My ds will be 3 in July, and new baby is almost 4 months. I haven't really done anything alone iwth my ds because he is in love with DH and when I *would* have the opportunity to leave baby and do with ds, he prefers DH does that make sense ? Anyway, he's been adjusting well, good with baby but acting out to me lately. I've been short with him and low on patience. Basically thinking I'm ruining his world with this baby etc etc. He even told me recently to put baby back in my belly.
I was quite surprised the other day when he said to me "mamma, know what ?" "what, Kieran ?" "thank you for my baby sister. I love her". Talk about wanting to sob your eyes out. I couldn't believe it. He's always telling me how much he loves her and how beautiful she is, and mimicing how I care for her "Don't cry Reilly, Kieran's here, your brother is here " but this one floored me.
GUess I'm not wrecking his life after all
edited to say" I realize I didn't answer your ?? at all. LOL. My DH works very long hours so its just the 3 of us most of the time. *special* times - hmmm... every time Reilly takes a nap (I started this just lately, partly to keep him quiet) I started instead of trying to catch up on stuff, making it ds "turn" - like "ok, its your turn for mommy time" and then we do whatever, play on the carpet and play cars, read a book, color. Things that I do anyway but its just him and me. He is starting to request his mommy time when I put my dd for nap if I don't say it first. Special times with #1 involving the baby, I have made up some goofy games like "shark" where I do the jaws music (dum-dum....dum-dum...) and I make my baby be the shark, and I put her near the floor like she is swimming, and I "chase" ds with the baby. He loves this. Also, we do "tigger" where he jumps up and down on the bed, and I sing the tigger song "...the wonderful thing about tiggers, is tiggers are wonderful things" from the WInnie the Pooh movie - and sometimes I will hold dd up on her legs and have her bounce up and down with ds. I will sing the song over and over and over till ds is crazy tired. Also, we do "dance party" ds has a radio in his room, and I bring the baby in, we put on music, I lay the baby down, and we dance together and spin etc. Other special things are sometimes when the baby needs a nap we will all go out in the stroller and I will walk around town until I find some kind of "construction" roofing, sidwalk work, whatever, and we stand there and watch it for a long time. Or, we go to starbucks to get some cookies and milk. We did that before baby and still go, not as frequently but it is still his "special" place. I hope this helps.