names, again?? - Page 2

[Corri]

Get him drunk and make him sign an agreement, WW? I know how it is to get fixated on a name. We don't know th sex yet, but we will in NINE DAYS! (Can you tell I'm a wee bit excited about the ultrasound?)

We're going with old family names for our baby. The name in brackets is the hebrew name he/she will have, for use in synagogue.

Boy: Alexander David (Zalman) - Alexander is an English varient for Zalman, who was my great-grandfather, and David is an old famiyl name in DH's family - there's been either a David or a Richard or both in every generation for about six hundred years.

Girl: Jennifer Elizabeth (Elisheva) - Jennifer is DH's favourite girls' name, and coincidentally enough, the name of one of my great-grandmothers! Elizabeth is a traditional family name on DH's side; his sister and neice have 'Elizabeth' for middles as well. Elisheva is the original Hebrew for Elizabeth.

I can't wait to find out if we have an Alex or a Jen!

[willoLevin]

Originally Posted by WhiteWax

I can't get Imogene out of my head and DexP will not budge on it!

No idea about the "legality" of it, and it certainly doesn't seem very fair, but, in the hospital I used in 2003 at least, the official person who took the birth certificate information talked to me and me alone. I filled out the birth certificate information form. DH wasn't even in the hospital when that conversation took place (he'd gone to work for a few hours.)

I remember, because I had this sudden fear that I'd misspelled DS's name. (It's a very common Biblical name, and it would've been REALLY moronic to misspell it, but I was SEIZED with terror that I had done so.)

I expect that, when the parents aren't married, the man has even less likelihood of being consulted.

I'm sounding awfully wicked even suggesting this, but it did cross my mind when I read your post!

Perhaps this can be a negotiating chip for getting your exP to commit in writing to a reasonable support settlement right away... (Am I really evil for thinking this way?)

--willo

[wombatclay]

WhiteWax- I know at my hospital I was the one who had to fill out and sign all the "baby forms". (Willo- I also had the "Oh My Gods...did I misspell the name?!?!" moment as the nurse walked out with the paperwork!) Maybe use Imogene as the middle name? Or have two middle names? It can get a little long, but I have a first name, two middle names, and a hyphenated last name (but go by a nickname totally unrelated to any of them!) so I know it can be done!

Saratchka- We chose Rowan for our dd (and Roan if the u/s was wrong and a little boy pops into our family in June) and I think it's a very feminine name! Although Roan (and the more traditional spelling of Rúadhán) is a boy's name and Rowan can be either...for some reason it always felt more like a "girl name" to me. Though that could be because the first place I really connected to the name was in the science fiction book "The Rowan" (I read it as a teen, it's by Anne McCaffery) and although the main character is very strong, she's also pretty feminine! I like the idea of my dd one day reading the book... There's also some neat info about the name online at http://www.medievalscotland.org/prob...es/rowan.shtml but you may have seen it already.

[saratchka]

Originally Posted by willoLevin

No idea about the "legality" of it, and it certainly doesn't seem very fair, but, in the hospital I used in 2003 at least, the official person who took the birth certificate information talked to me and me alone. I filled out the birth certificate information form. DH wasn't even in the hospital when that conversation took place (he'd gone to work for a few hours.)
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I expect that, when the parents aren't married, the man has even less likelihood of being consulted.

I'm sounding awfully wicked even suggesting this, but it did cross my mind when I read your post!

Perhaps this can be a negotiating chip for getting your exP to commit in writing to a reasonable support settlement right away... (Am I really evil for thinking this way?)

Willo, I thought all the same things. So if you're evil, so am I!

WhiteWax, it's your decision. You'll be the one doing the bulk of the parenting, I think you get dibs on naming. JMO, of course, but that's how I see it.

As to Rowan being feminine, it's always felt fairly feminine to me as well, though in a very different way from Annalise. But I know that it's more often a masculine name, at least in Britain, and I can't help thinking that the only famous Rowan I know of is Rowan Atkinson (of Mr. Bean and Blackadder). When I looked it up in the baby name books/websites it was almost always in the boy section, so I wonder if more people think of it as masculine. Again, not that it really matters, I do love the name!

[OTMomma]

A couple of years ago I liked the name Rowan for a boy (even though I had read the McCaffey book as a teen)- but I'm hearing it more and more for girls- so its out for us.

It looks like this little boy will be named Ian. Middle name is something we are thinking about, and probably won't decide for sure until he arrives- but most likely some sort of family name. If we do he's first name- Richard, his initials will be IRS- is that bad? I like that Ian is a short name, dd is named Mya, and we love the 3 letter thing- I also like that it doesn't sound like a nickname for something else, unlike a lot of short boy names. I had really wanted to have a list and decide after the birth, but dh and I can't agree on any other options, so Ian is the entire list for now. I've gone ahead and told people too, which I said I wouldn't do. Though I mention its not for sure yet.

[sally Z]

DH is impossible, he says No to EVERY single name i suggest but has no ideas of his own. he says we have to wait until the baby is born adn then see, but we did this with dd and 2 weks later she still did not have a name and he had no ideas after the birth either.

I LOVE Noah but dh is very against it.

