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post #41 of 114
3/10/07 at 3:21am
You're doing good. Don't just sit and reflect on the negative stuff. Stress will not help labor come at all. Relax and enjoy these last moments with your baby still inside you. It will come when the time is right.
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post #42 of 114
3/11/07 at 10:03am
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Still no baby yet...very frustrated because although I would like to "nest" and do a bunch of stuff while I wait, I find at this point it is physically impossible. I don't want to overdue things and then go into labor so exhausted that is prolongs it even more...Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr... I am also just ready to meet this baby...getting tired of only being able to rub the little rump sticking out...just want to kiss this baby's face!

Edd 02.22.07....
post #43 of 114
3/11/07 at 10:51am
I'm with you there, but not as far over as you are, bless your heart. Have been thinking of you, though.

Good luck!
post #44 of 114
3/11/07 at 10:52am
wishing you a beautiful birth! Hang in there mama.
post #45 of 114
3/11/07 at 10:54am
Wow that baby sure is very comfy in there
sending lots of labour dust your way
************labour dust***********
post #46 of 114
3/11/07 at 1:22pm
What a great mom you are! Most moms would have been induced weeks ago, and you are being so patient and letting that baby take all the time s/he needs in there! I hope you don't have much longer to wait, just wanted to say wow! Good job! Wishing you a beautiful birth any minute now.
post #47 of 114
3/11/07 at 1:39pm
Oh! Tons of coming your way! I only went 4 days past my EDD and yet I was ready to pull my hair out. Nothing worse than feeling really DONE before your baby. I applaude you for waiting for your baby and body to decide when the time is right. God picks wonderful birthdays!
post #48 of 114
3/12/07 at 1:19am
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I am still trying to be patient and wait on this baby, but as the 3 week overdue mark approaches I am getting more anxious. In my mind, right now, my options are to call a mid-wife and try having my membranes stripped; try castor oil; or use and enema.

I have done the walking...tried the sex...nipple stim...accupressure points...

Last night my "system" cleaned itself out and I though surely it would bring on labor. However, all I have is increased pressure as this babies weighs down on me.

The only thing I am worried about is stressing the baby with castor oil or other herbal inductions. I do not want this baby passing meconium because I have caused more severe contractions than normal.

So, for anyone who has gone this long...what was your next step?
post #49 of 114
3/12/07 at 2:56am
I went a little past 43 weeks with my daughter, 13 years ago. That was the point that I consented to/begged for induction. Mistake! Horrible birth, wish I'd never done it, and that's a large part of what keeps me from doing anything to rush this baby. If it makes you feel any better, she didn't have any signs of postmaturity symdrome and just looked like a healthy, well-cooked baby.

Wish I could help you out, really.
post #50 of 114
3/12/07 at 3:36am
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Turkish Kate: I went 3 weeks over with my DS#2. However, I was under prenatal care so I had the usual NST and ultrasounds at the end to check on things. This time I am UP/UC, so maybe that is why I am getting more nervous? My DS did not look post date at all, but was born blue. Not sure if the lateness had anything to do with it...he was 10lbs/22".

That is the dilemna I am facing. At this point I think an induction would do more harm then good, and I am one of those who would have to be facing life or death for either myself or the baby to consent to a c-section. I feel a bit "stuck"...I have gone this far so I need to see it through. I am wondering now if I should have rented a doppler to ease my mind? I know it would take a couple of days to get one shipped at this point and I certainly hope in that time I will have had the baby.

Glad to read that you are feeling better yourself. Hopefully it is not much longer for either one of us!
post #51 of 114
3/12/07 at 9:20am
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Turkish Kate: I went 3 weeks over with my DS#2. However, I was under prenatal care so I had the usual NST and ultrasounds at the end to check on things. This time I am UP/UC, so maybe that is why I am getting more nervous? My DS did not look post date at all, but was born blue. Not sure if the lateness had anything to do with it...he was 10lbs/22".

