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post #41 of 70
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Originally Posted by Kewpie View Post
My protein shake, 38 gms protein, 550+ calories:
*banana
*1/3 cup frozen berries
* 1/2 C whole/2% milk
* 1/2 C whole milk unsweetened yogurt
Scoop protein powder (I like "Show Me the Whey" sold via co-ops and whole foods)
* 1-2 tbls olive or flax seed oil

But take that with a grain of salt, despite drinking one (or two) a day since 10 weeks I've not managed to put on a lot of weight.
Thanks Kewpie!
post #42 of 70
I am almost 32 weeks along with my twins. I found out about the twins at my 19 week ultrasound so I have been trying to catch up on my weight gain. I have only gained 35 lbs so far. I have been struggling with getting enough protein. I just have to remind myself that it is good for the babies. Now if only chocolate cake was good for the babies I'd be set.

I'm tired of being tired. I am frustrated that I can't do as much as I used to. If I have too busy a day and don't hydrate enough I end up with Braxton-Hicks for hours afterwards.

I am getting more and more uncomfortable. I struggle to put on my socks and I am starting to out grow some of my maternity wear. The bras that I bought just two months ago now are uncomfortable to wear for more that a couple of hours.

I am moody!! I snapped at my husband yesterday for no good reason. I heard myself talking and I knew that I was being unreasonable but I just couldn't stop the words from coming out of my mouth.

We had our tour of the hospital and I will be delivering in the high risk area. It feels like I will have to really fight to get the birth that I want. For example, it is being strongly recommended that I have the epidural put in "just in case".

I haven't washed anything yet because we are moving into our new house in the next couple of weeks. I don't have enough clothes for the babies yet. I haven't figured out which cloth diapers to get.

I feel overwhelmed and they aren't even here yet.
post #43 of 70
subbing b/c this is a great outlet!

with the crawling comes the crying it seems. they want to be all over me. i spent yesterday and today on the living room floor with them, being seriously maulled. how can two little 8mo babes manage to totally assault me? :

and we are getting ready to sell our house so it's just chaos with the upgrades we're putting in....

oh and they have figured out how to take stuff from each other so the nonverbal fighting has started here. she rolled over, took his paci out of his mouth, rolled back and blew a raspberry at him. he commenced crying pitifully. how do you deal with this? make them work it out? take it back from her to give to him? give him a different paci? give her a different one? they do this with everything now. even carpet lint, which if they weren't each nursing 5x a night still might actually be funny.

to all the preggo multiple moms-- hang in there!!! every week spent pregnant is sooooo worth it when you see those two huge high birth weight, full term hunks of cutie pootie-ness on the big day. (then they start crying and the chaos, oh the chaos..... )
post #44 of 70
I love and hate this thread. I liked it better when I could have the fantasy that when they could communicate more reliably (i.e. talk) things would be a little easier, rather than the seemingly random screamfest I often get!

My whines are primarily related to sleep. Specifically, lack of, and uncomfortableness of. The girls no longer want to sleep in their cribs all night, so they join us right around when we are going to bed. In our queen-sized bed. They are squirmy. They hit each other and wake each other up. They wake us up. It's hot in there. My back hurts from always laying on my right side with my butt hanging off the bed. But if I roll over the other way someone finds my hair and pulls it. The other night I grabbed my pillow and a blanket to go sleep on the sofa for a few hours and then I remembered - the cat peed on the darn (leather so you can't get the smell out) sofa so we don't have one at the moment (new one coming next week):. If the stupid cat hadn't ruined the sofa, we'd be sleeping in a King sized bed by now. I'm still not ruling out just putting it on the credit card and worrying about the expense later, because my body cannot take this anymore, and the girls seem nowhere near ready to sleep through the night in their cribs again (which they did at 4 months for several weeks - stupid me thought I had easy babies and was the luckiest mama in the world. HA!)


