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ok, I get the bad mom award for the day. Last night, I was sitting up at the edge of the bed nursing DS around 2 a.m., and next thing I know he's on his stomach on the tile floor screaming. At the time I knew how it happened, but don't remember now (I do know I didn't doze off, but can't figure out if he stretched or slipped or what). He calmed down pretty quickly, but had a fat lip and a blood blister this morning to show for it. Luckily he didn't act any differently today than any other, but oh the guilt.

in other news, I'm in a tank top and shorts today and about to go play with ds in the grass Gotta love sicily in March.
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ok, I get the bad mom award for the day. Last night, I was sitting up at the edge of the bed nursing DS around 2 a.m., and next thing I know he's on his stomach on the tile floor screaming. At the time I knew how it happened, but don't remember now (I do know I didn't doze off, but can't figure out if he stretched or slipped or what). He calmed down pretty quickly, but had a fat lip and a blood blister this morning to show for it. Luckily he didn't act any differently today than any other, but oh the guilt.

in other news, I'm in a tank top and shorts today and about to go play with ds in the grass Gotta love sicily in March.


What doesn't kill them, makes them stronger, eh?
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aydensmom-- i have been pondering the very same question, friendship with people who parent their children very differently. While my goal has been acceptence of different modalities, I find that in practice it is very hard.

When parents start talking about methods that involve emotional cruelty ... I just become incredibly sad. This gets in the way of a friendship. For me, CIO definately falls under this heading. Now, letting kids cry for brief times while you regroup and gather your sanity, or perhaps they resettle, is one thing. But as a systematic response to a child in need, cio, I think, is incredibly cruel.

I would also say that *excessive* use of babysitters etc solely so that one has more time away from baby also falls in this category. And I don't mean moms who work. I have several good friends that work long hours and use daycare. They are taking care of their family and being as loving as a SAHM, imho. I use babysitters as time to be away and recharge. But when hired help becomes a way to avoid your kids.... this is cruel. i can't really be close to someone like this. the problem is, this is a common parenting modality within my family.

I have found that people who treat their children as inconveniences tend to treat other people in their lives poorly as well. They tend not to be great friends anyway, so ultimately, a distance forms.

In addition, i have found that i, even when keeping my mouth shut, become a threat. Somehow people like this tend to view my natural parenting style as an indictment of theirs. This also naturally creates a distance.

i work very hard at being nonjudgemental. it is one of my personal goals. But when i feel that emotional neglect of a child is involved, it becomes nearly impossible, even if I never actually say anything outloud.

Liz
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wow u ladies r busy hehehehhe but i love it

well a friend of mine came over yesterday suprise visit which i hate them but i just started useing cloth and been doing it for 1 months now and love it well she saw it and goes why would u do that to ur self u r making it way to hard lol yeah i wash diapers once every 3 days that is sooo hard heheheh

but i told her iam potty training at 1 yr old and i need him to know when he is wet soo it makes it easier and than she said that is too early they ahve noo idea when they go which i disagree my friend is potty trianing her new born and man he knows when he needs to pee

but anyways i explained to her about the benfits of cloth and all that and all she did was mock me and than when she was leaving she put moody on the floor and he started to cry and she looks at him and tells him to toughen up and learn to play alone

i pick him up and calm him down and tell her he just woke up and wants to be held and loved on which is fine and she goes well it is ur own fault i told u to teach him to sit on the floor alone to play and to let him cio which i said yeah it is not for me and i dont see the benifit for it

and than she goes i see u r still co sleeping and i said yeah soo and she said that boy is never going to get out of ur bed he will be their until he is 20 and i said well than it is fine hopefully he is not married cause i dont think their is room for his wife lol

well that is my vent is anyone still reading lol i hate it when people dont understand my choice in raiseing my son she even made fun of me for having all wooden toys it is not my fault he reather play with those than the plastic ones my hubby got him

thanks for listening

ayah
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typing one handed due to pumping, b/c of course Mason got what older brother had, but he is VOMITTING.:Puke I have been huge thrown up on twice today. I need a shower. And he has only nursed three times and ate a little pears b4 the vomitting started. This explains the all night long sleep and 2.5 hour nap. I hope this passes with less vengance than Ayden, cause we were close to ER yesterday with him.

Sabbath- I definitely agree when you pointed out the correlation of how moms treat their babies and themsleves/friends. The friend from the purse party doesnt have the best lifestyle/relationship. I do not know her situation from the inside, so I do not want to judge, but it is obvious that she doesn't hold herself and people close to her to very high standards.

newlywaaz- I am glad little one is doing ok. Ds1 fell from bedside two times, but Mason hasn't done it yet (knock on wood).

Thanks mamas for the enlightening conversation about other mamas parenting. Off to shower away the stench of pear and curtled bm before kids wake up.
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hi tricia---who's sick?