That is the dilemna I am facing. At this point I think an induction would do more harm then good, and I am one of those who would have to be facing life or death for either myself or the baby to consent to a c-section. I feel a bit "stuck"...I have gone this far so I need to see it through. I am wondering now if I should have rented a doppler to ease my mind? I know it would take a couple of days to get one shipped at this point and I certainly hope in that time I will have had the baby.

Glad to read that you are feeling better yourself. Hopefully it is not much longer for either one of us!
That sounds very likely to me. I think we get more vulnrable to the "neededness" of tests near the end. I don't know much about NSTs and post dates stuff always confused me. . . How do you think your baby and body are doing?
post #52 of 114
3/12/07 at 9:41am
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Originally Posted by 3under3 View Post
I am still trying to be patient and wait on this baby, but as the 3 week overdue mark approaches I am getting more anxious. In my mind, right now, my options are to call a mid-wife and try having my membranes stripped; try castor oil; or use and enema.

I have done the walking...tried the sex...nipple stim...accupressure points...

Last night my "system" cleaned itself out and I though surely it would bring on labor. However, all I have is increased pressure as this babies weighs down on me.

The only thing I am worried about is stressing the baby with castor oil or other herbal inductions. I do not want this baby passing meconium because I have caused more severe contractions than normal.

So, for anyone who has gone this long...what was your next step?
I "feel" fine...or as fine as one can feel at this point in pregnancy. I do have the swelling, numbness, heatburn, bachache, blah, blah. blah but I can deal with that. I do feel more "nervous" about the baby, and find myself frequently waking it throughout the day, just to get a roll or kick. Things have slowed down as far as movements go, but that could also be due to the lack of room?

Anyone suggest a next step...see my post from above. Not even sure if a midwife would see me at this point since I am past the 42 week mark...they may refer me directly to an ob.
post #53 of 114
3/12/07 at 9:53am
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Originally Posted by 3under3 View Post
I am still trying to be patient and wait on this baby, but as the 3 week overdue mark approaches I am getting more anxious. In my mind, right now, my options are to call a mid-wife and try having my membranes stripped; try castor oil; or use and enema.

I have done the walking...tried the sex...nipple stim...accupressure points...

Last night my "system" cleaned itself out and I though surely it would bring on labor. However, all I have is increased pressure as this babies weighs down on me.

The only thing I am worried about is stressing the baby with castor oil or other herbal inductions. I do not want this baby passing meconium because I have caused more severe contractions than normal.

So, for anyone who has gone this long...what was your next step?
I haven't gone this long, but I too would worry about castor oil and herbs. Cleaned out bowels that results in increased pressure is a good start. I wouldn't think an enema or castor oil would be needed if your bowels emptied themselves.

I see what you've tried. Have you tried rest? Is that even possible for you at this point? Can you create a quiet space for yourself and withdraw from the world for a little while? Do you have anyone that can take your children for a while so you *can* withdraw? Would you be comfortable with that? Retorical: What mental tools do you use to relax? Have you used them? More retoricals: Did you orgasm with the sex? If no, can you for yourself?

I don't know if your MW would see you at this point, but if it's something you want to do you can always ask. I do tend to be drawn toward striping of membranes for induction--but there's a lot of people who don't think it's a good idea.
Is your baby in a good position? Thats one concern of mine with any sort of induction.
post #54 of 114
3/12/07 at 9:58am
Ah, 3under3, I see your point with the NSTs and whatnot providing some measure of reassurance. I don't remember having either one with DD, but it was a long time ago.

If you find the magic trick to get late babies out, would you share it with me?
post #55 of 114
3/12/07 at 11:16am
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Originally Posted by 3under3 View Post
I am still trying to be patient and wait on this baby, but as the 3 week overdue mark approaches I am getting more anxious. In my mind, right now, my options are to call a mid-wife and try having my membranes stripped; try castor oil; or use and enema.

I have done the walking...tried the sex...nipple stim...accupressure points...

Last night my "system" cleaned itself out and I though surely it would bring on labor. However, all I have is increased pressure as this babies weighs down on me.

The only thing I am worried about is stressing the baby with castor oil or other herbal inductions. I do not want this baby passing meconium because I have caused more severe contractions than normal.

