Weight gain depression...

[mamadelbosque]

So, I've been getting more and more bummed out everytime I goto the doctor - I just keep gaining weight! I now weigh like 194 lbs, which is absolutely ridiculus, I know. But I don't know what to do about it... I've been put on "limited activity"/bedrest for the past month (due to low afi level - 6.5, 11.4, 8.8 and now 10.24), and during that time have gained nearly 20 lbs. Its soo depressing! I feel horrible for having gained so much weight, but just really don't know what to do about it. Before I thought I'd gained a bit much (around 40 lbs before bedrest), but was OK with it - but it just keeps going up and up and up. I don't feel like I'm eating too much - just enough so that I'm full and not hungry, you know.. And I feel like I'm generally eating pretty good - certainly much better than I used to. Not a lot of proccessed foods, as I cook almost every night (occasionally DH cooks or we're just not home ie after birthing classes on sat nights). I eat lots of vegetables, and have been snacking on clementines, grapefruit and bannanas - and the occasional strawberry/bannana yogurt smoothy.

Anyhow, I just don't know. I started this pregnancy out feeling great about my body, as I weighed just 130-135 lbs. I felt great - during the previous 9 months I'd dropped from 155-160 (which is what I'd averaged for the past 4 years), to that while living in spain, and now I've gained every last bit of it back, twice over! I just feel soo sick about it. I just want to have this baby so I can start dieting/exersizing and not feel bad about it. I'm very worried that I'm not going to loose hardly any of it and be overweight/obese for years to come. Which is just absolutely terrifying...

[veggijessie]

I know how terrifing it can be to gain a bunch of weight during pg. With DD I went from 150 to 330 (180 lbs GAINED). I started happy about my weight then I wanted to die. I was on bed rest for 3 months and had an OBGYN that did not know a thing about health! Within a year (6months healing from a botched c-sec) I had lost 150 lbs!

You will be able to loose the weight! Just set your mind to it and you can do it! Don't be hard on yourself. Wait until the baby is out and you have recovered then do what you know is right!

[momof4peppers]

I've started not looking at the scale when I'm at the doctors office, and asking the nurse/doc to NOT tell me what my weight is. It was just stressing me out so much - especially since I've been going to the gym WAY WAY WAY more than I ever have before. Like cardio 30-60 minutes a day 3-6 days a week, lifting weights 1-3 days a week, yoga, etc. And still gaining an incredible amount of weight. Once I put away the scale in my bathroom, and quit looking at my appointments I've been much happier. And I swear if my mother says to me one more time "9 months out of shape, 9 months back in!" in her cheery-fake voice i swear I'm going to puke!

You're not alone. We'll get through it!

[yogamommy]

I'm in the April 07 ddc, but had to respond to your title!

Our edd is April 2 and we have an annual family vacation to Hawaii May 12! One month to look 'decent' in a bathing suit! And I totally broke down in the mall a couple of weeks ago when I saw all the skinny teenagers...not knowing if I will be able to return to my pre-preg size is an added stress I don't want anymore!

I feel ya!

[tofutti]

...and i am in the MAY ddc and girl i can relate!! i was "chubby" to start with and now i am just so scared of myself. the gym was my saving grace in life until........

i had to temporarily suspend my gym membership cause everything i did was giving me contractions

so i set up a mini gym in my living room w/an exercise ball, some 8 lb hand weights and a mat. i figure i have little control over my weight gain BUT at the very least i can have some super buff arms that's the plan.

sitting on the exercise ball and working my arms is a small way to feel better about things. and the next day muscle soreness is so wonderful too. i also got a book called "expecting fitness" which even has stuff people on bed rest can do.

deb

[mamadelbosque]

Hey, thanks soo much for the encouragment. I just feel so awful about all the weight I've gained - DH doesn't seem too concerned about it, which is nice at least. He's totally on board to help me get back in shape was DS is born, so thats good - and I know he knows how important it is/will be for me.

On a side note, I'm having some little contractions atm (DH doesn't know yet, I'm waiting to see if they continue...)

[Mizelenius]

WOO HOO on those contractions!

[amyb15]

You will gain a lot from pg, but you will lose it again later. It's just a tough time that your body goes through, but stay strong. You're still beautiful

[sparkprincess]

I can relate!! I've gained 44lbs and I'm at 36 weeks as of tomorrow. It's really hard. And, like you, I don't eat badly! I have learned that it seems to run in the family. My mom and sister both gained 35lbs+. Also, for me personally, I tend to retain a good bit of water. So my face looks terrible. Yeah, fun stuff.

I just keep reminding myself that I will lose the weight after baby comes - I did it before and I'll do it again, and I bet you will too, considering your pre-baby weight loss. Hang in there!!