DD has names the baby Leetcho so i told dh i will name the baby Leetcho if he does not come up with soemthing

WW I totally know how you feel, i keep thinking of the baby as Noah and will be so sad if he can't have the name i am bonding with

[vannienicole]

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[Corri]

What about William, and nicknamed Liam? Maybe he'll go for that?

[vannienicole]

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[WhiteWax]

Originally Posted by OTMomma

If we do he's first name- Richard, his initials will be IRS- is that bad?

maybe he'll be rich!!! I think alot about initials too.

And, I'll admit it ladies... It crossed my mind too about naming her Imogene anyway... infact, as I was packing up my stuff I thought, (spitefully) "well good! Now I can name her Imogene!!!" but I can't really.... Wish I could, but I just can't do that to him or her.

Oddley enough I had him fill out the paper work for DD and we had given her two middle names...Ellya Diana Louise, and he Hyphanated them!!! I didn't notice till we got the birth certificate and I was ticked! not sure why... it just bothered me for some reason! who has a hyphanated MIDDLE name???

Yeah, alot of people have mentioned to just use Imogene as a middle name but some how it's just not the same you know? If you're not calling her by her middle name... I dunno... some times in "Stern talks" to my DD I use ONE of her middle names and one of her middle name initials! lol I say ELLYA D. LOUISE!!!

Oh... and I know it's not the best association, but first "charcter" that comes to mind when I think of Rowan is the little girl in "The Wicker man" I also *love* the name... it is on the list... it's just below imogene

ALSO... obviously it's not working for me but some times if you say a certain name often enough your DH will change his feelings on it... but you have to say it with a catchy nickname or with your last name to get him to like it! lol... it worked twice for me! (on boy names, go figure) and thats why I thought it would work with Imogene! lol

[wombatclay]

We had planned on calling DD2 Sophia and were trying and trying to figure out a middle name. Then one evening I just sort of said "what about calling her Rowan instead?" and DH stopped cooking and said "That's it! That's her name. Sophia for the middle, but Rowan it is." It was pretty funny since we'd never thought about Rowan, it wasn't on any of our lists, and it just sort of "popped" into being.

And it really fits our family...a little unusual but not too far out there, short/simple to say and spell, associated with nature and trees, and with a "dusting" of pagan symbolism. And a Rowan tree in bloom is really lovely.

With dd1 the name took longer...I'd always wanted a daughter named Linnea and DH was okay but not in love with the name. So we started looking at other "L" names and came up with Lyra and Laia as finalists. And Laia is the one that stuck. It's a bit uncommon (people think it's Leia like the Star Wars character, or Leila, or Layla...so we often have to correct people, and that always makes me uncomfortable). And in certain circles naming your child Laia is sort of like naming your kid Frodo...Laia was the name of the main character in the first significant alternate reality game (associated with the movie AI) and I'm a designer in that media field, so when I go to conferences or conventions and people find out my dd's name is Laia...well, they don't believe me when I say my DH is the one who picked it off the list!

Names are so much fun though...I think it's one of the best parts of pregnancy actually.

[WhiteWax]

is LYRA

Lee-ra
Lie-ra
or
lear-ah

[wombatclay]

lear-ah

It's Welsh. Apparently DH has a great aunt in Ireland named Lyra, but I found it as a character name (the RiddleMaster of Hed books, read them as a kid so I don't know if they're still in print). Yes, I am a book junkie!

I still love the name but it's too close to Laia to use.

[WhiteWax]

I think it's very very pretty! I will suggest it to DexP if you dont mind!

[wombatclay]

It's all yours!

[puffingirl]

We're leaning towards Claire or Clare. I prefer the French spelling, and DH prefers the English. We'll be hyphenating the last name and have also been debating the order of the names (we each want our own last name to be first). My most recent proposal is whoever doesn't get the preferred last name order gets to pick which spelling of the first name to use. You'd think that negotiations would be easier than this, but it's been a challenge.

[wombatclay]

Last names are tricky! When Dh and I married we discussed name order and after literally months of discussion we picked an order (his name-my name). Then when we got the paperwork from the state we discovered there had been a "clerical error" and the official paperwork was all my name-his name! Since it would have been a royal hassle to change it we let it be...both of us come from families where surnames were changed by immigration officials, so we joke that this isn't the first time the state has "picked" our names.

[chinaKat]

I haven't really focused on it yet. Last time DH and I each made our lists and then went over them together... every week we eliminated a few names until we had our final contenders.

DH seems to like names from Lord of the Rings (!!) and I do not. That's as far as we've gotten this time.

[todavia]

Originally Posted by wombatclay

in certain circles naming your child Laia is sort of like naming your kid Frodo..

Originally Posted by chinaKat

DH seems to like names from Lord of the Rings (!!) and I do not. That's as far as we've gotten this time.

this cracks me up! i am a big lord of the rings fan although most of the names are not my style i think some of them are great. my very good friend and her husband are having their 3rd and it's a boy and i suggested the name Theo which they both loved but then she wanted the full name to be Theoden and her dh said 'no way'. she's stilll holding out hope though.

[WhiteWax]

aww I love Theo!! lol

And Claire is also on my list but DexP was not budging on that one either and I didn't feel the need to push it as much as Imogene... lol