so much to think about - Page 2

[sparkygirl74]

Well we are moving in with the IL's in a few months and then into a new house right around my due date, so I feel a little out of control for the whole thing. I keep having panicky moments thinking about it all. We have just about everything we will need already but I won't be able to really get it ready before the baby gets here. It will all be in boxes. I hope the IL's are OK with me washing dipes at their house!

[Momma Aimee]

Well we are moving in with the IL's in a few months and then into a new house right around my due date, so I feel a little out of control for the whole thing.

last pg we BUILT this house around ourselves...we moved in on sub-floor with one bathroom, and no kitchen... then promptly got preggo.....

i got a kitchen when i was past 6 months, and carpet past 5 months...... slept on the floor (sub) till sometime month 4......

One of my BIG to do things for THING preggo is actually to get the cabents and so on ORGIZED as that never happened -- we shoved stuff in them as we had them -- there has never been a system.

The NIGHT I went into labor DH went to storage and got the funiture (all but our bed which we already had) and unpack it -- as people would be coming over...... I kid you not.

[WeasleyMum]

Originally Posted by Apryl Srissa

Sadly, most of my first thoughts have seemed selfish. I've spent the last 6 weeks changing my diet and excerise routines, and have lost a bit of weight, I had really been looking forward to finally feeling healthy and being comfortable with my weight. Though I can still eat healthy of course, I now am not sure how much I'm going to give up my yoga, I was really enjoying the dvd I've been doing, but I'm pretty sure a lot of it will be nonos now.

My dh had a drs appt for a test today that was really worrysom (turned out all was ok, but that wasn't till after 5). So I just went between worrying about him, and about OMG, what am I going to do. After his appt, I realized that neither of us had really reacted yet, just panicked, so we started talking and I think its getting real now. I liked a couple houses in our price range, so we are going to check into more info on those. And I am going to keep eating healthy, though obvoiusly not restricting my calories and just take it easy with my excersizes. One cool thing, I casually mentioned to dh that I might not go to the same midwife, and he assumed I meant homebirth so guess he's ok with that. In fact, he assumed it just meant him catching, no midwife, but we do have one locally. His only concern was if insurance helped, which I think we'll be ok on.

So after all that, my biggest worry still left is sleep. My 3 year is currently having sleep issues. And my 18 m old is still iffy, more nights than not I'm up with him, some times more than I sleep, so this is a problem. In fact, the other night I didn't even get to bed till after 3. But we can work on this, we have a while.

Apryl, I just ordered a prenatal yoga dvd from Amazon-- pretty much all the companies that do yoga videos make special ones for us preggers ladies and most yoga studios offer prenatal yoga classes-- although they might be too 'beginner' for you, I don't know.

As for what I'm thinking about: My DP and I are having a shot-gun wedding! Not really, or not exactly... we've been engaged *forever* and had vague plans to get married in May. Now with this, my parents jumped in and planned it out for me (yes!) so it'll happen sooner rather than later. Even when you've been living together for 5 years, though, getting married is something to think about!

I'm also worried about being isolated at the time of the birth and afterwards. DP and I just moved to this town in October, so we don't have *any* close friends or family here. I'd love to have my mom here for the birth and I'm sure they'll come and visit then or shortly after, but I'm kind of worried about the maternity leave, with my family 1000 miles away and what friends I have here working. I don't know any moms or anything. And for the birth I guess it's going to just be me, DP and the OB, which seems kinda lonely to me; I've always been one of those birth-as-big-party type imaginers.

[ChristyM26]

Oh my... My current list:
How will the cats handle the baby?
Should I leave the ob/gyn practice I'm with (and happy with) to try and find a midwife?
Can I do a scrapbook with a new baby around?
How much time can I take off?
What on earth do I need for a baby anyway?
Can I still use acrylic paint (I have a picture I want to finish)?
Will I be able to finish my needlework piece before the baby's born (I'm so slow with them)?
How do I tell my principal?
How do I tell my coworkers?
Can I go see my mom over the summer (she lives in MA, we live in NC)?
As awful as this sounds - will somebody throw me a baby shower (I don't have a lot of friends around here and the people who would likely think about it live in NJ, NY and MA)?

I'll think of more in about 30 seconds I'm sure... this is just what I've thought of in about 2 week (since I've known). :

[myjulybabes]

I just got a very unexpected BFP today, so there's a ton!

--how am I birthing this time? I'd like a VBA2C, but I don't think my current OB does them, and I really adore her. I need to do more research on the risks of elective c-sections before I decide. A planned birth would be so convinient for planning childcare (our main babysitters live an hour away), but I don't want to take unnecessary risks just for convinience, KWIM?

--What do we need as far as baby stuff goes? Since my youngest is 5, we've gotten rid of a lot. And this babe will be off-season from the last 2 so we may need all new clothes too...eep! I know for sure we need a car seat and rocking chair.

-- how the *(&% are we going to tell the parents and ILs? I suspect they will not be happy.

-- how mad is dh going to be when I put my foot down on circ? (did the other 2 boys because I didn't know better. Now I do, and intend to say NO WAY)

-- I was planning a road trip, man! Can I still do that? Do I even WANT to still do that?

--Where the heck did I put my nursing bras? Oh, and where do I find plus size maternity clothes??? I have very little left from previous pregnancies, and I have no idea if it'll still fit.

-- Cloth or disposable?

-- How is Aidan going to take this? He's been the baby for 5 years (will be 6 by then), and he has autism. It's hard to prepare any kid for the massive changes a new baby brings, but how to explain it to somone barely verbal?

-- and morbidly, but honestly....is this pregnancy even going to "stick"? I've never had a miscarriage (that I know of), but I'm nervous this time for some reason.