Aaaah. That felt good. And bad.
post #45 of 70
i am seven weeks pregnant with what i thought was only one baby. i had some spotting and cramping and went to the doctor. they did an ultra-sound and found two babies! they measured great and had good heartrates. i am very excited! it us unbelievable the amount of ridiculous things people have already said to me.
is it normal for my stomach to get full so quickly this early? i get hungry, yet i can't eat a whole lot. then i just feel sick. i am the mother of two already, so i know that getting sick during pregnancy is normal. it's just that this time i can't seem to be able to eat as much. also, i am already very uncomfortable. i am not really showing, it's just that my hips and back hurt a great deal...
post #46 of 70
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Originally Posted by 1stTimeMummytoLore View Post
they want to be all over me. i spent yesterday and today on the living room floor with them, being seriously maulled. how can two little 8mo babes manage to totally assault me? :
HA! I sympathize except I have two 4yo who are constantly all over me, and an almost-2yo who just wants to use me as a jungle gym. My twins are SO attached. Obvs I love that we are close but they always have to be in close PROXIMITY to me, especially when they are upset about something. They both try to climb in my lap (and take up my entire lap, so the other can't share) and cuddle with me (and half strangle me in the process). And then dd comes up and puts her foot in my pelvis so she can climb up the couch.

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I honestly have no idea where #4 is going to go, he or she won't have any room!
post #47 of 70
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Originally Posted by mandieolivia View Post
is it normal for my stomach to get full so quickly this early? i get hungry, yet i can't eat a whole lot. then i just feel sick. i am the mother of two already, so i know that getting sick during pregnancy is normal. it's just that this time i can't seem to be able to eat as much. also, i am already very uncomfortable. i am not really showing, it's just that my hips and back hurt a great deal...
Congrats and welcome! Yes to your questions. At least for me, I NEVER had the ravenous twin appetite everyone assured me would come. I think that's part of the problem I've had with gaining weight. Make every calorie count. If you eat a baked potato, make it a loaded one (butter, sour cream, cheese, etc.) I really like protein shakes too to help boost your calorie count.
post #48 of 70
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Originally Posted by mandieolivia View Post
i am seven weeks pregnant with what i thought was only one baby. i had some spotting and cramping and went to the doctor. they did an ultra-sound and found two babies! they measured great and had good heartrates. i am very excited! it us unbelievable the amount of ridiculous things people have already said to me.
is it normal for my stomach to get full so quickly this early? i get hungry, yet i can't eat a whole lot. then i just feel sick. i am the mother of two already, so i know that getting sick during pregnancy is normal. it's just that this time i can't seem to be able to eat as much. also, i am already very uncomfortable. i am not really showing, it's just that my hips and back hurt a great deal...
Oooooh yeah, I remember this (not that it was all that long ago for me!). I'm 19 weeks pregnant with two and, for me, the hip/back thing settled down after a few weeks. It felt like everything was shifting around and spreading out at an almost unnatural pace. I'm a back sleeper and couldn't sleep on my back for a few weeks, and then I was able to just fine. Now I can't anymore because the weight is getting to be too much, which means that my extra curvaceous hips get ground into the mattress. I wake up with huge swaths of numbness

Getting out of bed at night to pee is SUCH a trial now! It's fine if I've just laid down, but if I'm in bed for more than an hour, everything settles in such a way as to be incredible stiff (or something) when I go to move. Ugh. And I'm only half way there... (at least I HOPE I'm halfway! *full term babies! full term babies!*)

And feeling hungry and full at the same time is so not fun. I think it gets better after awhile -- it's fine for me right now -- but it really sucked there for a bit. I'm guessing it'll get worse as the babies/uterus get bigger and I have less room for my stomach. My current problem is not getting enough to eat! I'm gaining weight just fine (19 weeks tomorrow, have gained nearly 25lbs), but I still feel like I'm hungry nearly all the time, no matter how much or how little I eat (same goes for amount of fat & protein in any given meal).
post #49 of 70
i thought that i was in the clear as far as morning sickness went, yet lately i have been SO sick. it's terrible. i am hungry but can't stomach to eat. i do, of course, force myself to eat...but it's still miserable. i have been having a lot of cramping and heaviness. i am not sure if that's normal or just due to the fact that two c-sections really took a toll on my insides. i haven't been the same physically since the birth of my second born. there are just a lot of unknowns for me right now. i have never carried two babies at once before!
post #50 of 70
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=623350

Please help!
post #51 of 70
I have to chime in. Ever since I went to a part-time work schedule, I have been pulling my hair out with my 2.6yo twins! The cold winter is not helping either and both have a really bad case of cabin fever. Putting on their winter outer gear takes about 1/2 hour and when you finally get them outside, they want to go back in within 10 minutes because they will not wear their mittens!

