She told me not to use that name!

[MotheringHeart]

Okay, so we had lunch today with a family friend, who we generally really like. We are very close with them and she was in town, so we all went out. She started asking if we knew the sex of the baby (we do not) and then she asked what the names we had picked out were. So DD #1 volunteers with that information because she loves telling people what the options are. Well, as we are leaving lunch this woman wispers in my ear that we shouldn't use that terrible name we picked for the girl. : Or, she says, we should just call her by her middle name, if we HAVE to use that name. : ARGHHGHGHGHGH, I just think that totally stinks. I didn't ask her opinion and if she thinks we are going to change just because she thinks it's not such a great name, she is out of her ever-loving-gourd.

I love the name, DH loves the name, my parents love the name and those are pretty much all the people I care about. But it still makes me crazy. Why can't people keep their dang opinions to themselves!?!?!?!?

ps names are: leila naomi or aaron daniel

[AlbertaJes]

Totally not in your DDC, saw this on new posts.

I think that woman was rude.I love the name Leila.

[lunabelly]

Those are great names. That woman is totally rude and has no idea what she's talking about.

I can understand why expecting parents refuse to share their names now. We're considering Seamus if it's a boy, and my mil told me we shouldn't name the baby that because it sounds like "shame us."

[fek&fuzz]

Originally Posted by lunabelly

Those are great names. That woman is totally rude and has no idea what she's talking about.

I can understand why expecting parents refuse to share their names now. We're considering Seamus if it's a boy, and my mil told me we shouldn't name the baby that because it sounds like "shame us."

I like those names.

And I LOVE the name Seamus.

[Kritto]

mama. Unsolicited opinions can be so frustrating.

[Island_Mama]

You mean some random woman at the restaurant you didn't know??

That is REALLY rude! maybe she was just jealous..?:

[Wild Flowers]

Well, as someone who named her child Layla...I love the name, the name is wonderful. Oddly, when she was two weeks old we were sat next to a woman whose name was Layla, and we asked her if she liked her name, she did, lots. There aren't many Leilas and I think it is a wonderful name. It does however bother me that ANY other person dares say ANYTHING about the name that a parent picks for their child. When I said something to mil about liking Gwendolyn, but dh not, she said good. Excuse, but you got to name YOUR child, we will name ours. Don't care for you to approve or disapprove of any name.

[cinnamonamon]

Humpfh... rude, rude, rude! Leila is gorgeous!

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by AlbertaJes

Totally not in your DDC, saw this on new posts.

I think that woman was rude.I love the name Leila.

:

I will admit I had a moment's hesitation until I realized that Aaron was your boy name.

[jecaly]

a very similar thing happened to me recently, and it made me so mad!! it hasn't changed my opinion about the name i like, though.

[dalutheia]

I absolutely just love those names too. Really first class!

[ILoveMySofie]

those are beautiful names.

It gets to me that some people think its okay to disrespect something as dear to you as the name you are choosing for your child when their opinion isnt even being asked for!

[Turkish Kate]

FYI--Leyla is a very popular Turkish name, derived from Arabic, and means "night." It's a great name, even Eric Clapton likes it and you can't get better endorsement than that.

[helen_emily]

Totally unsolicited opinion via seeing your post in "new posts" - I LOVE those names. I think they are very beautiful and classic sounding

If I ever didn't like a name someone chose I would NOT say a thing, we all have different taste!

[Mavournin]

I've started to get really closed-lipped about my name choices or ideas. I have one girl's name that I am very very strongly attached to, and I learned a long time ago that I am probably the only person in the world who likes it. I have had more nasty comments about names than I care to mention.

What a rude beyotch. I think your names are nice.

[MotheringHeart]

The name thing is so hard because we are Jewish we wanted names that would be the same or close in hebrew. So we have looked far and wide for names that are not *too* out of the mainstream, but still reflect our heritage.

You ladies are so sweet and I feel so much better after venting (and reading all your nice messages!).

ps Lunabelly - I LOVE the name "seamus"!!!!!

[see_nelle_run]

I love the girl's name. =) (and the boy's too)

[Nicole77]

Totally lame. That is a lovely name!

[LydiaJW]

I'm not telling anyone our options for baby names because of how evil my GMIL was about our daughters name...I told her on the phone, and after we were done talking she asked to speak to my DH...and proceeded to tell him "don't you DARE let your wife name your baby that HIDEOUS name!": people are so rude.

[Kat_shoshin]

My favourite comment was from my Mom "William? After my uncle Bill the pedophile alcoholic that committed suicide?" No, no, no! - I did not choose a random common name after a man dead long before I was born!!!!

I then was not interested in telling anyone what names we have chosen. I just don't want to hear anyone's opinion on them but my DH's. (and I am still in discussion with him on the girl's name! - although I don't push it because I think we are having a boy anyhow!)

I did tell a select few I trusted - including my mother, but when she called me to ask "what was the boy's name you chose again?" to tell my aunt - she too lost her knowing-the-name privileges.

I think it will be harder for people to criticize once I introduce them to the named baby. Then it will be too late after all If anyone says anything at that point - my plan is post-partum tears and rage - let them feel like shit for a while.

Also, my DH does not take criticism from his side very well. Anything his Dad says has a lasting effect on him - and I don't want his opinion swayed in a way that isn't really his own idea.

And I think Leila is a lovely name - but even if I didn't - it wouldn't be anyone's business but your DH to comment negatively unless asked!