My love/ hate relationship with EC

[hipumpkins]

My DS at 19 mos has been ECd from 1 month old.
I love that I have rarely changed a poop diaper in 19 mos. I can probably count on one hand how many times I have.
I hate that he loves to sign potty simply to get inot bathroom and inisit on playing with the sink
I love that he wears underwear all day (or nothing)
I hate that he wakes at night to pee (he wakes to nurse too so all the wakings are killing me)
I hate that sometimes he has to pee in the tub which leads to wanting a bath
I love that I don't have to buy diapers (yup we're sposie people )
I love that he doesn't sit in poop or pee
I hate that it feels weird to tell people he is potty trained (I of course can tell my family; but in public I can't yell from the rafters...you gotta try this EC!!!)

I hate that DS want to play with all the wipes and toilet papaer
I hate that DS wants to pee with everything off...take off his pants, socks and shoes...a real pain when we're out.

I love that DS can't even talk yet but will sign potty...it is sooo affirming!!!

anyone else have a love'hate realtionship?

[splunky]

I love the fact that I have a 3 mo. old who knows how to go in the potty, when other people are praising thier 3 YEAR old.
I hate the fact I feel the need to almost hide it because I don't want to hurt their feelings when they praise thier 3 yr. old.
I love the fact that I don't have to spend tons of money on wipes and diapers, she was allergic to the wipes anyway.
I hate the fact I miss her cues alot and we in turn have extra laundry.
I hate it when she changes her cues for pee-ing and I can't always tell.
I hate the fact she peed on me this morning because I didn't listen to my instinct telling me it was time to take her.
I love the fact that instint is right more than 50 % of the time.
I hate the fact people are nervous to hold her because "she might pee" so we in turn put her is dipes and she feels lazy enough to just do it there and doesn't care about being wet.
I love the fact that she wopn't poo in her diaper, she would rather wait for me! What a smart baby!
I hate it when my mother in law tells me it's just "mommy trained" not potty trained. She just doesn't get it.
I hate it when we have a miss and others witness it, feel like failure.
I love the communication I have with her, it feels so special and deeper that normal.
I wish I knew about EC with my 3 boys!

[lexmas]

I'm game...

I love when I take off his diaper and he's still clean and dry...makes me feel like this is how it is supposed to be
I hate how guilty I feel when I miss a pee
I love when he pees and then goes "ahh" and smiles up at me
I hate when I have company and I take him to pee and he screams...for every reason other than pottying, but they don't know it!
I love when DH takes him to potty and he's too engrossed in smiling up at him to pee...gives him some quality Daddy time!
I hate cleaning up when I miss a poop...how do people do it every day?
I love(d) watching my tiny little preemie-boy arch a nice pee into the toilet...nothing cuter than watching a little 5 lb. baby relax and take a pee!
I hate when I'm out and he cries and I can't do anything about it, especially in the car
I love when other people recognize his cueing and feel so proud about it!
I hate when people try to guilt me and convince me I'm doing something that will hurt him...because sitting in your own waste is an "important part of being a baby"
I love that EC has become routine for us, just a part of everyday life
I hate that boys can pee up and around anything that's supposed to catch their pee!
I love that taking him to potty is more fun than changing his diaper
I hate that other people think its "too much work" or that we're crazy
I love that EC has made my Mom come around to things that aren't mainstream
I hate that seeing older babies in diapers grosses me out, because it makes it hard to be accepting of what my friends do, even though I want them to be accepting of what I do...but I love it at the same time...what a refreshing opinion!
I love tiny training pants (even if they're still too big for DS)
I hate that doctors are taught (and then tell patients) that babies can't physically be potty trained before 18 months
I love that I know I'm listening to DS, and that I'm aware that babies have the ability to tell us things

I love that DS is our first and that I'll hopefully be able to do this again!

[Jimibell]

I love that my 15 month old runs to the potty and points to it with her little finger when she has to go poopy
I hate when I miss peepees!
I love, and have from day 1, to see her in little underwear and no stinky diaper
I hate that I still use a diaper on her at night but I just don't have the energy to take her to the bathroom....
I love knowing that I'm connected with her on every level, even this one...

[SuperMama]

[EdnaMarie]

Ooooh fun.

