Needing a little support

[sunnymw]

Hi!! I'm new to this board and this forum altogether... but I wish i would have found it MONTHS ago...


DS is 4 1/2 months old and we've been doing "occasional EC" with him... I take him in the morning, and every few days we have a nekkid day.

Well, I think DH is a little frustrated about it and thinks it's too much work, becase the other day DS and DH were napping together, and when DS woke up, he immediately pooped on DH!! He usually only goes first thing in the AM, but he has just had shots/rotateq (DH won't let me not vax) and was feverish and fussy.

Otherwise, we've had one totally dry naked night, and one night where I had to change the towel 3x... I usually get peed on once or twice a day if we're doing it during the day, and no one wants to hold him when we're ECing.

Some days I just feel like, whatever, I should just order the cloth diapers I want and just do that (I have a very conservative family, and they'd already think me nuts for THAT). But I REALLY REALLY want to avoid the drama that goes with potty training (watching a nephew going through the bowel withholding thing right now... ack!).

Please please tell me this is worth it!!! I want to do it with all my heart but it's so freakin' hard sometimes! I feel like it's two steps forward, one BIG step back, all the time. And I have pretty much ZERO support...

Sorry to complain... I just need some OOMPH from REAL people who are doing the same thing I am!

[sunnymw]

sorry forgot to subscribe!

[rumi]

4.5 mo is a great time to start. and spring is coming, nakey time shoudl be getting easier ... babywearing is nice for ec too -- for us it was often a nice transition. out of the sling, onto the potty. and fidgeting in the sling is a major ec cue.

maybe others with skeptical dhs will jump in. mine loved ec from the start.

but you can get your cds - ec & cd are a great combination. the lighter the cds the better.

[cmg]

Originally Posted by sunnymw

Well, I think DH is a little frustrated about it and thinks it's too much work, becase the other day DS and DH were napping together, and when DS woke up, he immediately pooped on DH!!

I think it's a little easier for (most) dads to back into this on their own. My dh was very skeptical at first, but now pees the baby with great abandon (and takes being peed on with aplomb). But I never insisted he take dd without a diaper - I started with putting the diaper on before handing the baby over, then letting dh put the diaper on, then the next thing I know, he's carrying her around sans diaper and has peed her several times w/o telling me .

I highly recommend something like pre-folds with an elastic belt. You'll know the instant they go, but it saves on the furniture, and is quick and easy to get on and off.