My dd (10) told me last night that a boy at school likes her, and he asked their mutual friends to ask her if she liked him. She said no, and then my dd's friend told the boy that my dd hated him-- which she did not say (I know it's all very soap opera). The boy started to cry, so his friend took him to the office, and he went home for the rest of the day.
We've known this boy and his family for a long time. He's very sweet. So when my dd told me all of this I felt really bad for him. My dd suggested that she write him a note on Tuesday telling him that she doesn't hate him-- we have a four-day weekend. I suggested that she call right away and tell him that her friend misspoke, so he wouldn't feel bad all weekend. So, she held her stuffed dog, and my hand, and called the boy and told him that she doesn't hate him, and she's sorry her friend told him that. They had a VERY brief conversation, and they both seemed to be happy that it was over (I could hear what he was saying on the phone from where I was standing.)
I don't know if I did the right thing. I didn't want her to feel like she was encouraging this boy to keep liking her, but I didn't want him to feel bad either. When it was over she said she was glad she called him, and she felt better. I also feel like she needs to talk to the friend who told the boy my dd hated him in the first place. I know the girl feels bad about the whole thing, too, because she started crying when she found out the boy went home for the day.
Is this making any sense? It seems very complicated now that I've written it down.
: What would you have done? What would you do now? It seems too early for this stuff! Are your pre-teens dealing with this stuff?
We've known this boy and his family for a long time. He's very sweet. So when my dd told me all of this I felt really bad for him. My dd suggested that she write him a note on Tuesday telling him that she doesn't hate him-- we have a four-day weekend. I suggested that she call right away and tell him that her friend misspoke, so he wouldn't feel bad all weekend. So, she held her stuffed dog, and my hand, and called the boy and told him that she doesn't hate him, and she's sorry her friend told him that. They had a VERY brief conversation, and they both seemed to be happy that it was over (I could hear what he was saying on the phone from where I was standing.)
I don't know if I did the right thing. I didn't want her to feel like she was encouraging this boy to keep liking her, but I didn't want him to feel bad either. When it was over she said she was glad she called him, and she felt better. I also feel like she needs to talk to the friend who told the boy my dd hated him in the first place. I know the girl feels bad about the whole thing, too, because she started crying when she found out the boy went home for the day.
Is this making any sense? It seems very complicated now that I've written it down.
: What would you have done? What would you do now? It seems too early for this stuff! Are your pre-teens dealing with this stuff?
