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Poll Results: Were your twins conceived naturally or with assistance?

 
  • 81% (66)
    Au Natural
  • 18% (15)
    Little bit o' help
81 Total Votes  
post #21 of 53
I don't mind the "spontaneous v. help" question, unless it is phrased negatively.

Yes, we had a little help to conceive. (Clomid and a trigger shot) I know another twin mom IRL and she did IVF.
post #22 of 53
Whenever our various doctors and nurses and techs during the pregnancy asked us "spontaneous twins?" I always wanted to reply "No, we were actually planning for this." Or maybe, "No, they are actually very boring and predictable." Never actually said it, though. But, yes they were "spontaneous".
post #23 of 53
My friend Beth had IVF with 3 eggs -- and then one of them split into MZ twins. So she has quads and 3/4 were "assisted" but 1/4 were spontaneous!
post #24 of 53
Beth - how exciting about your trips! You *should* definitley start playing the lottery!
post #25 of 53
Got a little boost on the Clomid. Doc said 7% chance of twins, 1.5% chance of Triplets. I never win, so we went for it.


I won the lottery
post #26 of 53
I do feel a bit resentful of the "natural" or not question irl, but not on a board like this where folks seem to let it all hang out. I also know that it is my own issue as far as feeling inferior/substandard/inadequate/whatever because we did get help. My singletons were clomid/iui babies and the twins are ivf.
post #27 of 53
I always say spontaneous when people ask me if they were "natural." It just feels better that way.

We were TTC for a little less than a year, and I had really long cycles. Had started seeing an RE and we were going to give it one more cycle and then she wanted to proceed to Clomid+IUI. I was petrified of taking Clomid and increasing my chances of having twins. I was so relieved when I got pregnant on my own that cycle!

The RE (who had a terrible bedside manner) did an u/s at 5w4d to confirm the pregnancy, and I distinctly remember saying "oh thank goodness it's in the uterus (not ectopic) and it's only one!" (because I guess I had twins on the brain from the Clomid.) She didn't see a heartbeat that early so she had me come back at 7w4d. She looked and asked if I had any uterine abnormalities. I said ummm, nooooo...and she said well, there's another sac...but don't get all excited it might be nothing...

It wasn't nothing.
post #28 of 53
I think it's a stupid question to ask perfect strangers in the supermarket, but it doesn't seem out of place here. It just seems like us sharing with each other as usual. But we weren't using ART when our twins were concieved so I don't know how I would feel if we had.

When someone asks me if my twins are "natural" I just ask them cheerfully to explain what "unnatural" twins are .
post #29 of 53
I apologize if I implied that this was an innapropriate place for the question, that's not what I meant to put across (I was curious about the results of the poll too). I was just using the opportunity to vent a little about the phrasing and the rudeness of strangers who feel entitled to this information. No hard feelings towards the OP at all .
post #30 of 53
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by jackson's mama View Post
I apologize if I implied that this was an innapropriate place for the question, that's not what I meant to put across (I was curious about the results of the poll too). I was just using the opportunity to vent a little about the phrasing and the rudeness of strangers who feel entitled to this information. No hard feelings towards the OP at all .
No worries, I never took offense.


I (like many here) would NEVER ask someone who I did not know IRL this question. But amongst us, here on this board, I figured we could talk about it.
post #31 of 53
We were using "protection" when we concieved our twin boys.
post #32 of 53
Well, I had a hard time with this question. I have PCOS and was taking the insuline resistance drug (when I think of the name, I will edit), and herbs to normalize my hormones and perhaps ovulate. But none of it was to induce ovulation specifically. However, I did!!

My boys are mz, but I think I lost a triplet at 14 weeks (hence the ultrasound and confimation).

I hate the "natural" question too. I responded to a particularly nasty woman, "Yes, and were born after your parents had sex too?"
post #33 of 53
IVF here. Our second attempt. The whole infertility process was so horrendously painful.

Anyway . . .

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Originally Posted by jackson's mama View Post
I answered your poll (IVF), but for the record I want to say that I HATE this question. Especially when phrased with the word "natural". I've been asked by total strangers if my twins are natural, and it's like implying that there's something unnatural about twins conceived with the help of fertility meds. I think the term "spontaneous" is closer to what you're actually looking for.

I'm not trying to be snarky or mean, this question just really strikes a nerve with me. I admit to being curious about it myself and wanting to ask other twin moms (but I never would)... and the only way I actually answer it is usually when posed by another twin mom. Usually I avoid giving an answer and just make the person feel uncomfortable for asking such a personal question.
I agree with this, too, although I don't get asked all that often about how my twins were conceived. I prefer the term spontaneously conceived.

While we're asking personal questions, Elisabethmelner, did you homebirth your triplets?
post #34 of 53
IUI with injectible drugs. First try! After 6 rounds of clomid and no luck.

I don't mind answering this question to certain people, like those dealing with IF, but I hate it when other people say stuff.
post #35 of 53
totally spontaneous. i am one of those "it doesn't run anywhere in the family" types...until now, i guess.
post #36 of 53
My twins were spontaneous/natural-whatever you want to call it. Surprisingly I haven't really been asked this question that I can recall-maybe because we already had a son when they were born?
post #37 of 53
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by gemelos View Post
My twins were spontaneous/natural-whatever you want to call it. Surprisingly I haven't really been asked this question that I can recall-maybe because we already had a son when they were born?
We already had 5 and still get asked!
post #38 of 53
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Originally Posted by tatermom View Post
Sorry to be lurking here when I don't have multiples, but my brother and SIL are due with triplets and have been getting this question a lot. Theirs were conceived on clomid and neither they, nor their doctors, nor I have ever heard of anyone getting triplets from clomid (twins, yes, but not higher multiples). Just curious if anyone knows anyone with triplets conceived in this way? Sorry if OT!
I know of a few. I also know a mom who go pg with quintuplets from it.

As for the twin question, we were spontabeously surprised at 20 weeks that our planned baby was actually 2. I told dh the day I was ovulating that if he wanted me to get pg it was the day to dtd and so we did and we must have done it really well cuz we got 2 for 1!
post #39 of 53
Spontaneous, but concieved three weeks after a miscarriage, which I think is the culprit (my babes are fraternal, so I o'ed twice, I think due to wonky post-m/c hormones.) I get asked this CONSTANTLY, it's so weird that people think that's a normal question to ask someone, LOL!
post #40 of 53
While we're asking personal questions, Elisabethmelner, did you homebirth your triplets?[/QUOTE]

Nope, I couldn't find enough midwives to attend me for a home birth and ended up with a hospital birth. When my water broke, Maya was in 1st position and her foot was coming out of my cervex (between her other two sisters' heads). One of the stipulations for me to attempt a vaginal delivery w/ the trips was that 1st postion trip had to be head down. So.....c-section it was. I'm still trying to come to terms with how they were born. My husband thinks I'm being silly and that I should be thankful they were healthy and no NICU, but I can't help but feel sad. The homebirths of my first two sons were incredibly amazing, so I feel that the girls got cheated.
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