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post #21 of 33
2/27/07 at 9:05am
Good for you Irish! I'm almost thirty and STILL can't tell my mom what I believe.
post #22 of 33
2/27/07 at 11:12am
That's a good point, ChloeM. My dh considers himself an atheist, but when I explain to him who God is to me, he says he feels pretty similarly!
post #23 of 33
2/27/07 at 11:30am
I think it's great she is thinking deeply and sharing her thoughts with you!
Personally I believe free will goes all the way, otherwise it wouldn't truly be free will, would it?
post #24 of 33
2/27/07 at 11:31am
Intersting. I grew up Catholic (no longer), beleive what she does but also beleive in God. Maybe she just doesn't beleive in Catholicism completely?

Good job tho! She will probably continue to explore and ponder her beleifs...
post #25 of 33
2/28/07 at 1:02am
I"m glad you were so understanding of her position. I told my parents that I was an atheist when I was in high school. They still forced me to be confirmed, which I thought was really wrong because I essentially had to take a vow in something that I REALLY didn't believe in. They didn't want to hear it. They still don't want to hear it, so we just ignore the fact that I'm an atheist.
post #26 of 33
2/28/07 at 2:06am
I hope that continues! It comes with time... a lot of confusion while young. Usually they are expecting a "sign" or life changing situation to believe... but faith comes
post #27 of 33
2/28/07 at 3:06am
Not always.
post #28 of 33
2/28/07 at 3:33am
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Originally Posted by Earthy Mama View Post
Good for you Irish! I'm almost thirty and STILL can't tell my mom what I believe.
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It's great that you have such an honest relationship with your dd
post #29 of 33
3/1/07 at 9:09pm
Good for you. My parents were very, very angry when I told them.
post #30 of 33
3/1/07 at 10:29pm
Thread Starter 
Thanks. We'll see what happens...
post #31 of 33
3/1/07 at 10:43pm
Wow, I wish my mom would have been as understanding as you are, Irish! I "converted" or more decided, really, that Wicca was my path, and when I started reading about it, buying books, wearing Wiccan symbols, my mom became very angry and said things like "You're going to hell", and just basically acted like anyone who didn't believe in the Christian version of God was a horrible person. The funny part was, she isn't a church goer at all, but was raised strict Methodist, so I guess that stuck. I didn't have any idea how fanatical my beliefs made her until one day we were arguing about it again and she lunged at my neck and tore my pentagram off. Scary... So that is wonderful that you and your daughter have such an open relationship!
post #32 of 33
3/1/07 at 11:42pm
Good for you Irishmommy!! My dd (now 8yo & in 3rd grade) decided in K or 1st grade that she believed in heaven and angels, but not God. Dh and I are not sure what we believe about God, but believe that we can't MAKE someone believe anything they don't want to believe (spiritually). We are a Unitarian Universalist family, and so her beliefs are hers, and ours are ours.
Really, the biggest problem occurred in 1st grade when the Catholic kids were going through 1st Communion ( I think) and at Easter time..... they said really mean things to her----she'd die the next day if she didn't believe in God; "Don't sit next to her(dd) or you'll go to hell", etc.....For weeks this went on and I didn't know. The teacher didn't know and dd didn't say anything to me. Finally they called me to school on another matter and I sat down with dd and we solved the initial problem, but she was still sad. Then this tormenting came out!!! I felt so angry that these little kids could be so mean!! The next day the teacher had a presentation on the separation of church and state---we talk about school in school and God/Religion at home or away from school. The subject didn't come up again until the next year, and the next teacher dealt with it in an acceptable manner also.
I'm only mentioning this part to say that even in a public school, there was the issue of problems with the other kids. Maybe since they're older yours might not have this issue--hopefully the older kids are more tolerant of their differences--but be prepared for that discussion too.
Your dd sounds like my dd in that she's a strong person who knows her beliefs and is interested in exploration.....G'luck!!!
post #33 of 33
3/2/07 at 1:35am
That's what happens when you teach children to think for themselves.

Good for you Irish, you should be very proud of your relationship, AND your daughter.
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