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Tee hee Laura! It's like dressing little dolls to have girls. They, of course, have their own ideas about being dressed.

My almost-3 y.o. LOVES to get dressed up, and calls dresses "ooh-la-las". I think because one time I got dressed up and when I walked into the living room her daddy said that. The way I entice her into getting ready for school is by saying, "What ooh-la-la would you like to wear today, Sol?"
Ooh-la-las... too cute.

My 3YO also has her own fashion sense, and cannot be convinced to wear anything I suggest. *sigh* It's very nice to have a baby again, knowing I have at least another 8-10 months before she starts disagreeing with my clothing choices.
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BIG NEWS ON OUR FRONT: Older ds went peepee in the potty tonight!
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YAY!!! and thanks for the hugs
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One of the things I live by is Don't Take Life Too Seriously. I have been wrong so many friccin' times that when I get my panties seriously in a bunch about something I'm usually a) wrong b) only seeing things one way or c) right, but who cares? What will it matter, and why should I spend one more minute unhappy?
sounds like the attitude I have adopted. certainly makes me happier. and somehow that makes it EASIER to admit i'm wrong. yep i was wrong oh well.
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Yep, that's exactly what it seems like. I go in on Wed to the ped (we also haven't been in a LONG time ... since the 4 mo visit). I'll let you know what she says.
thx my ds's get this too i'm curious...
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DH thinks I'm crazy. I went to a yard sale today of a woman who once owned a used clothing store that she closed, so there were LOTS of clothes for really cheap. I found a couple of things that were very cute for DS, but then I ventured over to the little girl clothes (b/c they are so much cuter than little boy outfits) and I found the cutest smocked dress for $4! Even if we don't have a little girl I could sell it at a consignment sale for at least twice that price! So, I have started my imaginary little girl's wardrobe! :
you are crazy!
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I think because one time I got dressed up and when I walked into the living room her daddy said that. The way I entice her into getting ready for school is by saying, "What ooh-la-la would you like to wear today, Sol?"
that's too freaking funny.
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It's very nice to have a baby again, knowing I have at least another 8-10 months before she starts disagreeing with my clothing choices.
my boys will wear anything and frequently prefer to wear nothing. they won't get particular about clothes I'm guessing until they become interested in girls. long time from now


alright well ds2 has been making poopy noises so I'd better go clean up his latest liquid mess. he eats tons of solids you'd think his poop would be more solid as well!
post #663 of 755
Oh wow.

So, I wasn't a very nice person in high school. And I recently found out that a girl whom I gave a really rough time was recently murdered. She was two and a half months pregnant at the time and left behind a four year old daughter. And I feel truly, truly horrible. There's a longer post about it here: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...82#post7649382

My question that I'm wondering now is this: how do you, or how do you plan to, teach your kids that it isn't okay to push other people down? Even though perhaps in your past you haven't always been kind to people? How do you really instill this in them, knowing that someday they'll be teenagers in high school, and there'll be that one person that rubs them the wrong way, that everyone else makes fun of, that could put you higher in the social pecking order if you just go along with it?
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Anna, that is a really good question. I think the GD forum would have a lot to say about it, my first hunch is by teaching/modelling LOTS of empathy. How so n so feels when x happens. Standing up for what you believe in even if it's not what the crowd says. That is very, very hard as a teen.
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I'm confused...i'm 7dpo after an *accident* (full story on my blog link in my sig) and earlier I had pink spotting...then I went a bit later and it was red and there was more of it...and I just went a second ago and there's barely pink.






what's going on here?!?!?!?!?!
post #666 of 755
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And I am constantly checking for large chunks of wax I can extract. I have a problem.
If you find a support group for this, let me know. :

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So, I have started my imaginary little girl's wardrobe! :


