytime wetting
Stomachaches
Headaches, migraines
Hives, rashes (urticaria)
Eczema
Leg aches
Constipation, diarrhea
Congestion
Seizures (especially if combined with migraine or hyperactivity)

Sleep Problems

Resistance to going to bed
Difficulty falling asleep
Restless / erratic sleep
Nightmares, bad dreams



If a lot of these things sound like your daughter I suggest you quickly go to www.feingold.org and check it out. There is an elimination diet that does wonders. All though we do not use the full feingold diet we found remarkable success in my daughter's behavior by eliminating artificial food dyes and flavors. We are working on elminating any corn syrup right now.

[Fuamami]

How much sleep does she get? At least 12 hours every 24 hour period?

[littlemizflava]

Originally Posted by natensarah

How much sleep does she get? At least 12 hours every 24 hour period?

oh yes she get enough sleep we both sleep 12-14 hours she is like me and need lots of sleep