Originally Posted by MotherWren
I just remembered another episode of that show where the midwife was yelling at the laboring mother for moaning.
I'm all for a no-nonsense midwife but CMON!
They would'nt have been able to air that episode if it were me she were talking to like that, not w/out some serious editing
My midwife and nurse actually told me to vocalize while pushing. I was trying to do the hold-your-breath-and-focus-all-your-energy thing, and was making progress, but could have made more while vocalizing. Once I started flapping my lips (think of a horse blowing air through its lips
) my pushes were that much more effective, and little man came out fast.
Originally Posted by stacyann21
Doctors want quiet patients with fast labors. They also like to feel in control of the process in some way. This extends beyond L&D too. I had a ped write me a prescription to "continue breastfeeding" once
How would one fill that prescription?
Originally Posted by pookel
The problem is that it is just not true that they can't feel anything. I could feel pretty well with the epidural at full strength, and then they turned it down to half-strength so I could "feel to push"
:, and then I felt EVERYTHING. I was screaming in pain at the top of my lungs and couldn't have stopped pushing if I wanted to, and my doctor was STILL trying to direct my pushing. It was really annoying. I don't know why the doctors don't just give the women some space and see how well they're doing with the pushing, and then only direct pushing if they really can't feel anything (which I don't think is usually the case).
I think a lot of the problem is that in our society, women are shown such negative images of pregnancy, labor and delivery as "the norm." Shows like A Baby Story and Bringing Home Baby do nothing to negate this idea, nor do they do anything to show women what it could
be like. The vast majority of women I've spoken to have no idea the extent to which we (women in general) are capable. I wish more women sought out doulas and midwives to empower them, and that more HCPs were willing to enable women, instead of controlling them and treating pregnancy as an illness.
The mind is an incredibly powerful thing. Imagine how many positive birth stories we'd read if more women were encouraged to discover their inner She-ra!