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post #41 of 66
Thread Starter 
awwwww thanks. for the positive vibes!!

yes yes, thinking positive, always good.

maybe a compromise is just being a wedding GUEST...and then not deciding if i will go 'til the last minute. then i can see how this whole "being a mom thing" is working out for me

deb
post #42 of 66
I have flown with an unvaccinated 3 week old, 2 month old, 3 month old, etc and will again. DS was 3 weeks old for our first trip and has flown every month since his birth. DD will be two months old next week and we are taking our first trip with her too. Just be diligent about washing your own hands and all should be well - it's not like 2 month olds are touching a lot of germy things.

If you're really worried, have her wear a mask. We did that a couple of times and altho we got some strange looks, the health of our child was more important than what other people thought.

Good luck and happy travelling.
post #43 of 66
Personally, now that you've pretty much said you're OK with the flying--now you're worried about caring for the baby in the wedding? This is what I would do, in your position. I'd ask my friend what she thought about the baby being in a sling during the ceremony (if, of course, it was a nice sling that matched your outfit). If she consented, I'd agree to be a bridesmaid. If she did not think that was OK, I'd still go to be there for my friend's wedding, and for fun, and just not take part in the ceremony because it would be too much work. A baby that young, as long as it's not totally anti-sling, could just be held through the whole thing, I would bet. Think of what a great advertisement you would be for AP, acting in a wedding ceremony wearing your baby.
post #44 of 66
I vote go. I took unvaxed dd at two months. Just kept her in a sling and nursed
post #45 of 66
: To that one and the one above!
post #46 of 66
I think you've gotten the travel part figure out.... Now you just have to figure out if you want to go.

At 2 months many women spend a few hours apart from their child from time to time (many women are back to work, full time). If you go with your baby, you have the best of both worlds... with dh to watch when you need him to, and you can nurse baby when s/he or you (because your breasts will get full at this time) need too!

At this age I took a short course and stressed over how it was going to work, but in the end, my ds slept when he was with dad and barely needed all that I had thought I would need to pump for him. I however, would have been an emotional wreck if I had been parted from him overnight.

I can't see leaving baby behind.

I probably would go, especially if it was a nearest and dearest friend.... and all my friends like that would be super accomodating of the baby and me being so 'new'.

Now for the wedding day, that's a little issue because although the ceremony is short, the day and its activities are long. You will want to be sure that everyone (the bride might be okay, but sometimes other people have expectations) is okay with you being in and out as you need to be with baby.

The thing I'd worry about most is getting a dress that I could easily nurse in. I'm not one to be worried about discreetness, but at a wedding situation, I also would not be comfortable having to take of a whole dress or the top and being left practically naked nursing (lol). I mean most bridesmaid dresses are form fitting and would not be easy to nurse in.

A two piece dress would work best. Think... a looser top that you can pull up to your breast to nurse, or a stretchy or wrapped top that you can pull down from the top or from the center to let babe get to your breast.

And you will want to have nursing pads because you might leak a little milk here and there and if you hear a peep of your babies cry it may set off your breasts to let down milk (don't worry, this only happens for a short time, I think around 3 months many moms can stop with the pads).

The only time you really need to worry about breastfeeding would be the ceremony and if your husband is with your baby s/he may not really want anything if s/he has just been fed a little bit before (but there are things you could do like pump 1 bottle of 'backup' milk to keep on hand and cup feed, if you don't want to introduce a bottle (think medicine cup and babe just gets tiny bits of milk by tilting it very gently up to the mouth... can be messy and time consuming to feed a whole bottle, but for just the ceremony it might work..... or have dh practice and see if babe will take milk on a finger after he dips it in (s/he will probably be comforted by sucking anyways).

There are so many creative and simple solutions to the breastfeeding for a formal event question that you can get on the b-f'ing boards.

You may want to think about your friend and make sure she will be laid back about the fact that you might need to be a little less involved than other bridesmaids and that things will need to be a little improvised at times

Many brides will be fine with this, but some (especially if they are not familiar with breastfeeding) may not understand the effort you are making to be there and have high expectations for your involvement (late nights, early morning, all day, etc. etc.).

