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post #21 of 49
Welcome and congrats....
A few years ago a very good friend of mine, after many years of infertility got pregnant and had a great home birth at 50 !!!
She had previously adopted two girls...and then...SURPRISE.
She was in great shape and had a beautiful baby girl.
Carla
post #22 of 49
Hi and welcome!
I'm in West Texas these days, and am hoping to get pregnant again (I'm almost 40). Congrats!
post #23 of 49
Welcome! I had my first (& only) at 42 & 3/4.
post #24 of 49
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Hi there! Yes... my notoriety must be spreading... are you a UU or a neighbor of my friend Gill. Just a couple of guesses...
I'm a UU. I'm in the playgroup. Maybe you'll join us soon. Are you a church member (or friend)?
post #25 of 49
Welcome! You give me hope.

I am 42 and hop to resume TTC after things settle down with my troubled teenaged son.

I know that my time is running out, if it has not already; the decision to take a break was not my own, but the stress appears to have temporarily suppressed ovulation.

It is so exciting to hear about your pleasant surprise and your preparations for the new little blessing. Please, please hop over to the TTC Over 40 thread so that we can spoil you a bit.
post #26 of 49
Welcome to the Wise Mothers Club! I had my first when I was 21, and my second 17 years later. At 43, I am a much cooler, calmer momma than most. I love having no sense of ever facing an empty nest and honestly think that nursing into my mid-40's should long postpone menopause. The worst thing was having every birth person say... Well, at your age... I actually told my midwife to put it in my chart not to remind me of my age, I had not forgotten. In my mommas group there are a few moms that are young enough to be my daughter and I love that. I would love to have one more but really, I should have started saving for retirement because it ain't going to happen now. Good luck and welcome.
post #27 of 49
Welcome to Mothering and congrats on your pregnancy! Very exciting...

I'm the opposite of you, in a way - I'm American, but live in the UK (Scotland). Dh is British, which is why we're over here. What brought you and your husband to America?

Nice to 'meet' you and very glad you found MDC!
post #28 of 49
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I'm a UU. I'm in the playgroup. Maybe you'll join us soon. Are you a church member (or friend)?
Friend since August 2002 IIRC, I would love to come to the playgroup, maybe before the birth as I would love to find out more about cloth diapering. I have not been to church much in the past year as I found the ambiance somewhat toxic. I do miss it though - I went on "Gorilla Sunday" and would like to hear the new Revd's services. (Hope I haven't said too much!) One has to have some kind of antidote for living in such a place as our town... could we say Stepford?

Come and say hi to me when I'm next there - it's obvious who I am....
post #29 of 49
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Welcome and congrats....
A few years ago a very good friend of mine, after many years of infertility got pregnant and had a great home birth at 50 !!!

Carla
Thanks for sharing this - it makes me feel less like a freak of nature.

On Saturday for the first time I experienced what I knew was inevitable: I was buying maternity clothes and at the checkout desk the assistant, who was about my age, said, "Are these for your daughter?" "No," I said, stepping back to reveal an obviously pregnant tummy, "They're for me". The poor woman was so embarrassed, and so was I.
post #30 of 49
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Welcome to Mothering and congrats on your pregnancy! Very exciting...

I'm the opposite of you, in a way - I'm American, but live in the UK (Scotland). Dh is British, which is why we're over here. What brought you and your husband to America?

Nice to 'meet' you and very glad you found MDC!
Thank you.

DH's work brought us over to TX, we came in 1998. Before that we relocated from the UK to Germany and the Netherlands. We are both Brits. I have had maternity care in all 4 countries now and there are many cultural differences (although my experiences are very individual and cannot possibly be representative of a whole country!). Depending on where you're from in the States you must have found it hard/very hard to adjust to Scotland. Good luck!
post #31 of 49
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Welcome to the Wise Mothers Club! I had my first when I was 21, and my second 17 years later... Good luck and welcome.
Thank you.

I'm curious about the large gap between your births, 17 years is a long time. I shall have 14 years from my last birth to this one. In what way do you think it affected you, physically, emotionally? Were the pregnancies very different? Were your attitudes the same 17 years ago as they are now?

How wonderful to be thought of as a "Wise Mother".
post #32 of 49
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Welcome! You give me hope.

I am 42 and hop to resume TTC after things settle down with my troubled teenaged son.

I know that my time is running out, if it has not already; the decision to take a break was not my own, but the stress appears to have temporarily suppressed ovulation.

It is so exciting to hear about your pleasant surprise and your preparations for the new little blessing. Please, please hop over to the TTC Over 40 thread so that we can spoil you a bit.

Thank you for your welcome. Sorry to hear about your stress, I'm sure it does affect the ability to conceive. I didn't realize there was a board for TTC over 40. If I'm honest I was in the camp TnotTC, so you might all hate me over there . Mother nature is a curious thing - we don't always get what we hope for or what we expect.
post #33 of 49

Another who.....

would love to have you jump over to the ttc over 40 thread. It is under fertility then trying to conceive.

Many who frequent that thread would love to hear your encouraging story.

Happy Pregnancy and Birthing!

bjunkie
post #34 of 49
and congratulations on your pregnancy
post #35 of 49
congratulations on your pregnancy! My mom did not hit menopause until nearly fifty, and I know the possibility exists that I will have extended fertility. I am excited for you. I hope you do not have more instances where you are embarassed about being pregnant. Every baby is a miracle!
post #36 of 49
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Thank you.

I'm curious about the large gap between your births, 17 years is a long time. I shall have 14 years from my last birth to this one. In what way do you think it affected you, physically, emotionally? Were the pregnancies very different? Were your attitudes the same 17 years ago as they are now?

How wonderful to be thought of as a "Wise Mother".
Yeah- 17 years was a lifetime... I was single the first time and it took me a long time to find the right daddy. As for the birth experience, amazingly similar... I had a rough c-sect with Nate and then with lots of work, a doula and midwife- a rough c-sect with Joey. Both late, both over 10 lbs, failure to dialate. I successfully VBA2C with Zach with is another amazing story. Boy- getting someone to take on my birth plan "at my age" was rough and then after the birth they admitted they didn't really think I could do it. Ha! I would easily birth again "at my age" except for finances. And I am emotionally a much better mom at this age. I think about how much I resented the lack of sleep and time to myself the first time. No problem now. I also can see how fast they grow up and really savor every moment with them. I am in no hurry to have them grown.
post #37 of 49
My dh would cry if he saw me reading this thread!

Congratulations!!
post #38 of 49
UUMom

Congratulations and welcome!!
post #39 of 49
Yeah - Scotland was a bit of an adjustment at first! But I've been here for 12 years now, so it just feels like home now...

Have you been in Texas the whole time you've been in the States? Now that would be a REAL adjustment...UK to the Continent to Texas! I can't quite imagine (I was actually born in Texas, but never really lived there - we moved around a lot when I was a child, so I'm used to living all over).
post #40 of 49
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Have you been in Texas the whole time you've been in the States? Now that would be a REAL adjustment...UK to the Continent to Texas! I can't quite imagine ...
Yep, been in TX the whole time. Before we moved here we were living in NL and a good friend of mine, an American from NY State, laughed like a drain when I told her where we were going. Of course, I didn't get it - I do now... but in lots of ways I like TX. It's like everywhere... there's good and bad things about it.
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