Originally Posted by aydensmama
I was at a purse party yesterday and a mama, (my friend) was bragging about how her 3 mth old slept 14 hours, because she didnt pick her up when she cried after a month. I do not know why I cannot say anything in situations like this. Do you guys? Also, do you remain friends with very maintstream moms?
Oh, hold on to your drawers, this is gonna be to the point people.
I sorta have a SLIGHTLY different spin on this. Short of THIS situation CIO, I have a really hard time discounting someone for seemingly different parenting choices, unless it's one of my major values. I could care less (other than I think they are missing out, and so is there baby) if someone doesn't cloth diaper, breastfeed (VERY ON THE FENCE WITH THIS ONE, has to be a good reason as far as I am concerned), vaccinate, GD (as long as it's not the other extreme), ect. I don't think that people should be judged for their parenting style if the baby sleeps in the crib from day one, as long as they are RESPONDING to the their child. Of course if I had my personal way, every child would be raised as mine is. But I just can't discount people that might be awesome people and have reasons to make alternative decisions to my own.
But, the exceptions to me, are pretty black and white. Can't be a friend with someone who physically abuses their child. And, as far as I am concerned (please don't flame me) CIO is a form of emotional abuse, so I can't hang with that either. I have no issue with trying to educate, but in a lot of cases, people are either one of two things 1)uneducated, and willing to learn more about childrearing to better themselves and their child but often times will be resistant to learning and trying a newer, better way of things or 2)...of a different breed than me. While I wish that there was a one way manual on raising kids, there just isnt' one. And I have no issues with people making choices about things that will best for them and their family. I think it's sad that my friend loves the bucket seat the way she does. But, she breastfeeds, is willing to let me show her how to sling her baby, and that baby is sleeping in her bed, even though she didn't think she would. But there are a few things I cannot abide by. And CIO is one.
I will gladly choose not to be friends with someone if our basic parenting styles just DO NOT align. To me, often times, how they treat their children has been an accurate portrayal of how they treat themselves and others in their lives.