I love that I very often realize, after a miss, that I wasn't not paying attention to DD.
I hate how that feels in my heart.
I love how a baby looks in clothes when she's not all bulging with a diaper.
I hate how I am disgusted by older kids in diapers- I don't mean to but now I find the idea really unpleasant. I don't know what to say, even, and all her peers are still pooping in their pants.
I love how she knows where she's supposed to go and she'll never be confused about leaving dipes behind.
I hate that my mother told everyone she knows we're doing this so now everyone knows her toileting habits.
I love how easy it is to clean a pot (as opposed to rinsing baby poop out of a cloth diaper).
I hate how hard it is to be convinced that ALL of the pee is out of the carpet.
I love how I can almost always tell when she wants to go.
I hate how she still isn't on a schedule for pooping, though.
I love how her little sock feet dangle when we sit her on the toilet (supported, of course).
I love feeling her relax when she pees- she usually yawns right before or after.
I love that I will not have to deal with potty training at age two.
I love that we never have poop seeping out of a diaper- disgusting.
I love that we don't have to have a diaper pail.
I love how she responds the same to both DH and me when we pee / poop her.

[Jimibell]

I think a lot have mentioned this but it really is icky to think of all those children out there with diapers sitting in their stuff.....
ew!
I know what you all mean about not wanting to judge those around but it really is gross! especially when they're like 4!

[granolalight]

I love that DS almost NEVER sits around in his own waste anymore.
I hate that I'm still chicken to let him be naked more often.
I hate all the snaps and layers I have to do everytime I take him potty.
I love how he can wait, after signalling, while I take off all his clothes and dipe and get him to the potty!
I love how he looks in the mirror sitting naked on the potty
I love that DH thinks it's cool
I hate that DH won't take him as often as I do
I hate cleaning poo off his body when I miss one!
I hate not knowing what to do when he is nursing peacefully but I know/think he needs to potty
I hate that he still poops a lot while nursing
I love that he stays dry all through the night!!
I love that DD thinks pottying a 2 month old is normal

I LOVE that I have this forum and a group of parents I can talk to about ECing!!!!!

[EdnaMarie]

I have a new hate. I hate how when you're about to leave the house and they give the poop signal. And you know it's going to be another half hour before they go but how can you?

Argh.

[granolalight]

I hate when, 5 minutes after sitting on the potty, he poops in a dipe!:

[cmg]

I love that dd poops in the sink before we get in the bath, and not *in* the bath!

I hate when she's upset and needs to pee, but trying to pee her will just make her more upset .

[FelixMom]

I love that every catch is a chance to actively show my DD how much I respect her body and be responsive to her needs

I love the sweet smile of conspiracy over DDs face in the mirror after she pees/poos in the potty

I love watching how my DD's bladder capacity evolves as she gets bigger. Now she can go at least 2 hrs during the day between potty times.

I love that DD is willing to go potty anywhere when we're out: sinks, toilets, plants in the lobby...

I love that now I'm showing my younger brothers that there is way to get out of changing poopy diapers

I hate that I am too chicken to put DD in undies

I hate cleaning up misses in our apartment with wall-to-wall carpeting

I hate that I am lazy and put DD in cloth diapers for the night

I hate having to bite my tongue when I see friends who are CONTENT to let baby sit in a sposie and be changed *only* 5 times a day

I hate other mainstream non ECing moms tell me I'm crazy for creating so much work for myself

I LOVE that I have this forum and a group of parents I can talk to about ECing!!!!!

I hate that DH won't take him as often as I do

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[Carlyle]

what fun!

What a fun idea for a thread!

I LOVE catching poops and not having poopy diapers
I love catching pees too because it is so elusive and makes me feel like a superstar when we get it right
I hate that this is so "out there"--what's UP with that???
I hate that people really think kids don't have control over their bladders until they are 2--what's up with THAT??? But at the same time I love it, because it's so ridiculous that it makes me laugh.
I love when I am trying to pee my daughter without much success, and then I pop a binky in her mouth and she gets this dreamy look on her face and pees immediately (works like a charm, I highly recommend it)
I love that my daughter stands a good chance of not being as much of a bed wetter as my sister and I were (middle school bed wetters, yikes!)
I hate getting peed on
I love it when I can laugh my head off about being peed on
I hate that this is SO "out there" that most people don't know anything about it and it has to be a major conversation piece a lot of the time (although I love that too sometimes)
I love that I have a new option in responding to a fussy baby, and that once I pee her, she often cheers up! Especially at night.
I hate waking up at night to pee the baby (I hate waking up at night, period)
I love the fact that I'm not putting disposables in a landfill or using as much hot water/electricity/detergent as I would be just using cloth diapers.

[momtoalex]

i love telling people about it and sparking interest in the. there's hope for change!