So, for anyone who has gone this long...what was your next step?
Just rest mama. Do any projects or reading that lets you sit back and put your feet up and take your mind off of "when will labor start". Rest and connect with your babe. I know I'm being redudant and sound obvious, but it really is the best advice I can pass along. Don't wear your self out by overdoing it with walking (If you feel like walking and have energy then go ahead, then rest after that LOL) Stay hydrated too, ok?

I'd be worried about stressing the baby w/ any type of induction as well and am very leary of them and have read a UC story or three where things didn't go too well after a "natural" induction. Nipple stim and sex is ok...but herbs I don't like.
post #56 of 114
3/12/07 at 7:50pm
Hi! Just saw this thread, and read your posts from the beginning, 3under3. One thing that strikes me, is you mention in almost every post that you are a little concerned because your previous child was born blue and had a slower start...I wonder if that could be holding you back?

With dd2, who was a mw/hb, I had a lot of anxiety stress around her birth because I was going through a divorce and my ex had just been to town, uggh. Finally at 41w6d I took castor oil (mw could only go a couple more days here in florida), and my body just took over! I think I needed to signal my body that I was giving it permission to get going, if that makes any sense. You know, like Ina May says about getting those emotions/thoughts out so your mind is free to let your body do its work?

Just some thoughts! It's tough, I haven't hung on as long as you (although this time I'm not budging no matter what, this babe is truly going to come when he/she wants!), but I do remember it being really difficult. Hopefully we'll see a post about a quick and easy labor soon!
post #57 of 114
3/13/07 at 10:34am
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Still here...still pregnant.

I did rest yesterday quite a bit which was nice.

Today I am thinking of castor oil or other options, but just can't bring myself to try it yet. My DH and I are trying to decide when it is time to go "check" things out and have an ultrasound done. Honestly, he will have to make the phone calls, because I dont really want to have a discussion over the phone about my whole situation.

Nothing feels differently today...would be nice to have things just happen without notice though!
post #58 of 114
3/13/07 at 10:51am
I wish birthlove.com was still around. There were quite a few amazing ten-month-mama stories with people going 43, 44, 46 weeks and having healthy babies/no problems. I believe Leilah herself had a baby at 46 weeks, she said she had always been a slow cooker and so had her mother before her. If I were in your shoes (and I totally get the "I'm done" feeling, this happened to me w/ #4 though I only went to 41w4days) I guess it would be helping me to hear about other mamas being "way over" due and coming through ok.
post #59 of 114
3/13/07 at 10:59am
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Jesse- Thank you...I guess it is so rare to hear "successfull" stories of women after 43 weeks that starts to worry me. My other two UC's were overseas, and I honestly felt more comfortable than I do back here in the US. Maybe it was because I knew without a doubt the safest environment for me was home and not the available hospitals. However, back in the US now, I do have to say all the constant bombardment about the "risks" of pregnancy and childbirth, the lousy birth stories, etc can start to really erode your confidence.
I still feel the best place for me and my baby are at home...somehow not having oceans seperating me from "prying eyes" seems to put more emphasis on the "what if" aspects of UC. I do have a rather supportive family...even those who disagree with our choices manage to keep most of their opinions to themselves.
post #60 of 114
3/13/07 at 1:49pm
Oh mama we are here too. I think about you all the time and am sending lots of great birth vibes. If this helps I was 15 days and I did all the tricks my mw recommended which started me on the slowest labor ever and she kept citing all the scary crap about post due babies and guess what! When he came out...which ended up being 19 days past my dd she said hmmmm...he actually shows signs of being born early.

Well, that is all I need to let me plan on at LEAST 43 weeks!

Jeannine Parvati Baker who was a huge supporter/educator about UC always spoke about how in other countries it was normal to hear of 10 month pregnancies.

Have you charted your pregnancy by your moon cycles by any chance. I know I used to bleed with the new moon and ovulate with the full and a pregnancy is usually 10 fertility cycles vs. 9 months on a gregorian calender, kwim?

I think no matter what...the fact that you feel good is a good sign. I wonder if the more you let go of the 43 week thing the more you could relax into labor.

All my support!
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