Anna, What a tough situation. I can understand why you would feel guilty, but it isn't your fault. You only have so much influence. It sounds like you weren't a positive force in this woman's life when you were both younger, but that was a long time ago. It also sounds like you have grown a great deal as a person, and if this inspires you to help raise more empathic, thoughtful children, that is a great gift. I'm so sorry for her family's loss.
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Anna. That's hard. Be gentle with yourself - you've come a long way since then. And parenting... parenting is hard. My 5yo is starting to have more complex relationships with school friends, and it's challenging. We talk a lot about how actions and words make people feel. The other day she came home crying "(friend) said my voice is ugly like a boy's". Where do I start with that?? 1. Your voice is lovely. 2. You should tell (friend) that it hurts your feelings when she says that. 3. Boys' voices are not ugly. 4. If your friend says or does things that hurt your feelings, you can play with someone else. And then sock that away to bring up when she says something hurtful to or about someone else... remember how you felt when (friend) said that? Let's not say hurtful things to others. : I say. And this is at 5 years old... I have no idea how the teenage years are going to be.

On a much lighter note, my almost-three year old loves dresses as well. For a while (sadly she's over it) she called them "Ta-Dah"s. She would ask to wear a Ta-Dah, and then put it on, spin around and say, "Ta-Dah!" Too darn cute. Quag, you might be mortified if you saw the outfits I let my kids wear. Allison picks out her own clothes, and unless it literally hurts my eyes I let her wear it. The other day it was a pink shirt, lime green pants and a sleeveless tied-dye dress on top. Kinda wild, but weather-appropriate : I'll try to dig up a picture.
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Ohhhhhhh Joyof Birth.....where are you? Will you come back to us? I want you to see your new DDDDC!

~Tricia
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Quag--I just received the latest issue of the Utne Reader magazine (if you don't know it, I just ADORE it) and it has an article about ear picks that are very popular in the east, just might be your thing.

In this issue there is also a nice big article about natural birth.
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elsanne - that looks like a great magazine!



Hello all, I haven't been around for what seems like ages - recently flattened by the flu...

Anna, that is a tough one...I think everyone else is right - emapthy, empathy, empathy is the only way to go, and while they are still young, because when they are teenagers the people they are guaranteed to have no empathy for are their parents!! At some point you can share your story and how you're feeling now with your kids - and that will be more credible to them than having some squeaky clean perfect mother telling them to 'be nice'.
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Thanks everyone for your thoughts. It seems that bullying and teasing come so naturally to little kids sometimes that it gets discouraging.

Nate has finally taken a more than passing interest in solid foods. He discovered oranges yesterday and fell in love. We are currently packing a lot of citrus in our fridge....it IS okay to give them oranges, right? He just loves 'em....

The pregnancy trundles on...I'm not counting weeks this time. Makes it take too long. My poor nipples are sore within an inch of their lives, but some days, they're better. And we're currently using disposables. : The last time I rinsed out a toddler poop, I threw up all over. Smells are so strong now and I get sick at the drop of a hat. I'm hoping this will clear up in a few weeks and then we can go back to cloth.

Here's a question for you: Do any of your babies have some unique physical characteristics? We noticed a few weeks after he was born that Nate has two webbed toes on either foot. It's not terribly noticable and we should be able to just leave it alone. Our doc said it won't cause any problems walking, that it just makes Nate more uniquely Nate. Anyone else?
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elsanne - that looks like a great magazine!



Hello all, I haven't been around for what seems like ages - recently flattened by the flu...
Glad you're feeling better. We did an unhappy dance with the flu when Aidan had it a few weeks ago. Yucky.
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.it IS okay to give them oranges, right? He just loves 'em....

The pregnancy trundles on...

