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post #1 of 31
2/16/07 at 7:53pm
Thread Starter 
I was just wondering if any of you mamas have an emo son, daughter, nephew etc.

My baby brother, now 14, fits that criteria and sometimes we get a kick out of his experimenting with eye makeup.
post #2 of 31
2/16/07 at 8:00pm
My sister and her boyfriend are semi-emo. They aren't hardcore hipsters like some, but they definitely follow some of the trends. It makes me giggle to see her lanky boyfriend in girls jeans... not because they're girls' jeans, but because he has awful taste in girls jeans.
post #3 of 31
2/16/07 at 8:03pm
I actually really like emo music, but see my post on boys and eating disorders. I think the skinny boy look is having a negative effect on my emo dss.
post #4 of 31
2/16/07 at 8:10pm
No. Rain and I both find the emo thing a bit annoying, to be honest. The hair in eyes bugs me, and the wholei dea of a bunch of upper-middle class kids whining and moaning about how awful and dark and sucky their lives are... it just gets really old.

YMMV,

Dar
post #5 of 31
2/16/07 at 9:05pm
DD calls emo music "Emo Screamo" . DS#1 was really into the whole emo thing for a awhile but not now.



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No. Rain and I both find the emo thing a bit annoying, to be honest. The hair in eyes bugs me, and the wholei dea of a bunch of upper-middle class kids whining and moaning about how awful aand dark and sucky their lives are... it just gets really old.
IKWYM, there isn't anything more annoying.
post #6 of 31
2/16/07 at 9:10pm
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I actually really like emo music, but see my post on boys and eating disorders. I think the skinny boy look is having a negative effect on my emo dss.
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My stepbrother (16) and ex nephew-in-law (15) are anorexic. One's been hospitalized. Both are emo and want to wear the girl jeans.

That said, the music drives me batty. HATE IT. I'm just old enough that it all sounds both "the same" and "like a bunch of nasal whiny high-pitched lolsers constantly complaining about their girlfriends." On the other hand, when I was that age, a good portion of what I listened to was baritone losers complaining about their heroin addictions, and that's probably not any better.
post #7 of 31
2/16/07 at 10:21pm
ds is emo. dd is very annoyed, but I am afraid I might have missed some obvious red flags this past year by my misunderstanding what was faddish teen culture and what was serious depression. I would not wish this hell on anybody.
post #8 of 31
2/17/07 at 4:23am
Eh depends on what we're calling emo I guess. My kids tend to dig some aspects of the look and some aspects of the music, but they've got little interest in people whining about how there's only pain in the world for no real reason, particularly when many people really do struggle with serious issues and depression.

Dd thinks that some of the emo boys around are cute, and she's been called "emo" a time or three by various kids but her style changes by the day. (Something I love about her!) The definitions seem all over the place. Clearly my Ds has the hair thing down pat!
post #9 of 31
2/17/07 at 5:03am
Unschoolinma, your ds is a cutie! (dd agrees )

Here is ds#1 Emo Ian and not so Emo Ian
post #10 of 31
2/17/07 at 7:09am
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Originally Posted by Dar View Post
No. Rain and I both find the emo thing a bit annoying, to be honest. The hair in eyes bugs me, and the wholei dea of a bunch of upper-middle class kids whining and moaning about how awful and dark and sucky their lives are... it just gets really old.

YMMV,

Dar
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post #11 of 31
2/17/07 at 7:38am
Thread Starter 
When I started this thread I didn't realize that this subject was going to be sad for some people and I am sorry. All I was thinking about was the fact that my baby brother was wearing eyeliner. I forgot that the root of "emo" is a really negative thing and I am sending you all love who have had a bad experience because of "emo."
post #12 of 31
2/17/07 at 7:42am
The skids are more goth than emo, but not exactly goth either. They're mostly just weird and cute I know they make emo jokes all the time.

I've always been hazy on what emo is really; in my bunch it was hipsters (of which Vancouver is mercifully free), and it can be hard to tell the difference sometimes.
post #13 of 31
2/17/07 at 1:35pm
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Originally Posted by Dar View Post
No. Rain and I both find the emo thing a bit annoying, to be honest. The hair in eyes bugs me, and the wholei dea of a bunch of upper-middle class kids whining and moaning about how awful and dark and sucky their lives are... it just gets really old.