My DS is relatively close to being potty trained, but he keep wanting to play with 'it' and consequently becomes quite the fountain (which he thinks it's funny). Originally my DD was ahead of the game but had a dramatic setback when back in October she pooped in her potty for the first time and freaked out at the huge 'thing' in the cup. She has refused to sit on the potty since. We want to put them in 3-day preKindy in September, but if I cannot get her potty trained by then, all bets are off since I cannot separate these two for more than 30 seconds w/o one of them freaking out. Tonight DS threw he wood comb in his potty full of pee and used his toothbrush like a mop on the bathroom floor. Admittedly I lost my temper for a few seconds, yelled at DS, then caught my breath, and quietly said, 'You may not use your toothbrush to clean the floor..." What I really wanted to say is, 'repeat after me...this is not the army.'

We tried them in big kid beds late last year but they tore apart the nursery during their naptime on day 2. : The cribs came back that night with tents installed. DD can still get out of her crib and 2 days ago I find the nursery again a wreck with her holding an empty wipe tub. I ask her where the wipes went and as a matter-of-factly she replied, 'In the diaper pail.'...It was the last batch of wipes.

Now they are pretty much done with their single afternoon naps, but by 3pm they are so tired, they get clingy and overall destructive. It just seems no amount of diversion, simple housework, drawing, and block building can keep them calm or occupied until 5pm when I need to feed them for dinner. I might add that we are a no-TV family.

On a surprising good note, recently I was working from home and I heard in the family room what appeared to be the twins having a 'messy party' by tearing a catalogue to shreds. In a mock stern tone I said, 'Hmmm, I think DS/DD is going to help mommy clean up after their messy party right?' of course they laughed and said 'NO!' and I let it go until later when we do a quick clean up before mealtime. I finish work for the day and go into the family room...there's no shredded paper. Knowing that they squirrel stuff away in all sort of places I check out every nook and cranny in the family room and there is not one scrap of paper. 'Nah,' I thought, 'They couldn't have...' I checked the kitchen trash and sure enough all the shredded paper was there.

Good kids.
post #52 of 70
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Originally Posted by Zadee View Post
My whine: I can't take in enough calories to BF them both without melting away! It doesn't help that I have no appetite because I have a cold (and so do they). I am down 8 pounds from my pre-pregnancy weight, and though that doesn't seem like a lot they are only 7 months old! At this rate, I'll be -500 pounds by the time they wean!

(Suggestions on easy to eat high calorie foods accepted gratefully - I am so sick of eggs and dairy products!)
OK - this I saw as one of the key benefits of the multiples experience. But this is coming from someone who always has to "work" to keep it off. I was in awe while BFing the triplets - I could eat ANYTHING and lost weight almost every morning? Too bad that didn't last . . . . . .

Sorry - your whine is legit as to the converse of the experience - but for me - I LOVED THE BF WASTING issue with Triplets!
post #53 of 70
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Originally Posted by medeanj View Post
I have to chime in. Ever since I went to a part-time work schedule, I have been pulling my hair out with my 2.6yo twins! The cold winter is not helping either and both have a really bad case of cabin fever. Putting on their winter outer gear takes about 1/2 hour and when you finally get them outside, they want to go back in within 10 minutes because they will not wear their mittens!

My DS is relatively close to being potty trained, but he keep wanting to play with 'it' and consequently becomes quite the fountain (which he thinks it's funny).