Here's a question for you: Do any of your babies have some unique physical characteristics? Anyone else?
a) Amara LOVES oranges. I think the general consensus is wait until a year or something but they do not bother her.

b) "trundles"!! love it!!! Hope you feel supernatural very soon.

c) Wow! Web feet-ish! Amara has a strange thing in her yoni (vagina, for those who don't speak Hindu ) where it looks like she has an extra set of inner labia, and who knows what else (a whole uterus?), just underneath her normal ones. Hard to explain, and only noticeable when she's spread-eagled. I have had the sense ever since she was born that maybe her parts are inoperable in the reproductive sense. I am sure she has a normal vagina as well, so sex and peeing should be no issue. My HCPractitioner says that we can get an ultrasound when she's like 10 to see what all's going on.
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I'm confused...i'm 7dpo after an *accident* (full story on my blog link in my sig) and earlier I had pink spotting...then I went a bit later and it was red and there was more of it...and I just went a second ago and there's barely pink.






what's going on here?!?!?!?!?!
I don't think any one could tell you. Just take a pregnancy test in 7 days and try not to agonize too much until then. Our cycles can do some crazy things when stressed!

PS-Sorry I mostly lurk! I just wanted to answer this question. My baby Oliver was the first July DDC baby. He is doing wonderful and is now a huge 14 pounds. I hope you guys don't mind me lurking. I love reading about you all. Jess
post #675 of 755
Jess!! Great to see you again! So nice to hear about Oliver. I'm glad he's doing well.

The recommendation for citrus is to hold off until 1 year due to concerns about allergies. I'm not sure, but I suspect that if the babe tries citrus and doesn't react, then it's fine? Allergies are not terribly well-understood, though. Right now, a lot of research seems to suggest that early exposure may be helpful in avoiding environmental allergies (pets, dust, etc.) but avoidance until a certain level of gut maturity is reached may help to delay/avoid food allergies.
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Re: Oranges...

We do baby-led feeding with our daughter. And she leads into places she's not "supposed" to go. Or she hasn't gotten the "allergenic foods" memo.

She's not yet 9 mos, and she's had oranges and clementines. I heard it was recommended to hold off because the citric acid could upset their tummies? But, seeing that she eats hot peppers (I kid you not...the girl's got a steel stomach), I don't think that bothers her, and we didn't notice any reactions.

She's also had tomatoes, strawberries, tofu, wheat, and peanut butter. *shrug* I think the only "allergy" food she HASN'T had is shellfish. I'm pretty sure my MIL gave her chocolate pudding when I wasn't there. : (I kind of want to hold off on all the sugar crap) I didn't mean to give her peanut butter, but last week she was in the bjorn, I had a sandwich in one hand, and was making another for the little girl I watch, and, Lightning Mouth bit a piece off before I even noticed.

And then she IMMEDIATELY turned bright red, made some grunty-gaspy noises, I began searching frantically for my phone, sure she was going into anaphelactic (sp?) shock, and realized there was a foul odor in the room.

Yeah, she chose that moment to deposit a stinky in the diaper. Nice timing, giving Mama a heart attack.

Her only allergy so far is cinnamon, and that seems to be more of a skin irritation rather than an ingestion allergy (she ate it fine a few times, but then smeared some of the oatmeal all over her face and broke out). So, we don't give her any for now to be safe (I read that many babies grow out of cinnamon reactions by age three)
post #677 of 755
I don't think I'm going to worry too much about the citrus. There's no allergies anywhere to be found in either family. We're doing the baby-+le-d solids and he's pretty darn picky+. +Go9tta9 run as ds1 is- try
ing to help me type. I moved his little hand and I'm pretty certain he just told me to lay off.
post #678 of 755
Hey Penny, good to see you! Glad to hear Oliver is doing well!

Sarenka, glad to hear everyone is feeling a bit better!

Anna, You've already had lots of great advice here but I just wanted to add another voice of support. It's a terrible tragedy but it's not your fault that this woman died. We all do things we regret when we're young... it sounds like you're already working on ensuring that your own children have more awareness of this sort of thing. Would it bring you any peace to make a donation to a charity in her name?

