My little girl is 23 months old and this just started recently, We've had a baby bjorn potty since birth and we never had a problem before. I guess we only EC part time since there are times for us that aren't practical at all, esp now that shes a toddler and enjoys a lot of activities, like playgroups and dance, etc.
I feel like we are halfway between EC and actual toilet learning, so maybe it will play out, but in the meantime...
-She verbally tells us when she has to pee.
-She can remove her own pants
-She seems to get upset if she has an "accident" (i have no idea why, both my husband and I are VERY relaxed about accidents, we have never given any indication that a little bit of pee on the floor is bad). But, it does fit with the rest of her personality, as she is not a messy kid at all (very weird, since i am!) and doesn't like any sort of spills or crumbs, etc. i.e., if she spills her drink, she says "oh noooo! Mama!" and points it out to me to clean it up.
- When she tells me she has to pee, she will also say that she wants her potty. She will sit on it just fine. But she won't go. I *know* she is holding it back, because i've seen her dribble, then squeeze and hold it. She can hold it for a very long time, and if her muscles give out, she will let a little bit out just to relief the pressure, and then squeeze again. She never had problems with straight ECing when she was younger, I guess it began when she learned how to hold it back?
I am very afraid she will give herself a bladder infection by doing this.
I have asked her if she would rather have the diaper or the potty. She always wants the potty. She is excited about the potty, she has a book about a potty and she can relate the little girl in the book to herself. she knows pee belongs in the potty, and when shes done sitting on it, she says "bye bye pee pee" to a dry potty and expects me to go flush the pretend pee.
But, if i put a diaper on her, bingo - there she goes.
I figure its performance anxiety of some sort - like she would rather have privacy these days. I try not to look at her, or put the potty where its not in my line of sight and tend to something else to see if that helps, but it doesnt seem to. I give her a cup of warm water and a book and she can actually sit there for up to 10 minutes, on the potty, looking at the book but still nothing....And like i said, both my husband and I are very relaxed about all of it, hoping we can always just work with her cues, what shes ready for, etc, with absolutely NO pressure.
So my question is: any other techniques for helping them relax and just let go? I feel like I've tried everything to make it relaxed and not a big deal. The more i think about it, the more i think we are getting there, since she IS making improvement with sitting there for longer and knowing that the alternative is a diaper, and maybe i just need to give it lots of more time?
I feel like we are halfway between EC and actual toilet learning, so maybe it will play out, but in the meantime...
-She verbally tells us when she has to pee.
-She can remove her own pants
-She seems to get upset if she has an "accident" (i have no idea why, both my husband and I are VERY relaxed about accidents, we have never given any indication that a little bit of pee on the floor is bad). But, it does fit with the rest of her personality, as she is not a messy kid at all (very weird, since i am!) and doesn't like any sort of spills or crumbs, etc. i.e., if she spills her drink, she says "oh noooo! Mama!" and points it out to me to clean it up.
- When she tells me she has to pee, she will also say that she wants her potty. She will sit on it just fine. But she won't go. I *know* she is holding it back, because i've seen her dribble, then squeeze and hold it. She can hold it for a very long time, and if her muscles give out, she will let a little bit out just to relief the pressure, and then squeeze again. She never had problems with straight ECing when she was younger, I guess it began when she learned how to hold it back?
I am very afraid she will give herself a bladder infection by doing this.
I have asked her if she would rather have the diaper or the potty. She always wants the potty. She is excited about the potty, she has a book about a potty and she can relate the little girl in the book to herself. she knows pee belongs in the potty, and when shes done sitting on it, she says "bye bye pee pee" to a dry potty and expects me to go flush the pretend pee.
But, if i put a diaper on her, bingo - there she goes.
I figure its performance anxiety of some sort - like she would rather have privacy these days. I try not to look at her, or put the potty where its not in my line of sight and tend to something else to see if that helps, but it doesnt seem to. I give her a cup of warm water and a book and she can actually sit there for up to 10 minutes, on the potty, looking at the book but still nothing....And like i said, both my husband and I are very relaxed about all of it, hoping we can always just work with her cues, what shes ready for, etc, with absolutely NO pressure.
So my question is: any other techniques for helping them relax and just let go? I feel like I've tried everything to make it relaxed and not a big deal. The more i think about it, the more i think we are getting there, since she IS making improvement with sitting there for longer and knowing that the alternative is a diaper, and maybe i just need to give it lots of more time?
) I used to make the "pssssst" sound for EC, but now im thinking its too much pressure on her and i should redirect her focus a little bit.
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She was naked all morning this morning, and we had an accident. She came close though. I am hoping one of those toilet-top seats with the latter will help.
