TP, I have been thinking about your situation and what you've had to deal with so much since I've heard about it.
First off: it is not appropriate how the Bishop has handled things period. He needed to come and talk with you personally and not send it through the RS Pres or any other sister in the RS.
Secondly: people are faulty and while I have a strong testimony of the gospel I do believe that your Bishop has made some serious mistakes in handling this in the way he also talked with you. He is bringing in his personal bias based on *nothing* scriptural or doctrine and is refusing to acknowledge true doctrine regarding the matter. Maybe the SP has this view as well in which case that's why there are Area Authorities.
I have never suggested this to anyone before ever and consider myself to be quite a strong member of the LDS church and agree in sustaining and supporting our leaders...I would very strongly suggest that you send a letter or contact your local Area Authority.
This has turned into such an ugly situation and I don't know the specific laws of Idaho but they are probably violating them.
You are *not* responsible for another's thoughts, that is completely ridiculous and against the doctrine of our church which believes in free agency. You are feeding your child for heavens sakes and he obviously just has a very "50s" viewpoint of bf'ing (my own father...not LDS...has these views as well and always associates breasts with only sexuality). I hate to say it but I think the Bishop has an issue with it as well, it really sounds like it. Also the SP has heard only the Bishop's feelings re: this, I think it would be good to talk to him as well but if you feel too fatigued I would just go straight to the Area Authority.
A woman should never be asked or requested to bf using a blanket at church, period. The way that the Bishop has handled this has created an us vs them type of situation which church should never be.
We are in a newly created ward and happen to have a wonderful Bishop. He spoke at our first Sacrament Meeting and one of the things he said was, "Please know that I and my counselors *will* make mistakes and I hope that you will please be patient with us." People are imperfect. I do think that it's important for you or any of us to find a way to forgive those who have grossly wronged us and there's no doubt that many people in this situation have. At some point, some day he/they will realize how ridiculous this whole thing is/was and it will probably not be in this lifetime.
Some how you are going to try to keep yourself spiritually strong in the mean time and not be consumed with being angry with this man and the other ones. It may not be now (I certainly would have trouble....what am I saying, I'm not even in your ward and I've had to pray about this b/c I am so insensed) but hopefully later.
s I do think that the situation needs to be addressed for the sake of not only you but the other women who will/are in the ward. The Bishop does need to be instructed on proper doctrine from an "authority" that he will respect.