I haven't read this entire thread (a lot of it though). I think it brings up a lot of questions about the role of a family doctor. I've spent a long time avoiding doctors for what I consider to be very good reasons. In the last year or so we've started taking the kids to the doctor again, as far as I can tell, to waste our time, as well as our money and to totally frustrate me...but that's another story...kind of.
At some point in our culture doctors got labeled as "absolute expert on everything". What exactly about medical school makes qualifies you as a child rearing expert, I'm not sure, but hey, they are the experts and I'm sure they know why.
This also seems to be a new trend. I personally don't remember things always being this way. Now when I take my kids to the doctor I feel like I'm paying someone to pry into our private life, without even so much as consulting me first, and investigate our family, so that we can get his seal of approval that we are, I don't even know what? Allowed to go on living? To continue parenting our children?? I really find it offensive. And I have to pay
to get this kind of treatment??
I have to respectfully disagree with the posters who have said that it is a doctor's place. I don't know this man from Adam. For all I know he could be a child molester. I don't know if he has kids at all. How is he suddenly the expert on my
kids. Why should he be the one who gets to decide how and when they learn about things and what's appropriate for them?
Anyone who knows anything about homeopathy knows that everything about a person, including moods, likes, dislikes, etc, goes into choosing a remedy. Yet, my homeopath can find the information she needs without being offensive. The ped is basically trying to find incriminating information on us and/or making sure we are not totally stupid, not trying to get an over-all view of the child's whole self in order to help him/her.
I'm to the point where I will go to the doctor on my own terms for the diagnostics that I deem appropriate or for things like broken arms that need to be set and not much else. I really don't need someone to tell me (as an intelligent grown woman) that my baby shouldn't play with electrical cords and small objects. I don't need someone else imposing their moral and philosophical views on us. Nor do I need someone I don't know to teach my young children sex ed, or stranger danger, or the junk to eat that passes for nutrition these days. If I needed that I could send my kids to school and get it for free!