or Connect
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Baby › Breastfeeding › Lactivism › And it happened to me. Update on post 96
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

And it happened to me. Update on post 96 - Page 4

post #61 of 192
I'm really sorry you've been put through this.

I just wanted to say that it sounds like a wonderful opportunity to educate the people involved about breastfeeding in general. Especially NIP. Chances are, they just don't have a clue. Approaching it assertively, but gently will probably reap some really great results. I hope it goes well and only good comes from the unfortunate experience.
post #62 of 192

church

why would you want to attend a church that makes you feel bad about nourishing your child.i nurse my little guy in church w/o covering up all the time and no one bats an eye. i feel like i am sitting in my own house and thats how church should be. have you tried looking for another place to worship? maybe meeting with the pastor first to see what his views are on NIP at his church.i'm sorry that you had to go through that with the cookie lady. good luck.:
post #63 of 192
In the LDS faith which ward you attend is determined by where you live. It is difficult to move your membership to a different ward. Each ward is unique with it's own strengths and weaknesses.
post #64 of 192
Quote:
Originally Posted by intorainbowz View Post
In the LDS faith which ward you attend is determined by where you live. It is difficult to move your membership to a different ward. Each ward is unique with it's own strengths and weaknesses.
adding to this that one ward does not speak for the entire church, either.
post #65 of 192
Quote:
Originally Posted by intorainbowz View Post
In the LDS faith which ward you attend is determined by where you live. It is difficult to move your membership to a different ward. Each ward is unique with it's own strengths and weaknesses.
so it's actually only a 'symptom of the disease' as it were? Members facing such outrageous condemnation are not allowed to move to a more family friendly, more truly Christian congregation without moving from their home? or is there an appeal process by which one could change wards without uprooting their family in this or a worse case?:
post #66 of 192
That mama was me.

My gosh...I'm so sorry this happened to you. I totally relate to and understand your anger and hurt. I hope that you are able to get some satisfaction from higher ups. I wasn't able to...I hope that you are.
post #67 of 192
Quote:
Originally Posted by intorainbowz View Post
In the LDS faith which ward you attend is determined by where you live. It is difficult to move your membership to a different ward. Each ward is unique with it's own strengths and weaknesses.
so it's actually only a 'symptom of the disease' as it were? Members facing such outrageous condemnation are not allowed to move to a more family friendly, more truly Christian congregation without moving from their home? or is there an appeal process by which one could change wards without uprooting their family in this or a worse case?:
post #68 of 192
Quote:
Originally Posted by Kaitnbugsmom View Post
so it's actually only a 'symptom of the disease' as it were? Members facing such outrageous condemnation are not allowed to move to a more family friendly, more truly Christian congregation without moving from their home? or is there an appeal process by which one could change wards without uprooting their family in this or a worse case?:
they are very much allowed to go to a different ward. we had this happen with a family who split up due to some issues i won't discuss here but they lived in the same ward. they took it to the Stake President and have been in the neighboring ward ever since, years now. it's worked the way it is for orginization reasons not to be some over powering condemning force. we have a certain number of members in my area that are divded up by area and placed in a certain time slot. if we had everyone going to one ward and none going to another it would be a mess due to the ammount of members we have in the area as a whole and the size of the buildings.
post #69 of 192
okay. that sounds alot better than the post I quoted... thanks for clearing that up.
post #70 of 192
Maybe you can use this:

"The scriptures often refer respectfully but plainly to the body and its parts. There is no embarrassment and often there is sacred symbolism. It is the world that makes the divinely created body an object of carnal lust. For example, it makes the female breasts primarily into sexual enticements, while the truth is that they were intended to nourish and comfort children." (A Parent's Guide, 37).
post #71 of 192
http://www.lds.org/portal/site/LDSOr...____&hideNav=1

Quote:

Mother’s Milk Is Usually Best for Small Babies

Our Heavenly Father made the mother’s body so it could produce milk. This milk is made especially for human babies to drink. It is better for babies than milk from animals. The first fluid that comes from the mother’s breasts after a new baby is born is also important.
And that is straight off LDS.org The Latter-day Saint Woman: Basic Manual for Women, Part A try showing that to your bishop
post #72 of 192
Quote:
Originally Posted by philomom View Post
Hmph, I'm not even a church goer and I'm mad for you.

http://www.darkfiber.com/pz/grafix/hand7-a.jpg

Picture of Mary nursing Jesus.
Mary! Put a blanket over that holy boob!
post #73 of 192
Wow, what a horrible disappointment from your church. I hope that you all can settle this and move on. Good for you for not agreeing to go hide out in the bathroom to feed your babes!
post #74 of 192
Feel free to use the quote in my siggy

I hope all goes well on Sunday and I can't wait to hear the results.
post #75 of 192
Just letting you know you have one more supportive person. I know plently of LDS mamas who nurse (and this was before I ever came to mothering). You aren't alone in that as you know.
I like the link above. Hard to argue with president.
But really, it sounds like you handled the interaction with the cookie lady quite well and that you are on a good track with this.
post #76 of 192
Loved your new blog post. You're a strong momma.
post #77 of 192
I want to know what he thinks about the young men looking lustfully on those pictures of Mary. Surely that's a sin?
post #78 of 192
Quote:
Originally Posted by Niamh View Post
Still

Ever since goats were domesticated there has always been another option.
The Prophet Mohammed was wet-nursed by at least four women other than his mother. It is a Koranic requirement that Muslim women breastfeed their children for a period of 2 years and is considered one of the holiest acts of motherhood. Women who are unable to breastfeed are required to enlist a wet-nurse for the infant, with the wet-nurse receiving proper compensation for her work, payable by the father of the infant. (Holy Koran, 2:233)

PM me for more info on breastfeeding and Islam.
post #79 of 192
Quote:
Originally Posted by Turkish Kate View Post
:
PMing you to keep this thread on-topic. Suffice it to say, the exact post you quoted had nothing to do with the Prophet Mohammed and everything to do with the fact that there were options for non-breastfeeding when it was stated that there were none.
post #80 of 192
Quote:
Originally Posted by Niamh View Post
PMing you to keep this thread on-topic. Suffice it to say, the exact post you quoted had nothing to do with the Prophet Mohammed and everything to do with the fact that there were options for non-breastfeeding when it was stated that there were none.
I believe that in those days, children fed from goat milk or other non-human-milk substitutes existed, but were far less likely to survive infancy and early childhood than breastfed children.
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Lactivism
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Baby › Breastfeeding › Lactivism › And it happened to me. Update on post 96