i think this is a great thread. i have thought a lot about this recently, because i am absolutely horrible at cleaning and straightening. here's what i've come up with:
1. perfectionism - ironically, it's my perfectionism that has paralyzed me a great deal. if i can't do it ALL right now and have it be PERFECT, i get discouraged and don't do it at all. i know how ridiculous that sounds, but this mentality really does stop me dead in my tracks. i have lofty goals, the vision of perfection in my head and the reality sets in that it isn't attainable in the foreseeable future, so i think "screw it".
2. problems with categorizing: i have the opposite problem of what many here have mentioned. i don't categorize well. junk drawers are like mini-torture chambers for me. if i look at one too long i get sucked into a depressed abyss that takes me a while to come out of. if i see things together that are miscellaneous it is virtually impossible for me to figure out, in the moment, where things go. i don't know why but it's like my brain shuts off and i can't process that we have a place for batteries, a place for nail clippers, a place for puzzles pieces, shoe polish, markers, etc...god even writing that list freaks me out a little.
: it's so so SO hard for me to categorize things like that in the moment and i get paralyzed and overwhelmed
3. too much stuff. pretty self-explanatory. waay too much stuff. WHY do we have the stuff?? well, i've got hoarding tendencies. nothing scary, but i do tend to hold onto things for bizarre sentimental reasons. if i can think of a memory attached to an item (any item, really), i will keep it. the paradox is that having SO many "memories" in the house makes it impossible for me to adequately display or protect any of them, so it defeats the purpose entirely. a friend of mine told me the other day to store something in my kids' memory box. i thought to myself "my god, my HOUSE is their memory box. that's not good." LOL
4. lack of knowledge - i don't really know *how* to do a lot of the stuff i need to do. i don't mean i literally don't know how to mop a floor, but i don't know how to create a routine for cleaning or a process. my mother is the supreme organizer of the universe. which basically meant that i never had to do anything. well, i did help out but i never had to *own* it, kwim? she was so great at it i just sort of followed her around and helped but never learned how to implement her system.
5. laziness/fatigue. i have 2 kids (4 & 1) and i'm also horribly out of shape. HORRIBLY out of shape. i barely have the energy to play with my kids let alone something on TOP of that. i also have a horribly bad back, which prevents me from doing a lot of things. BUT - the biggest problem with this one is that i often use it exclusively to explain my issues. the fatigue, not the laziness. LOL! i COULD do more than i do, but don't. i could do more laundry but i don't. sometimes i forget (oh HA! that's another one - forgetfulness. and yeah, i forgot to include that one. LOL) but most of the time i am just tired, feeling run down, too damn lazy to get off my butt and do something other than surf the net and post about how lazy i am.
so what am i gonna do about it?
i've downloaded the motivated moms calendar and will start using it tomorrow. good lord that list has things on it that i've NEVER done. LOL!! i am also joining a gym so that i can incorporate exercise into my weekly routine - i am hoping that will jumpstart my body into having more energy overall.
i have to cut this short (lol short you say?? why yes, i had more to say) bc i have to eat dinner.
thanks for starting this thread, OP.