WHERE'S PAV????
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Thank you so much for all being so supportive. I have a question: How many of your babies are eating some solids. My baby still gags when I try to put things in his mouth. We have tried self-feeding as well but he doesn't really have any interest. He is 8 months today.
Also...big news yesterday Charlie pulled himself up to standing. He is so happy, mimicing our sounds, understanding the milk sign...and just wonderful.
Isn't motherhood amazing!
Sarah
Support is what we're here for! more s to you. As for solids, DS has either thrown up or gagged on what we give him, so we gave up trying. So much easier to BF than prepare another meal! He liked apples a bit more than the sweet potato and the avacado, but overall, no solids. DS is 8 months old.

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First - aunt flo??? WHO IS THAT?!?! I haven't had a period in 5 years (on March 27). I still can't believe it! I just keep getting knocked up!

Ok...so, dh got a call yesterday from the company in Indiana and assuming he accepts the offer (which he'll be getting numbers on Monday), they want him to start April 2nd. So, this means that I have 3 weeks to MOVE! Oh my gosh. I think we'll just get an apartment for 3 months or so, and look for a house in the mean time. WOW! This is going so FAST!
on the getting knocked up! Yay for job offers! Moving is such a task, esp with kiddos. Good luck!


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Kim, what a bittersweet day for your and your DD. A great milestone to pass, but Thinking of Emma today.
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Hello everyone. I'm new to posting in the July thread. I always mean to, but I procrastinate. I tend to be a thread killer, too, so I'm always reluctant.
As others have said, no chance in killing this thread! Welcome!

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I'm back from Morocco!!
Welcome back! Great to hear the trip went well. Morocco is on my list of places I want to visit.

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I was at a purse party yesterday and a mama, (my friend) was bragging about how her 3 mth old slept 14 hours, because she didnt pick her up when she cried after a month. I do not know why I cannot say anything in situations like this. Do you guys? Also, do you remain friends with very maintstream moms?
So far, my mainstream type friends aren't mamas yet! That's really tough though. The first of my mainstream friends is PG and due in June. It's hard hearing her talk about birth stuff, so I don't know what will happen when the baby is here. It doesn't help that her DH is an MD, so of course, he knows EVERYTHING!

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ok, I get the bad mom award for the day.
I think this happens to everyone at least once!

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WHERE'S PAV????
I've been wondering the same thing.

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typing one handed due to pumping, b/c of course Mason got what older brother had, but he is VOMITTING.:Puke I have been huge thrown up on twice today. I need a shower. And he has only nursed three times and ate a little pears b4 the vomitting started. This explains the all night long sleep and 2.5 hour nap. I hope this passes with less vengance than Ayden, cause we were close to ER yesterday with him.
to you. I hope Mason and Ayden feel better soon.


I need your favorite sling websites. The aforementioned mainstream friend was curious about them and I said I'd track down some for her (maybe there is hope!).
post #108 of 755
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Birth control - am I the only one using condoms?
Nope, we use them. But I am not comfortable with only one method. Condoms have a 1-5% failure rate when used correctly. Arg! I cannot live with those odds, especially when I don't have the reassurance of AF arriving every 27.5 days to the hour.

I have never been good at NFP, so I'm investigating other options. I developed an allergy/sensitivity to mucoid gel during the pg, so it limits what we can do.

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Also, do you remain friends with very maintstream moms?
Yes, I do.

But I think mainstream in my community is pretty AP compared to what I have heard from other people in other areas.

Between the one year mat/pat leave, all the free breastfeeding help, the anti-spanking campaigns, the discharge packs from the hospital with info sheets about co-sleeping, the pro-GD parenting tips at all the local drop-in centres, etc. it's pretty tough to find anyone who doesn't parent somewhere on the same spectrum as I do.

I would have trouble with anyone who abused their children, but abuse is not "mainstream" as far as I'm concerned.

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Hello everyone. I'm new to posting in the July thread. I always mean to, but I procrastinate. I tend to be a thread killer, too, so I'm always reluctant.
Welcome! No chance of killing this thread.

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We need to talk, because I also breed them. Maybe between the two of us we can engineer a sterile breed? :
Hey, no genetic engineering talk here.

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ok, I get the bad mom award for the day.
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Just saying :
Get well soon!

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WHERE'S PAV????
I think she's off having "a real life." IIRC, she mentioned when she moved that she wouldn't be here as much -- she was finding it was interfering with her ability to get out of the house and do other things. I miss her, but as someone who occasionally finds myself a little too tied to my computer, I can totally respect that.
post #110 of 755
Elsanne: I'm still trying to recover from my DS that I have now nicknamed "jaws." My boob or nipple will seriously never be the same. I have been brought to tears twice because of where he bit me and how infected it has gotten. Then....the little turkey bit me again in the same place. Needless to say I am not feeling very good right now. Thanks for asking
post #111 of 755
Tricia. What a mega-bummah! OOUUUUUCH is really all I can say besides a bit of commiseration.
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s tricia!
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oh and sewaneecook (or someone), didn't you ask about sling sites? i'm such a mei tai fan-my fav is kozycarrier.com great for moms new to babywearing, and newborn on up-ds1 is 25 pounds and we are still going strong...
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oh and i have real difficulty w/mainstream friends-i have one in particular-big on the bucket, formula, cio-all very hard to take for me but especially the cio! we not close any longer but i blame it on us moving away...
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