Uncirc 2 year old

[tenecwalker]

I just had my son's 2 year old well baby check yesterday. At it the dr said that I should check my son's penis everyday by moving back the foreskin. I've never done this and didn't know I should be. I thought it was best to leave it alone for quite awhile longer. Should I be doing this?

[apmommy76]

Absolutely not!!!

You shouldn't force back the foreskin. It's probably not retractable yet anyway. Believe me, you'll know when it is because your little boy will let you know about the "cool trick" he can do.

[hunnybumm]

Yet again, another ill informed doctor. It is perfectly normal for a boy to not be retractable until puberty. Leave his foreskin alone and let nature takes it's course. I would also write a letter to your peds office and let them know that he is giving out wrong advise in regards to an intact penis. I wonder how many boys have been injured and "required" later circumicision due to his ignorance.

[Nathan1097]

hi. Just leave it be. My 5-year-old- nearly 5 1/2- is not retractable yet. We don't check either, but I can tell sometimes when he is messing with it. His older brother (9), has been 3/4 retractable since I can remember. We never had him wash under his foreskin. Now that he takes his own showers, I have no idea if he washes under his foreskin or not. I did mention it to him not long ago and he gave me this "awww, Mom..../Beam me up, Scotty" look, so I have no idea. I'm not going to worry about it until puberty starts showing itself. That said, you really just never know, because my sister's identical twin sons have been completely retractable since they were 3 or something. At least four. They turned six about six weeks ago. Their dad is intact and taught them how to wash, apparently. But they are different kids.

[JanB]

Okay, this brings up a question I have been meaning to ask, which is: I assume it is okay if my ds is retracting his OWN foreskin? I have seen the warnings about not letting a ped (or anyone else) do it, but if he's messing around with it himself in the bathtub or whatever, and pulls the foreskin down past the head, that's okay, right? I've been letting him do what he wants, because I assume that if it hurt, he wouldn't do it, but I figured I'd ask here due to the wealth of info on uncirc'ed boys.

[Blue Dragonfly]

I'm starting to get really irked with all the bad advice mamas are given about thier son's penises.

Can you imagine if your dr. told you to handle your daughter's vagina this much:

Okay, this brings up a question I have been meaning to ask, which is: I assume it is okay if my ds is retracting his OWN foreskin? I have seen the warnings about not letting a ped (or anyone else) do it, but if he's messing around with it himself in the bathtub or whatever, and pulls the foreskin down past the head, that's okay, right? I've been letting him do what he wants, because I assume that if it hurt, he wouldn't do it, but I figured I'd ask here due to the wealth of info on uncirc'ed boys.

I read somewhere that is why little boys touch themselves so much - to facilitate what nature intended. He's not going to do something to hurt himself.

[tenecwalker]

Hmm...the doctor did pull it back. It went back easily and Ryan didn't act like he was in pain at all. He just pressed a little on each side of the penis (at the base) and it popped right out. I've never seen Ryan do it himself though. I'm just going to leave it alone for now.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Originally Posted by JanB

Okay, this brings up a question I have been meaning to ask, which is: I assume it is okay if my ds is retracting his OWN foreskin? I have seen the warnings about not letting a ped (or anyone else) do it, but if he's messing around with it himself in the bathtub or whatever, and pulls the foreskin down past the head, that's okay, right? I've been letting him do what he wants, because I assume that if it hurt, he wouldn't do it, but I figured I'd ask here due to the wealth of info on uncirc'ed boys.

Whatever your ds does with it is fine. He will know how much is to much so let him have at it

Originally Posted by tenewalker

Hmm...the doctor did pull it back. It went back easily and Ryan didn't act like he was in pain at all. He just pressed a little on each side of the penis (at the base) and it popped right out. I've never seen Ryan do it himself though. I'm just going to leave it alone for now.

It is wrong for anyone other than your dc to do what the Dr. did. It is the equevilent of doing a vaginal exam on a girl. The sticky's at the top of the CAC page called A Warning To Parents Of Intact Sons and The Definition of Retraction & Why It Is BAD goes into detail about why it is such a bad thing. Please take the time to read a bit on the Warning one and the Definition before you take your son back to the Dr.

The rule is before the diaper even comes off tell the Dr. Do NOT touch his penis. Because if you say do not retract many Dr. think that means full retraction with glans showing.

Even if the child dosnt act like it hurt there can still be damage done in the form of micro tears and the introduction of bacteria.

I know many think well he/she is a Dr. they should know what is OK and what is not. But they are not taught in medical school how to properly care for the intact penis all they learn is how to cut the foreskin off. Maybe as time goes on and more boys are left intact they will learn but it is gonna take time and for now unfortunatly it is up to us to protect our boys from these uneducated healthcare workers.

[tenecwalker]

Thank you. I will check that out

[kxsiven]

The only person that should be retracting your son's penis is your son.

Not doctor, not nurse, not you.

I would make a formal complaint about this doctor. He absolutely had no business touching your son's genitals. How would you feel if the doctor had checked your daughter's hymen...'oh let me just put this vibrator inside your daughter's vagina to check how tight it is down there'

:

Why do we bother to do this? fight against circumcision when whatever we do, the uneducated doctors then do this.

My son is soon 5 years old and never has a doctor touched his penis - why in USA doctors are so eager to fondle children's genitals?

It is sick.

[TigerTail]

Originally Posted by kxsiven

The only person that should be retracting your son's penis is your son.

Not doctor, not nurse, not you.

I would make a formal complaint about this doctor. He absolutely had no business touching your son's genitals. How would you feel if the doctor had checked your daughter's hymen...'oh let me just put this vibrator inside your daughter's vagina to check how tight it is down there'

:

Why do we bother to do this? fight against circumcision when whatever we do, the uneducated doctors then do this.

My son is soon 5 years old and never has a doctor touched his penis - why in USA doctors are so eager to fondle children's genitals?

It is sick.

Yeah to all the above. I don't get it- the looks of horror and disapproval we are gearing up to throw at parents- we need to toss some at penis-fondling doctors, too.

If a Dr stuck his finger in a little girl's vagina, would you stand there & say, "Well, he's the Dr, he knows best- I don't want to offend or second-guess his judgement."

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Sorry put the links in the wrong thread

[babygrant]

Originally Posted by apmommy76

Believe me, you'll know when it is because your little boy will let you know about the "cool trick" he can do.

Hahahahah. I can't stop laughing. That is SOOO true. When my son was 2 1/2 he came to me with his foreskin pulled back a bit and he says "Look mom, a turtle!!!!"

[JanB]

Originally Posted by babygrant

Hahahahah. I can't stop laughing. That is SOOO true. When my son was 2 1/2 he came to me with his foreskin pulled back a bit and he says "Look mom, a turtle!!!!"

[Quindin]

Originally Posted by babygrant

Hahahahah. I can't stop laughing. That is SOOO true. When my son was 2 1/2 he came to me with his foreskin pulled back a bit and he says "Look mom, a turtle!!!!"

Too cute!!

I have 3 boys, and the 2 oldest did come and show me their "new trick" The youngest has not figure it out yet, but considering how much he has been playing with it lately, it won't be long...