We finally decided on our homebirth midwife YAY!

[mamamoogs]

But I just wanted to get a little input from you all. I really like our new midwife but i am getting a weird vibe from her. We met with her last week and felt like she was really sweet but she is a little younger then me and doesnt have any children not that that should matter but i was a little hesitant because of that so was Dh but i got past that
it shouldnt matter and also she was new to the area so not many people were familiar with her, so i wanted to find atleast one person that could reccommend her and yes I did I was told she was very competent and a great person so that sealed the deal for me.

So now my next question

when i called her and told her we wanted to go with her she didnt seem to excited so i asked her how she felt about us and if she thought we could work good together and she said yes definalty , so then i thought it must just be me ,
so i asked her if we could get started and she said she would call me when she got home well that was monday so i called her today to see what happened and when she answered i said hello i wanted to get back toyou and she said she was very busy and didnt seem interested in talking to me so I just thought I would quickly ask if she wanted to set something up or would she rather call me back at a better time (she seemed pretty hesitant) and then said how about this week i will call you later with the details.

So what do you think does she sound like she wants to blow us off or maybe she is just to busy to talk this week, Am I being overly sensative? I dont know what to think what is your opinion?

[Ninakitty]

I'm not sure. I know I can be rather fanatical about getting back to people and expect the same in return. But it does seem that even if she's busy, she should be working with/for you and at least call you and tell you that she's been really busy. Does she have email? would that be a better way to communicate with her? Are there any other mw's around that you interviewed or could interview? Maybe once getting a vibe from another one, you'd be able to tell if you felt much more positive about another one....I wish you the best of luck. But I would definitely explore your feelings and her response to you NOW rather than when you really need/want her help further on in your pregnancy or your birth.

good luck!
simone

[pigpokey]

This is unprofessional behavior. This doesn't mean she will or will not be a good midwife to you on the whole, or is not a good person, or is not wise, but is often the result of personal problems (which could be anything from normal family & dating stuff that may pass, or a sinus infetion, to alcoholism to physical illness to mental illness).

[Shelsi]

Have you interviewed other midwives as well? Not interviewing enough was my biggest mistake and I ended up having to let go the mw I was with at 18 weeks and start the search all over again. And it was a personality thing for the most part that we had to part ways (there were some other things I won't go into but medically she was competent). Not only that but I'm also out the non-refundable $600 we had given her....we only had 4 prenatals though so I shouldn't have lost that much money you know?

I would say she's being unprofessional. If she is trying to blow you off she needs to learn to be up front with people and be mature about it. Now if she had told you she was at a birth or something I would be much more likely to not make a judgement so fast.

The thing is: if it's this hard to get a hold of her for your first prenatal how hard is it going to be to get a hold of her when you really need her and need advice?

[mamamoogs]

She was the last one we interviewed and all the others were so business like and more concerned with their payment, that we kinda shyed away from them , and this last one is our last option, she is the only one left even remotly near us that do homebirths, and we really liked her too, and believe me we searched high and low to find the few that we found, so now i dont know what to do, maybe when she comes out for my appt i can ask her if she feels we are a proper match and hopefully she'll let me know.