|Yeah you know who you are, sitting at the computer with a cupcake...|
I know what you're saying. I see the extremists, too (on both sides of the spectrum.) And sometimes I don't know if they really ARE that disciplined and/or stubborn, or if they're just playing it up on the message board so that they don't look "bad" to their peers.
Personally, when I ask for advice I tend to ignore what I don't agree with. Especially if it's extreme. Many parents will say that leaving your child to CIO is going to scar them for life. But for a mother at the end of her rope, and at the end of her patience, leaving the child alone for a few minutes is far less scarring than snapping and screaming at the child or worse.
Parenting really is about following your own instincts. If it feels wrong, it probably is. And if you need to use a stroller because you have a bad back or a heavy child, by all means, use one (I know I do). I don't have much guilt about what my children's clothing is made out of. Heck, I don't even know what some of it is made of. There are a handful of things I feel strongly about - keeping babies intact, and at least trying breastfeeding being at the top. But even that, I don't voice any judgemental comments towards friends or family who have different views than me. I think we get louder objections here, because people aren't afraid of offending 'strangers on the interweb.' It's so easy to forget that the people posting are REAL people, who are only trying to do what's best for their children.