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post #1 of 37
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A woman, somewhere in internet-land just confessed that she circumcised her son because the very site of an intact penis makes her :Puke . (Yes, she used a puke smiley.)

She said she doesn't think she could ever marry an intact man, and that she's thankful her husband is circumcised.

For whatever reason, she waited 6 months to circumcise her son, could not only not stand looking at his penis when she changed his diapers but described herself as "stressed and depressed". She couldn't wait for the day of his surgery so he could get it done.

My thoughts:

The power of cultural conditioning never fails to amaze me.

How is it that someone could really, truly be so disgusted by the genitals of an entire gender, simply because they weren't surgically modified?

Everyone's entitled to their fetishes I suppose; some guys are only turned on by women with breast implants, for instance. It does disturb me though that a parent might actually be brought to vomiting simply at the sight of their own child's healthy, whole penis.

I can't imagine not accepting and loving every part of my son just way he came. It's hard for me to fathom personal sexual preferrences compelling parents to demand clamps and scapels be applied to their children's genitals and healthy, standard, functional bits removed.

Her description of stress and depression at the sight of herr son's intact penis during the few short months she had to wait on his surgery goes to show just how deeply rooted such a culturally-conditioned aversion can be; posts like her's make my heart hurt.


/vent

Jen
post #2 of 37
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post #3 of 37
: so what if she didn't like the look of her sons penis, its not hers to like or not like :
poor baby
post #4 of 37
I believe that goes beyond what is socially acceptable...I think that lady has very low self esteem and projected her self-hatered toward her son.

In other words she is a mental case.
post #5 of 37
My thoughts are that she needs to either

a) to grow the f*ck up

or

b)get some counseling because she's obviously suffered some sexual abuse, which would account to her severe reaction/feelings about intact penises.
post #6 of 37
SHE needs to work through HER feelings and not be imposing HER sexual fetishes/preferences on someone who very possibly will not share them when he grows up... and cannot even speak for himself

love and peace.
post #7 of 37
I'm not sure that child is safe with that woman. What else is she going to do to him to cater for her own, selfish, sexual preferences?

What if she decides she REALLY like tattoos and piercings?

Is he going to end up with a Prince Albert before he goes to school?

Poor kid, she sounds like a lousy mother. I don't think that sounds like cultural conditioning, I think that woman is ill and needs treatment.
post #8 of 37
Thread Starter 
Well, now she's backpeddling saying that she thinks all penises are ugly/gross, and trying to get sympathy for having admitted going through "depression"---even though she said it was because of her son's circumcision being delayed. Ug.

Jen
post #9 of 37
My DH doesn't like big butts does that mean I should cut my DD's butt off? Seriously people need to listen to themselves.
post #10 of 37
Sheesh , why does anyone 'need to like their son's penis' especially a mom - to me my son penis is just a part of his male body as in he has a penis that wasn't traumatized!
post #11 of 37
insert extremely offensive UA violation response to her
post #12 of 37
Whatever her mental state or fitness, it does illustrate one aspect of why this subject is so devisive. Thank you Jen for bringing it to our attention.

Regards,
post #13 of 37
No flames please. I think that is the WORST reason...I don't think there is anything attractive about a penis whether it be intact or not, nor do I think there is anything attractive about a vagina, I maybe even think it is less attractive than a penis. That's just my opinion, so this reasoning to me is crazy...:
post #14 of 37
I don't think penises are particularly pretty either, but I don't find the appearance of an intact baby penis any more/less attractive than the appearance of a circ'ed baby penis. When I changed DS' diaper I was worried about cleaning the poop off of everything, not thinking about the shape of his penis!
post #15 of 37
Wow, she needs some help! I hope someday her ds asks her "why" and I hope he scoffs at her answer and tells her that was a stupid reason!
post #16 of 37
My MIL admitted to me that she feels the same way, after ds was born. We left him intact, and by the time we got him home he was 3 weeks old. We discussed the reasons why we left him intact and for months, it seems, my MIL and mom talked about it often - and how they were pro-circ. Now that he's 2, no one mentions it anymore!
post #17 of 37
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Well, now she's backpeddling saying that she thinks all penises are ugly/gross, and trying to get sympathy for having admitted going through "depression"---even though she said it was because of her son's circumcision being delayed. Ug.

Jen
Ha! As soon as I read your OP, I thought to myself, "BS, she hates ALL penises, & just wants them tortured."

I really don't care if she was raped daily from the time she was 3 years old, she still doesn't get to cut a child's genitals to make herself feel better in some abhorrent psychosexual way. If you're burned by cigarettes as a kid, can you light your kid on fire & get sympathetic pats on the head & 'there, there."?
post #18 of 37
I think her reasons are horrible. Let me add this tidbit though - it is entirely possible (with her intense reaction) that she was sexually violated by an intact man. I know someone who had a very horrible reaction to circumcised penises because of some very violent incent by her circumcised father. She told me once that she felt "safe" with her husband because he was a "turtleneck guy." Now, I don't think that would be an acceptable reason for what she did to her son, not saying that - there just may be more to the story.
post #19 of 37
I don't know.

While I was in nursing school you should have heard some of the conversations that went on about the intact men that some of my classmates had as patients during clinicals.

They had some very vile things to say about intact men. I think it is cultural to a great extent.
post #20 of 37
Well, she does not know what she is missing
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