YMMV,

Dar

Yep! That is how I feel.
post #14 of 31
2/17/07 at 1:39pm
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ds is emo. dd is very annoyed, but I am afraid I might have missed some obvious red flags this past year by my misunderstanding what was faddish teen culture and what was serious depression. I would not wish this hell on anybody.
My friend's daughter called herself emo. But, I kept insisting it was more. Something was wrong. The told me it was a phase.

She commited suicide last summer. The coroner said she had been cutting herself for at least a year. She was writing diary pages about being with Craig Cobain.
post #15 of 31
2/17/07 at 1:49pm
man... how i miss the days where "emo" was a genre of music, and the scene was all about putting genuine emotion into music, unlike the mainstream manufactured pop music that was all over the radio at the time. the vast majority of kids were intelligent and in touch with their emotional side... it totally wasn't this glorification of depression/ meticulously messy hair/ makeup thing.

when did emo get so... goth??

sigh. i'm going to go listen to sunny day real estate. excuse me.
post #16 of 31
2/17/07 at 5:10pm
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Originally Posted by Lisa Lubner View Post
man... how i miss the days where "emo" was a genre of music, and the scene was all about putting genuine emotion into music, unlike the mainstream manufactured pop music that was all over the radio at the time. the vast majority of kids were intelligent and in touch with their emotional side... it totally wasn't this glorification of depression/ meticulously messy hair/ makeup thing.

when did emo get so... goth??

sigh. i'm going to go listen to sunny day real estate. excuse me.
It sort of replaced goth about 5 years ago. Now it's all about rising against mall security, or something. Blame Blink-182. It was that pop-punk thing that really launched all the new bands.

Disclaimer: I also pretty much hate the old bands, too. It's the high-pitched, nasal, "Billy Corgan versus Geddy Lee in a fight to the agonizing death" thing. So, I'm not sure that the musical aesthetic has really changed all that much--the scene went corporate. And, proudly corporate, with the newest kids--which is where the generation gap opens up, I think. But... the music is still... high-pitched and "emotional."
post #17 of 31
2/17/07 at 6:51pm
Hee!
My 12 year old son is totally emo, but gets royally annoyed if called that. It kinda reminds me of being called "goth" oh, so long ago...
He's so very cute.
For him it's all about the music. I think that's why the labels bother him so much. I do think it fits his personality completely, though.

-Melanie
post #18 of 31
2/19/07 at 4:29pm
I was kind of emo about 6-7 yrs. ago, but I think it means something different now. Emo boys didn't wear makeup, that's totally goth. And ew ew ew if emo= goth now.
post #19 of 31
2/19/07 at 6:04pm
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Originally Posted by Lisa Lubner View Post
man... how i miss the days where "emo" was a genre of music, and the scene was all about putting genuine emotion into music, unlike the mainstream manufactured pop music that was all over the radio at the time. the vast majority of kids were intelligent and in touch with their emotional side... it totally wasn't this glorification of depression/ meticulously messy hair/ makeup thing.

when did emo get so... goth??

sigh. i'm going to go listen to sunny day real estate. excuse me.
Yeah I used to be into emo 7 years ago. Now Sunny Day is the only "emo" I can stand. They were original...now they all sound the same.

Now I am into metal for the beautiful technicality of talented bands

Anyways- as far as emo or any music being the root of a kids problem- I don't know. Some kids are emotionally stable and music isn't going to influence them. Some are emotionally unstable and music is going to help them wallow in it. It's all about a family and friend support system that makes the kid feel loved...then the music IS just a phase.

There was a time in my own life at 18 when I was dumped by my first bf that I could NOT listen to emo, because the music really DID make me more sad. Mainly songs with emo lyrics. I could still litsen to some Sunny Day songs that weren't about relationships.

Dh isn't emo (more metal/hardcore)...but at 23 he does owns a couple of pairs of girl jeans because they honestly fit him better. They aren't super tight though like some of the teenagers hehe.
post #20 of 31
2/19/07 at 6:26pm
i don't listen to much these days. some of it really really WAS depressing stuff, but the stuff i liked, i liked for it's honesty. there wasn't so much "oh boo hoo look at me i'm so sad" stuff...

speaking of hardcore though, i'm seeing Lifetime and 108 on saturday!
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