Ok. wanting to try again... need some help, support

[Incubator]

OK. DS and I have done the EC thing for a couple of weeks once. I would take him to the sink, fill it with warm water and sit him on the edge with his feet in it, and he'd go, most of the time. But after that couple of weeks, I'd take him and do the same thing, but he wouldn't go anymore. I really want to do this. Can someone give me step-by-step, just tell me what to do? How often should I take him? Is it worth investing in a baby bjorn little potty, since I don't like holding him over the toilet, he just gets distracted. When did your child learn to sign "potty"? or anything else for that matter. DS is nearly 10 months old, and just started waving "bye bye" but he really just kind of flaps his arm, and doesn't do it all the time, I don't think he completely gets it yet. ANy advice?

[granolalight]

I would take him at the times when you can count on him going, like after a nap, or shortly after nursing. If he wakes up dry, he probably has to go, right? Can you try outside? Do you make a cuing noise, like "ssss"? I like the BBLP, but it is small. My DS is only 3 months old and I have to kinda hold him back so his genitals don't smoosh against the front of it. But he likes it, a lot.

Maybe some other mamas can chime in with advice for older babies. Mine doesn't move around so much and doesn't get distracted.

Good luck!

[Valian]

If he didn't go in the sink, when did he go? A few minutes later in a diaper? An hour later? Sounds like maybe your timing was off.

Ds is almost 1 yo (only 10.5 mo adjusted tho) and he no longer needs to pee at times he used to (i.e. not after nursing any more, after naps but not immediately, etc). He also *always* pees while eating in the high chair. He just needs to pee a lot less often, so we were making him angry by offering too much.

Do you do naked time? We don't but it sounds like 1-2 days of that might help you at least figure out his frequency if not also timing. Until very recently I could always see when Ds needed to pee because his penis looked different. No he can hold it better its not always so obvious.

You can try a little potty. Ds likes his big toilet seat insert and I like not having to clean out a potty bowl. We also don't have to worry about him not sitting still because we hold him for most pees still.

ETA: Ds signals with the ASL "T" but very subtle so if you're not looking you'll miss it. He's signed off and on for months but nothing consistent. If he's not wearing a diaper he fusses more to alert us but again, not everytime.

[Incubator]

We use the "Ssss" cuing noise, along with the sign, and saying "Potty. Do you need to potty?" I can usually see that his penis is fuller and that's a good sign. When he stopped pottying at the sink, I'd leave him naked for awhile, he'd usually go just a few minutes later, on the floor, and we'd make the "sssss" noise to let him know what was happening. I really want a potty he can sit on himself, that is familiar, and easy to take with us when we go out, so that we can be consistent with using the potty. I feel like DS is so behind. He barely waves, Let alone using any signs for anything.

[orangefoot]

Originally Posted by Incubator

I feel like DS is so behind. He barely waves, Let alone using any signs for anything.

Oh mama he's only little still! Find a 3 year old and put them next to each other so you can see how young he is.

I agree that it would be easier to catch the 'sure' wees like on waking then leave him nakey and see what happens. Try offering in different places or letting him stand to wee maybe. Do get a potty; my dd will crawl to her potty as a sign that she wants to use it - actually its an unreliable sign but about 2 out of 3 times she does want to wee

Try not to stress about it, you are doing great just by thinking about how you can help him do this.

[Incubator]

There is a 2 y/o, a 3 y/o and a 5 y/o in this house too. But compared to them, I think he's doing great! It just seems that other 10 month olds are learning to sign and wave and stuff. and he doesn't.
okay, back OT i'm getting a potty.