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If you have an SO, do you and your SO deal with ttc differently?

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My SO and I have very different ways of coping with emotions in general in life, and these days with the tttc (we're not ttc right now) rollercoaster.

I don't have too many friends where I live yet (we just moved here last August), especially friends around our same age, so I don't feel like I have others to share my unique tttc experience with. Do others have this same dilemma? And if so, how do you deal? It's not a huge problem for me, but it does weigh on me every once-in-a-while.

Sierra
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Sierra, hmmm. I had to think about this for a while. My dh is very, very sensible about most everything, even TTC. He understands that I am more "emotional" about the process, and he tries to shield me from this (such as trying to stop me testing, trying to keep my hopes down etc). Most of the time he is like a rock and his style complements mine very well. I have found that him, together with the support of the people on this board, really makes the whole process easier for me.

So, no. I don't get all the support I need from my husband. I too am not telling friends or family. The pressure is too high and I find it too stressful. I like to keep things to myself most of the time, so this is not a big deal. Also, most of them live so far away, it is easy for it not to come up.

If you feel that you would like friends to talk about it with (apart from us of course, where you are always welcome to chat ttc) maybe you could explore a parenting/ mothering group in your area. Or you could try emailing an old friend, even if they are not nearby.

It can be a pretty emotional time and it's great to have some different kinds of support, depending on your journey. I guess this goes for everything, not just TTC.

and good luck!
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I thought I was going to go crazy when we were ttc#1. DH really helped me keep my sanity, but we ended up going to counseling anyway. His philosophy was that it will happen when it's time. Well, it took 19 cycles and us buying a house for it to finally be time. This is our second cycle ttc#2. Hopefully this one will be a little easier than last, but if not, then I know that I have his support and a shoulder to cry on.
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