Hope that helps! I've flown (alone) and been to weddings with my ds several times while he was an infant and beyond. It is easier when they are younger and easily 'slung'.

Plus a wedding is a nice excuse to get your self a beautiful extra special baby carrier!!

Good luck!

Jessica
post #47 of 66
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by amyleigh33 View Post
Personally, now that you've pretty much said you're OK with the flying--now you're worried about caring for the baby in the wedding? )

: i know, i sound like such a spazz, don't i???: i am not really comfortable with flying but i am trying to come up w/a compromise, i guess.

i promise i am not normally so scatter-brained and nervous, oh wait -- i have a good excuse

i LOVE all of these suggestions, so cool. thanks thanks thanks again. but really, i don't mind using a baby as an excuse NOT to be a bridesmaid, is that evil?

deb
post #48 of 66
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Originally Posted by artgoddess View Post
I don't think this is very good advice. I doubt that "at worst" her supply would dip. That seems more like a best case. Reality is, a babe who bottle feeds for two days away from it's mama when it's that young is in real danger of damaging the nursing relationship permanently. Mom could come home and not be able to get her nursling to latch.

really? hmm... hasn't been my experience. it's hard for me to believe that a baby who has been breastfed for 2 months would forget how after 2 days.
post #49 of 66
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Originally Posted by jandj+1 View Post
I think that's an ideal time to travel with a baby :
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We flew with our little guy when he was 7 weeks old, and he slept the entire time. He was not vaxed at the time, but his vax status made no difference to me in our travel plans. Have fun at the wedding!
post #50 of 66
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Originally Posted by alegna View Post
1. Germs. Do you usually get sick when you fly? I don't. I don't worry about it.
Really? We do. Not like every time or anything, but often enough. I assume it's just being exposed to all of the new germs in a new location that we don't have immunity to.

(Cue someone who will now tell me it is all because I am eating an improper diet.)
post #51 of 66
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Originally Posted by JanB View Post
Really? We do. Not like every time or anything, but often enough. I assume it's just being exposed to all of the new germs in a new location that we don't have immunity to.

(Cue someone who will now tell me it is all because I am eating an improper diet.)
don't know why we don't... I'm not anyone to lecture someone about diet

-Angela
post #52 of 66
I vote for go!!

We went on a much needed "vacation" when DS was 3 months, unvaxed, to an island, we were stuck in a tropical depression and it poured the entire week - so, we were wet, powerless - had no running water nor a stove/fridge.

It was the best trip we ever took, !!!

DS was fine on the plane, nursed the entire time, and he waited patiently at all airports in a sling, far away from "germies". I wouldnt worry about babe getting sick IF you are bfing...ff is dangerous anyways without traveling.

Have a great time (just get a two piece for the wedding)!
post #53 of 66
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Originally Posted by alegna View Post
don't know why we don't... I'm not anyone to lecture someone about diet

-Angela


Sorry -- I just have an unpleasant memory of being told on a message board (not this one!) back when my exclusively breastfed son was hospitalized with RSV and MRSA pneumonia that perhaps my breastmilk was insufficient to protect him because I was eating a poor diet. (Which I wasn't! Not that this person had any idea of what my diet was like anyway.) I guess I'm still a little gun-shy.

post #54 of 66
Ah, OK I was under the impression you wanted to be in the wedding!!! ...Maybe we should be talking about how to use the baby as an excuse, without making it look like AP/bfing is a "pain in the butt"

(I totally don't blame you for not being super excited, no matter how close the friend is, it's hard enough to be as thrilled about their wedding as they want you to be--and I can only imagine that would be even harder when you've got a brand new baby to be excited about! And the dress and makeup..ugh...)
post #55 of 66
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Originally Posted by JanB View Post


Sorry -- I just have an unpleasant memory of being told on a message board (not this one!) back when my exclusively breastfed son was hospitalized with RSV and MRSA pneumonia that perhaps my breastmilk was insufficient to protect him because I was eating a poor diet. (Which I wasn't! Not that this person had any idea of what my diet was like anyway.) I guess I'm still a little gun-shy.


Off to go find an unhealthy snack.... the ice cream is really calling me.... (and no, it's not organic or homemade from raw milk....)

