Originally Posted by quarteralien
I'm making baby steps with my DH too. No circ was his idea, so I didn't have to push for that one!
But he is also researching vaxes and like yours already agrees cp, flu and hpv are bad ideas. We'll see about the rest. And he's researching home birth.
Isn't it funny? When I think about all the changes in thought and philosophy that my dh and I have gone through in the seven years we've been married, I have to laugh. I had a friend who had a homebirth 5 or so year ago, and I thought she was incredibly crazy! And look at me now!
My dh has been adamantly opposed to homebirth, and irate when the topic of not circ'ing came up. It really is a good thing we have two girls, because I don't think I would have been able to do anything about it up till now. But the rule we made is that neither of us is allowed to unilaterally make a decision that affects both of us, and we either both need to research and come to a conclusion together, or the one who has done the most study gets to make the decision. For example, he was furious when I even mentioned not circ'ing, but refused to read about it, study it, or even talk about it. Its taken me four years, and my dh;s best friend being intact before not circ'ing any boys became a reality.
As far as hb, I've been working that angle for a long time too. DH didn't even want to talk about it when I first found out I was pregnant with this baby. I made a phone call to a mdwife anyway. It took some gentle manipulation, but I told dh that he had a duty to me to at least meet with a midwife. I told him that after peppering her with all the questions he could think of, if he still didn't feel comfortable with the decsion, then we could reevaluate. Luckily, the meeting went well, and I think dh started to see that it really did mean a lot to me and consented. In the past few weeks, I think he's really started to see the advantages of it.
On a totally separate topic, anyonein need of a slightly used 5 1/2 yr old girl who, although very bright, apparantly has no ablilty to follow simple household rules or be obedient?