Now they are pretty much done with their single afternoon naps, but by 3pm they are so tired, they get clingy and overall destructive. It just seems no amount of diversion, simple housework, drawing, and block building can keep them calm or occupied until 5pm when I need to feed them for dinner. I might add that we are a no-TV family.
Hey - my triplets are 2.2 - and same kinda thing with sleeping. have you tried napping them in separate rooms? I am starting to get convinced that the "multiples" dynamic is a key ingredient in foiling their much needed naps! My kids are doing the same thing -- and they are exhausted - 3 pm to bedtime is the torture zone right now - tired kid melt down after melt down. Just a thought . . . .
post #54 of 70
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Now they are pretty much done with their single afternoon naps, but by 3pm they are so tired, they get clingy and overall destructive. It just seems no amount of diversion, simple housework, drawing, and block building can keep them calm or occupied until 5pm when I need to feed them for dinner. I might add that we are a no-TV family.
Wait, did you write that part, or did I?

My 2.5-year-old twins have completely stopped napping, but I don't think they've really outgrown their need to nap. As TripMom suggested, I think they just keep each other awake and riled up so napping in the same room becomes impossible. I'm trying to work out some way to separate them and have them both be safely 'contained' so I can test the theory.

I tried to get a no-tv multiples tribe going in the "finding your tribe" area but nothing much happened.

Thanks to the OP for this thread. Knowing that all of you moms are out there going through the same thing has really helped me.
post #55 of 70
I'd join your no-tv multiples tribe.
post #56 of 70
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Originally Posted by 2+twins View Post
I'd join your no-tv multiples tribe.

Oh Moderator! Ya think we can start a sub-thread here? I'm in.
post #57 of 70
{{{GREAT BIG HUGS}}} to all you mamas of multiples. You are doing a very VERY hard job! My twins are 4.5 now, and while it isn't anywhere NEAR as challenging as those first years, well, it's still more challenging sometimes than a singleton LOL. Believe me when I say it gets easier. I think we also adapt and just get more efficient. Or we've completely lost our crackers by then, and we just don't notice anything anymore LOL.

anyways - just wanted to give you all a big pat pat on the back -- consider me to be one of your biggest cheerleaders, mamas.
post #58 of 70
It could be that I'm coming down with the pukies my daughter had last night and getting achey, or the pressure front coming through hurting my joints, or just part of being 28 1/2 weeks preggo with twins, but I FEEL ROTTEN TODAY! It didn't happen gradually... Just hit me today like a hammer. I feel like someone wrung my neck, beat my back with a sledgehammer, and then spent 5 hours pulling my legs in opposite directions. I'm a little nauseous, walk in slow motion out of necessity, and have been on the verge of tears all day long from the physical pain. It has given me more than enough opportunity to practice my "slow, relaxation childbirth breathing" to get through the pain.

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Or we've completely lost our crackers by then, and we just don't notice anything anymore LOL.
I'll take that... Stat!
post #59 of 70
My twins are almost 2 and nap-time has been a huge problem here too. They don't tear apart their room that bad except flipping their mattresses onto the floor. The big problem has been ripping their clothes and diapers off and pooping and peeing all over then playing in it. All of my kids have gone through this stage and we're at 6-8 months of this with the twins so far. We've tried different kid-proof outfits, taping up their diapers, sleeper PJs on backwards, which works with a singleton, but not tag-teaming twins. I think we've finally figured it out...sleeper PJs with diaper pins through one side of the collar, the zipper, then the other side of the collar. So far it's working.

As for playing together during nap time, it's getting better, but I've had to lay in there on the floor between their beds and nap with them. Now 8 1/2 months pregnant, I'm finding another route, even the couch cushions on the floor aren't saving my pelvis anymore.
post #60 of 70
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Originally Posted by mandieolivia View Post
i am seven weeks pregnant with what i thought was only one baby. i had some spotting and cramping and went to the doctor. they did an ultra-sound and found two babies! they measured great and had good heartrates. i am very excited! it us unbelievable the amount of ridiculous things people have already said to me.
is it normal for my stomach to get full so quickly this early? i get hungry, yet i can't eat a whole lot. then i just feel sick. i am the mother of two already, so i know that getting sick during pregnancy is normal. it's just that this time i can't seem to be able to eat as much. also, i am already very uncomfortable. i am not really showing, it's just that my hips and back hurt a great deal...
im not pregnant with twins- at least i dont think so, i havent been to the doc yet, lol, but i feel like this. i get so hungry, and then i can only eat a few bites and it makes me nauseous and miserable
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