I have to chime in. Ever since I went to a part-time work schedule, I have been pulling my hair out with my 2.6yo twins! The cold winter is not helping either and both have a really bad case of cabin fever. Putting on their winter outer gear takes about 1/2 hour and when you finally get them outside, they want to go back in within 10 minutes because they will not wear their mittens!
My DS is relatively close to being potty trained, but he keep wanting to play with 'it' and consequently becomes quite the fountain (which he thinks it's funny). Originally my DD was ahead of the game but had a dramatic setback when back in October she pooped in her potty for the first time and freaked out at the huge 'thing' in the cup. She has refused to sit on the potty since. We want to put them in 3-day preKindy in September, but if I cannot get her potty trained by then, all bets are off since I cannot separate these two for more than 30 seconds w/o one of them freaking out. Tonight DS threw he wood comb in his potty full of pee and used his toothbrush like a mop on the bathroom floor. Admittedly I lost my temper for a few seconds, yelled at DS, then caught my breath, and quietly said, 'You may not use your toothbrush to clean the floor..." What I really wanted to say is, 'repeat after me...this is not the army.'
We tried them in big kid beds late last year but they tore apart the nursery during their naptime on day 2.
: The cribs came back that night with tents installed. DD can still get out of her crib and 2 days ago I find the nursery again a wreck with her holding an empty wipe tub. I ask her where the wipes went and as a matter-of-factly she replied, 'In the diaper pail.'...It was the last batch of wipes.
Now they are pretty much done with their single afternoon naps, but by 3pm they are so tired, they get clingy and overall destructive. It just seems no amount of diversion, simple housework, drawing, and block building can keep them calm or occupied until 5pm when I need to feed them for dinner. I might add that we are a no-TV family.
On a surprising good note, recently I was working from home and I heard in the family room what appeared to be the twins having a 'messy party' by tearing a catalogue to shreds. In a mock stern tone I said, 'Hmmm, I think DS/DD is going to help mommy clean up after their messy party right?' of course they laughed and said 'NO!' and I let it go until later when we do a quick clean up before mealtime. I finish work for the day and go into the family room...there's no shredded paper. Knowing that they squirrel stuff away in all sort of places I check out every nook and cranny in the family room and there is not one scrap of paper. 'Nah,' I thought, 'They couldn't have...' I checked the kitchen trash and sure enough all the shredded paper was there.