As far as your question, we have run into a few situations already. When friends are hurt, either by something she has done or something else that happened, we always ask the friend if they are ok, do they need ice or a hug, etc. When we've been out and about DD (3) has loudly commented on the way someone looks or what they are doing. We discussed how talking about people within earshot can make them feel bad, or feel self-conscious.

Honestly, it's tough. We were at a birthday party recently and DD and her little friend were in a puppet show booth playing. Another little girl came and DD and her friend started yelling "you can't come in!" to this little girl. I went over and talked to DD about including others, there was enough room in the booth for 3 little girls, etc. but the little girl's mother had already taken her to do something else. This little girl was definitely special needs and my heart just broke for her - I don't know that DD and her friend noticed the SN but it made me feel awful ... her mother looked sort of resigned as she led her away. It made me very aware all of a sudden that DD has been starting over the past few months to be exclusionary in her play, exhibiting preferences for certain friends and strong dislikes for others. We will definitely need to talk more about this soon.

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Here's a question for you: Do any of your babies have some unique physical characteristics? We noticed a few weeks after he was born that Nate has two webbed toes on either foot. It's not terribly noticable and we should be able to just leave it alone. Our doc said it won't cause any problems walking, that it just makes Nate more uniquely Nate. Anyone else?
Rachel has a splotchy birthmark on her forehead and a little redness in that little dip between her nose and mouth. One time a cashier in a store asked me about it. She said she has one too, and it has faded with time, but it still comes out when she's mad or crying.

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Quag--I just received the latest issue of the Utne Reader magazine (if you don't know it, I just ADORE it) and it has an article about ear picks that are very popular in the east, just might be your thing.
Ear picks! You mean there is a specialized instrument for this activity?
post #679 of 755
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Ear picks! You mean there is a specialized instrument for this activity?
Yes--you are not alone!!!
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My question that I'm wondering now is this: how do you, or how do you plan to, teach your kids that it isn't okay to push other people down? Even though perhaps in your past you haven't always been kind to people? How do you really instill this in them, knowing that someday they'll be teenagers in high school, and there'll be that one person that rubs them the wrong way, that everyone else makes fun of, that could put you higher in the social pecking order if you just go along with it?
I hope to enstill empathy in my kids! All the children hurting other children becuase of the estreme bullies has me scared. I hope that my kids also are confident enough to stick up for others if they feel they are treated wrong. My two year old does seem like the bullying type, and right now we do a lot of talking and how things make you feel....

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I'm confused...i'm 7dpo after an *accident* (full story on my blog link in my sig) and earlier I had pink spotting...then I went a bit later and it was red and there was more of it...and I just went a second ago and there's barely pink.
No the answer you want I am sure, but wait it out and take a test

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Originally Posted by AidansMommy1012 View Post
The pregnancy trundles on...I'm not counting weeks this time. Makes it take too long. My poor nipples are sore within an inch of their lives, but some days, they're better. And we're currently using disposables. : The last time I rinsed out a toddler poop, I threw up all over. Smells are so strong now and I get sick at the drop of a hat. I'm hoping this will clear up in a few weeks and then we can go back to cloth.

Here's a question for you: Do any of your babies have some unique physical characteristics? We noticed a few weeks after he was born that Nate has two webbed toes on either foot. It's not terribly noticable and we should be able to just leave it alone. Our doc said it won't cause any problems walking, that it just makes Nate more uniquely Nate. Anyone else?
Still can't believe that you are pregnant, you are my hero

No physical characteristics here except the one inside his brain, where he is missing a large part, and functioning beyond normal, excpetional really in my eyes! :

Ayden (my older) peed all day in toilets at stores and rest. and pooped tonight! YEAH YEAH YEAH! Ok that is enough of my toddlers potty experiences, I know this is a baby thread...:

I started to get a heavy chest today with congestion, and was really bummed, we have all been healthy for like two weeks finally. I doesed up on some homeopaths, and vit, but no SA for me, cause ds won't nurse from me if I take enough to matter :
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