-Angela
post #56 of 66
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Originally Posted by jeannie81 View Post
really? hmm... hasn't been my experience. it's hard for me to believe that a baby who has been breastfed for 2 months would forget how after 2 days.
Jeannie,
Breastfeeding is VERY individual. I think that's why the previous poster pointed this out... it could be very misleading info to give out-- and some women experience a drop (or loss) of supply with any schedule change and even nipple confusion, even at an early age. I can attest to both.

You may very well be right that most babies would be fine, but it is also true that some mothers could come back to a baby that refuses to nurse or a diminished supply and have many weeks or months of work to do to reestablish nursing.

At 2 months of age, my ds and I had not mastered latching and nursing. I had given him a pacifier to soothe him when he needed to suck but did NOT want breastmilk (something I wouldn't recommend, but it was a last resort thing and did help me continue to breastfeed and my lc said that it probably wouldn't hurt anything at this point in the game). It ended up helping my breast heal and things started to get better. BUT at one point I switched brands of pacifier and after a few days realized that his latch had deteriorated and the pain was back and worse. I luckily realized that the new pacifier was so much narrower than the old ones and THIS was the problem. I was able to switch back and this helped him keep his mouth open wide. (BTW, I used Avent and had switched to Nuk, Nuk is almost circular, while Avent is a very wide oval that is just as thick but much longer). The pacifier and bottle nipples are pretty much identical so I don't see why this wouldn't apply to bottle feeding.

Also, I have been very fortunate to have adequate supply with my work situation... I worked 2 days after ds was 2. I didn't even have to pump. But I have a friend of mine who had to pump (at work AND an extra time at home) even though she only worked a half a day 2 or 3 times a week. She also did many things to increase her supply (oatmeal, teas, fenugreek, etc.)

I've been very lucky with my supply but recently got hit with virus/sinuses/cold and resorted to taking some benadryl... I was so heartbroken when my son came down with something a week later and my supply had dropped to virtually nothing.... the benadryl had dried me up a bit- I've been nursing for so long, I totally forgot that this could happen.

I've been blessed to support my son with breastmilk and nursing through every sickness and I missed the reassurance when my body was only able to comfort him, but not provide nutritionally )-:

In MOST cases pumping and being gone for 2 days is likely to be completly fine, but any mother considering this should understand that it could turn out otherwise and be prepared to minimize the impact.

Jessica
post #57 of 66
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Originally Posted by JanB View Post
Really? We do. Not like every time or anything, but often enough. I assume it's just being exposed to all of the new germs in a new location that we don't have immunity to.

(Cue someone who will now tell me it is all because I am eating an improper diet.)
Well, I never get sick when I fly and the conclusion you'd draw from my diet is that you need more starches, fats, and chocolate. :
post #58 of 66
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
Well, I never get sick when I fly and the conclusion you'd draw from my diet is that you need more starches, fats, and chocolate. :
Ah HA! See, I knew chocolate was magical.

That must be it.

-Angela
post #59 of 66
I was just looking at these slings last night and thinking I wish I had a special place to wear something like this!

I don't know what your colors are, but they are so pretty!
http://peppermint.com/zolo-silk.html
http://peppermint.com/taylormade-silk-sling.html
post #60 of 66
Mama you NEED a sling.....bad!

Get a really simple pouch style sling. It doesn't have all those buckles, or rings or things to get in the way. Those are meant to help adjust to the right size, but they take so long to learn, it's not worth it sometimes.

Watch as many vids online as you can of mamas putting a baby into a sling before you get yours. Practice with a doll or sack of flour if you have to.

Get a professional to help if you need to.

The ONLY thing that will help you do this daunting trip is a sling. You can keep baby in it for the whole trip, you can nurse baby in it without any trouble at all(keep a prefold handy for messy squirting booby, hehe)even during the wedding, baby can be happily nursing/sleeping and no one will be the wiser if you have a smart looking easy to use nursing dress on(www.motherwear.com)

Personally I would be trepidatious about going on a trip with a 2 mo old, let alone being in a wedding!!! lol :

But it could really be fun. Especially if you sleep a lot the first 6 wks after the birth so your energy level is up. 2 mo old babies sleep a lot and eat a lot, and poop a lot. They take a ton of work, but are soooooo cute and portable.
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